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To really resent doing party bags for my dc's bday parties??

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justkeeponsmiling Mon 05-Aug-13 09:10:53

It annoys the hell out of me!
This week we are having a bday party for 4yo DS and 8yo DD (bad planning from us a few years back, I know!)
Money is tight and we are already hiring a bouncy castle, feeding the party guests and entertaining them with games, etc. for 2-3 hours. And feeding the parents of the 4yo guests as well, if last year is anything to go by, as they all decided to stay and tuck into the buffet...
I don't mind any of that, but I really resent the custom of then having to present the guests with presents in the form of party bags for even turning up!
Maybe it's because I'm not from this country and I know that in my home country the concept of party bags simply doesn't exist (at least it didn't years ago...maybe that's changed now though?!)
Or maybe I'm just a miserable so and so... hmmm [hmmm]

mumofoneandonebakingnicely Fri 09-Aug-13 11:27:52

naturalBaby it was a lot of work to say the least but where possible I pre made things in advance, things like the indian snacks were frozen and just defrosted the night before.

Sure thing Caboodle

I will have to do it all over again in April for our sons 2nd birthday and then in the November for our Daughters first birthday. I still have my DP birthday to cater in October (six weeks before our daughter is due). xx

Caboodle Thu 08-Aug-13 23:45:55

Er....can we come to one of your parties mumofone? grin

NaturalBaby Thu 08-Aug-13 23:23:34

mumofone how the heck did you home make all of that?? You could set up a business preparing all of that for other people.

mumofoneandonebakingnicely Thu 08-Aug-13 17:26:15

No joke Catsize smile. It was a serious panic to say the least BeCool. Needles to say there was loads of food left over. xxx

BeCool Thu 08-Aug-13 15:02:51

that's some panic mumofone grin

mumofoneandonebakingnicely Thu 08-Aug-13 14:58:00

I know I panicked Oblomov. I wanted to make sure there was enough food. I've been to people's homes & needed to make something when we arrived home.


Oblomov Wed 07-Aug-13 16:59:22

shock at MumOfOne !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

doublemuvver Wed 07-Aug-13 10:00:53

At my kids' parties I've put a note on the invite stating there will be no party bags and I will give a donation to the local hospital's neo natal ward instead. Kids do get a bit of cake though so don't leave empty handed!

melrose Wed 07-Aug-13 09:53:25

I have always just done a single item and a couple of sweets always around £1 each. Have done:
- books, various (split book people sets, totally disagree with poster above, have done elmer and themed party around it, and can't believe everyone already has them all!)
- frisbees
- water pistols (reduced in muli sets in tesco)
- cups
- drinks bottles
- baseball caps (England flag, football party!)

All far more useful then plastic cramp and well received

buggyRunner Wed 07-Aug-13 09:47:03

I didn't do them but did a lucky dip with toys from the £1 store the kids loved it!

exoticfruits Wed 07-Aug-13 08:53:33

I don't see the problem- just don't do them.

AnneEyhtMeyer Wed 07-Aug-13 08:51:13

Although probably done with the best intentions, the splitting up of Book People sets is generally a waste of time because the children already have all these books. And because they have become so ubiquitous you can't regift them as everyone has them already.

Catsize Wed 07-Aug-13 08:49:26

mumofone, I really hope that was a joke!

Coconutty Wed 07-Aug-13 08:42:13

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

AngelsWithSilverWings Wed 07-Aug-13 08:36:33

I'm with you on party bags but mainly because they are always full of plastic rubbish that gets thrown on the floor of my car while the kids desperately try and get to the sweets on the way home from the party.

I made my own sweet cones this year and it was so much cheaper than party bags. 40 cones cost me about £20 to make.

philden Wed 07-Aug-13 08:34:41

My kids grown up but I never did "regular" party bags we gave money to charity and the charity supplied a badge for each child - along with this I would write a note for parents with suggestion they could do the same, but none ever did. I have no regrets

JenaiMorris Wed 07-Aug-13 08:28:19

Now Fuck Off Home™ bags would be fabulous for all manner of hosting situations. Dinner parties, drop ins, work meetings... grin

Monkeyandanimal Wed 07-Aug-13 08:23:38

Ha Ha, love the 'now fuck off home' bags soupdragon!

mumofoneandonebakingnicely Tue 06-Aug-13 22:24:09

I couldn't throw a birthday party without one. For our sons birthday we did age appropriate birthday boxes:

Soft Giraffe
Bubble Bath
Sensory toy


Flash Cards
Soft Giraffe
Stacking Cups
Soft sweets

Under 5's

Mini Note book
Mini Jigsaws

The Toddlers and Under fives all got hot food boxes Chicken Nuggets, Fish Fingers, Wedges and Chips and tomato Ketchup(all home made) there was also:
Coronation Chicken Sandwiches
Ham Sandwiches
Cheese Sandwiches
Cold Meat Platter
Various breads
Olive Oil
Mini Calzones
Pomodori Secchi Fritti
Greek plata
Tapas - Meat balls, Risotto
Rice Salad
Pasta Salad
Chinese snacks
Indian Snacks
Sausage Rolls
Pork Pies
Chocolate brownies
Chocolate Éclairs
Fairy Cakes
Ice cream

Sicilian Lemonade
Ginger Beer
Elderflower fizz
Morello Cherryade

Everything was homemade.

Katiepoes Tue 06-Aug-13 22:15:14

Nacster can I hire you?

Nacster Tue 06-Aug-13 22:14:25

I like doing something crafty that they can take home instead of plastic tat.

Then they take home their creation + cake.

But generally, I love doing kids parties <total weirdo emoticon>

DS1's party last weekend had something like 30 kids at it, at my house. Plus loads of adults who all know us well enough to bring their own booze. I did a small table of snacks for grownups, and timed it so it wasn't a "meal," kids had a few sandwiches/ buns each.

It was gas craic, I love summer birthdays. grin

Do, or do not. But just do what you feel comfy with, why bother doing stuff just for the sake of it?

Katiepoes Tue 06-Aug-13 22:08:43

At least you only have to do them if you have a party. we are expected to bring 'treats' for all the kids in a class/nursery group. At nursery we can't bring cakes or sweets. We now have an almost weekly trail of tiny sticker books/bubbles/pencils coming in - and this will only get worse.

Some Mums - and yes it is always Mums - arrive with NAMED treats. Handmade and hand packed. Bastards. I just about manage to order a sack of junk online in time to be handed out. My daughter is three. I will be a gibbering wreck by the time we make it to the bowling & pizza days.

Retropear Tue 06-Aug-13 21:57:52

Used to love doing them.sad

roslet Tue 06-Aug-13 21:47:53

I genuinely like the plastic crap, it is fun! My children love receiving party bags. The toys that they've played with most enthusiastically have been parachute men, sticky crawl down window figures, bouncy balls, telescopes, paper fans. But they love a party bag pretty much whatever is in it. The last party they went to, their bag contained a packet of crisps, a lolly, a tiny notebook and a single Fireman Sam lenticular sticker (cut from a sheet of about ten). Must have cost under a pound but they were so chuffed to have a little something to take home. We've been to a few parties where they haven't given them though and nobody minded. If you don't like doing them, letting each child pick a couple of sweets on the way out might encourage them to go at the right time. Many children only ever see a sweet at parties and so they are more prized than they were in the 70s and 80s I reckon. smile

JenaiMorris Tue 06-Aug-13 21:29:47

It doesn't matter what's in them (and in my mind a book is as much a party favour as a bag of plastic nonsense and a flump) - they are Good Things.

I can't imagine finding them tiresome. How mean spirited!

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