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aibu ? bottle if juice.

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petuniapickletits Sat 03-Aug-13 12:18:20

Preparing to be flamed by the 'I did it and my kids survived' brigade here.

DH is an awesome fun dad ..but sometimes he really lacksa bit Iif common sense imo.

We choose to parent a certain way and are happy to admit we probably give off a pfb vibe sometimes.
DD was bf for 16 months when my milk dried up for various reasons.
She enjoys warm milk in a bottle, before bed. This us somthing we are making a conscious effort to discourage now she's older (the bottle not the milk)

Came home from work to find he'd given her pure orange juice in her bottle before bed as he'd ran out of milk. I wasn't impressed and put my point across.
1. we are supposed to be ditching the bottle. .no milk? no bottle!
2. Hello. ..juice swishing around her teeth before bed, shes hardly enthusiastic about cleaning her teeth anyways!
3. She CAN drink from open cups..sippy cups...straw cups.
no need.
4. Pure orange juice? at least water it down!!!
5. its a personal pet hate squash/juice in bottles.

OH thinks im being unreasonable. It transpires his mother told him to do it (no surprise. .his family give nephew cups of tea ..hes three. it disgusts me)

am I? surly he's just stupid.

petuniapickletits Sat 03-Aug-13 12:19:51

obviously my typos are phone related. .:-/

Dont see the deal as a once off tbh

NotYoMomma Sat 03-Aug-13 12:25:36

as a one off? here, take this grip

WorraLiberty Sat 03-Aug-13 12:25:37


It's a one off

inkonapin Sat 03-Aug-13 12:28:02

I would be the same but as others have said a one off won't do any harm. Just chat to dh and explain why its not a good idea and make sure he doesn't listen to mil anymore

imnotmymum Sat 03-Aug-13 12:28:21

And what wrong with tea ... hardly vodka
I agree I hate juice in bottles but a one off , meh! He is her Father

Famzilla Sat 03-Aug-13 12:29:29


What exactly is wrong with a 3yo drinking tea? Preferably decaf obviously but tea is the drink of the gods!

maja00 Sat 03-Aug-13 12:29:35

It's a one off so no big deal, but also a bottle of pure orange juice? Forget the teeth that would make my DS shit all night.

If my DP did it, I would say undiluted juice, in a bottle, before bed = not a great idea imo.

OutragedFromLeeds Sat 03-Aug-13 12:29:43

What's wrong with a milky tea? Lot's of kids will have that as a treat now and then....

itsallaboutyoubaby Sat 03-Aug-13 12:30:46

I doubt it is much worse than the milk, which is also full of sugar so yabu to allow one but not another.

my dc love a cup of decaf tea btw grin

Turniptwirl Sat 03-Aug-13 12:31:23

Yabvu and very pfb

Her dad gave her juice one time, she will survive and so will her teeth

petuniapickletits Sat 03-Aug-13 12:33:56

I didn't get mad..but as Maja said..reckoned it wasn't the best idea and asked him not to do it again. I hope its a one off but he is easily led by his mother...needs to grow some balls there lol

I just can't understand how he thought pure orange juice was a good idea.....but then he did give her two fruit shoots last time he had a day off and wandered why she was bouncing off the walls!!

sorry...but I think giving tea to children is rediculous. They have their entire lives to be addicted to caffeine there is absolutely no benefit to allowing a small child tea!

NotYoMomma Sat 03-Aug-13 12:36:51

isnt there miniscule caffeine in tea confused

hardly harbouring a hardcore coffee addiction. you are way ott lol.

dd has half pure Apple juice/ half water to help with constipation shrug

4thfloor Sat 03-Aug-13 12:39:54

I wouldn't have liked that.

I always think that milk is the only thing that should be in a bottle.

Plus it's not good for her teeth, surely that's just common sense

What was the logic of MIL suggesting this? Has DH said "we're trying to loose the bedtime milk", but not explained it's the actual bottle you want to remove not the milk?

imnotmymum Sat 03-Aug-13 12:41:21

Doesn't tea have anti oxidants or something

imnotmymum Sat 03-Aug-13 12:41:57

and am laughing as all my kids having a cuppa dunking chocolate biscuits. Yum!

UniqueAndAmazing Sat 03-Aug-13 12:42:31

it's a myth that there's less caffeine in tea than coffee.

and it's not about the caffeine - it's also about the tanins that stop the body from absorbing iron.
you really shouldn't give young children tea.

OP - i think as long as you're read him the riot act on this, it's all good.
He shouldn't have asked his mum for advice or taken this particular piece of advice.
i assume he knows you're trying to cut down on the bottle?
if so, then he should have offered water in a cup, not juice.

it was unthinking of him, but as long as he knows why, then i'm sure he won't be so daft in the future.

Manchesterhistorygirl Sat 03-Aug-13 12:43:38

This is a definite case of get over yourself.

There are bigger things to worry about than this. Honestly.

Just wait until your pfb starts school.

HollyBerryBush Sat 03-Aug-13 12:44:59

I hate to tell you this, its not YOUR child and YOUR way isnt the only right way. The child has two parents who may sing from the same hymn sheet most of the time but will deviate now an again. Get over it.

stupidlybroody Sat 03-Aug-13 12:45:32

On the tea issue, even though I can't stand the stuff now as an adult I'm told I used to love a cuppa as a child (in a bottle no less) I thought it was completely normal for children to have some tea every once in a while? I've seen all the youngsters in my family with a beaker of tea at one time or another, they all seem fine. I remember wanting tea because my nan and mum would have it and we could all have a tea together. It was fun! Mumsnet makes me think my family are more common than we already are grin

ll31 Sat 03-Aug-13 12:46:49

Yabu ,am slightly amused at the 'we have agreed way to parent.. '. Maybe you've laid down the law but r you sure dh has agreed... Also,he's her parent too,hes allowed to make decisions on what to give her.

imnotmymum Sat 03-Aug-13 12:47:35

Well is no caffeine in decaf tea grin and isn't the tea absorbing iron bit only with food?

coffeewineandchocolate Sat 03-Aug-13 12:49:19

let him change the nappies today after giving her neat orange. If she is like my ds they will be awful today ;-)

ClaimedByMe Sat 03-Aug-13 12:49:20

How old is she now?

Tbh I am more judgy about her having the bottle at all not what is in it but kids able to drink out of a cup yet still use a bottle is a personal hate of mine.

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