Back story: Ds is 12 and in the past we have had a bit of trouble with stealing and lying. Although it was difficult to deal with at the time in hindsight it could have been worse and we seem to be coming through it all alright. The only reason I mention this is because the behavioural stuff has been so frustrating that I didn't want this story to be thought of as a one off..
Last weekend we had an extra busy saturday. Had to go into town, had SIL and her daughter to stay and as car space was an issue and DS asked to stay behind at home I thought I would let him but I asked him to please wash up for me so that when we got home with the food for BBQ I could get on with the food prep and also to not go on the computer (its still covered in viruses from last time he used it). It wasn't much washing up, would have taken all of about 15mins.
We got back to find that he hadn't done any of what I had asked him to do and had spent the whole time on the computer he had been asked not to touch. I didn't make a massive deal of it, just informed him there and then that because he hadn't done the washing up that day he was not only banned from computers for a week he was doing the washing up, drying up and putting away for the whole week too. He shrugged and said "yup fair enough"
Fast forward to today and despite protestations from him I have stuck to my guns and he has been doing the washing up etc every day. I have to admit it has been bloody heaven not having it to do myself but today he threw a tantrum saying that I was being way too harsh making him do all of that work everyday...
So, AIBU? when I was 12 I did washing up everyday as part of my chores as well as hoovering my room and cleaning the bathroom. Not as a punishment but just because! I do get him to help around the place but usually its drying up and tidying his room and even that's not every day.
(and yes I would like a dishwasher but there is sadly no space)
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CocacolaMum · 01/08/2013 21:10
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