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I'm injured, husband wants to play golf

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Petal02 Thu 01-Aug-13 15:00:26

I had an accident yesterday. Went to A&E, thankfully no broken bones, just badly sprained ankle. Foot is very stiff and swollen, I can only put a small amount of weight on it, meaning I can only just hobble around the house. The only way to do stairs is on my bum.

So AIBU to be annoyed that my husband has decided to play golf with his son this evening? I could really do with some help at home, and I'm still feeling pretty grotty.

Salmotrutta Thu 01-Aug-13 16:00:19

Isn't the current advice to give sprains some gentle exercise?

I sprained mine badly a few months back and I rested when possible, hobbled around a little bit, took ant-inflammatories etc and the saving grace was an elastic bandage which really helped.

I went to work too - possibly not the best choice I ever made.

StuartG Thu 01-Aug-13 16:00:47

YABU unless you have children that require supervision, it's a sprained ankle, not gunshot wounds.

LisaMed Thu 01-Aug-13 16:03:09

It's the back story that's the kicker, isn't it. Wouldn't it be nice to come first for once? You have my sympathies. Hope you feel better soon.

Dackyduddles Thu 01-Aug-13 16:05:09

Dunno about unreasonable but a bit wimpy / pathetic yes. It's one ankle. You have another and two hands yes? Use a golf brolly as a crutch if necessary. Agree very inconvenient but tbh it's not that bad.

teenagetantrums Thu 01-Aug-13 16:06:45

could you not get a friend to come and keep you company?seems a but needy to me

Sirzy Thu 01-Aug-13 16:06:48

If you have no children then YABU. There is no reason you can't look after yourself with a sprain - yes some things may e harder and take longer but you just have to adapt.

pigsDOfly Thu 01-Aug-13 16:15:10

Agree with LisaMed, it's the not coming first that's the killer.

Having been married for many years to a totally selfish man (now exh) who pursued his various hobbies several times a week regardless of what was happening to me or the children I learned to manage by myself.

A few weeks ago I fell down the stairs and sprained my ankle, and you know what? I coped. Many people have to if they live alone.

One day by yourself: chocolate, wine, a good book and tv. Nothing wrong with that.

GobblersKnob Thu 01-Aug-13 16:15:28

You have my sympathies, I sprained my ankle four months ago and it is still painful now. I have had three months of physio and will probably need three more. It was excruciating in the first few days after doing it.

However, the next day I was back at uni and spent much of the day on my feet and up and down stairs, albeit on one foot hopping.

So, yabu, to need babysitting sorry.

However you are not at all unreasonable to feel extremely sorry for yourself.

ilovesooty Thu 01-Aug-13 16:18:01

Perhaps my response is influenced by having to cope alone at home after a hip replacement, a broken ankle, a sprained ankle and now elbow surgery. I'm inclined to think that expecting someone to change their plans because you've been alone for less than a day is unreasonable.

Petal02 Thu 01-Aug-13 16:19:53

I think that's just it - I'm feeling sorry for myself. It really shook me up yesterday. Apologies, and thank you for taking the time to respond.

Am now going to watch a DVD Box set, and do some on-line shopping. Using DH's credit card smile

ilovesooty Thu 01-Aug-13 16:21:59

Have fun...somehow when you're laid up spending money is very tempting!

wishingchair Thu 01-Aug-13 16:25:14

YABU. I broke my ankle (and subsequently sprained it - both v.f.painful!!!) but managed to survive when my dh was out all day at work. Get yourself on the sofa, leg elevated, wine, remote, takeaway, book and relax.

And yes the drink thing is the worst. Make yourself a drink but then can't move it so you end up having to drink it by the kettle. I had to hobble around with an over the shoulder bag containing phone, remote control etc as I'd sit down, realise the phone was at the other side of the room and want to weep.

Longdistance Thu 01-Aug-13 16:26:31

Petal, I broke my leg and had surgery on it back in April. I had two metal plates fitted with 19 screws. I am currently under physio with a really stiff stubborn ankle as broke both my tib and fib.

We have dd's aged 2 and nearly 4, and have very long days on my own from 6.30am to 6pm, and then like tonight h has wafted in like a fart, and gone out rugby training. Monday night it's cricket.

If I can do that, I'm sure you can put your feet up and rest. You don't need him there.

wishingchair Thu 01-Aug-13 16:27:41

And I agree - YA-definitely-NBU to feel sorry for yourself. It is so bloody frustrating and until it happens, you really don't realise how limiting it is. Enjoy blitzing his credit card grin

Petal02 Thu 01-Aug-13 16:30:28

Monsoon have a very interesting on-line sale ...... Just going to take a peep.

Twiceover Thu 01-Aug-13 16:33:52

I don't think yabu. It would be nice if he offered to stay home and keep you company. Hope you feel better soon.

wishingchair Thu 01-Aug-13 16:34:14

House of Fraser too ...

thebody Thu 01-Aug-13 16:39:10

spend away, spread that pain to him😆😆

Loshad Thu 01-Aug-13 16:43:33

Hot drinks tip Petal - make pot of preferred beverage, pour into thermos, put thermos in rucksack, bum shuffle, hop or whatever to comfy location, ta dah, nice hot unspilt drink.

BigBoobiedBertha Thu 01-Aug-13 16:45:11

I'm not sure if YABU or not? It depends.

1. How often does DH go out with his DS? If it is a long standing arrangement and he doesn't see his DS often, YABU
2. How did you sprain your ankle? I understand that it hurts and you are immobile but you do seem shaken up so the circumstances of the accident are relevant (not that you have to share). If you escaped death by inches and you got a sprained ankle it would leave you feeling more vulnerable than if you missed the bottom step of the stairs for example.
3. Will your DH help you when he is in and is he generally understanding? I suspect this would affect you more if he hasn't shown any concern or offered to do anything.
4. What is it your expect your DH to do? If it is to be at your beck and call then I don't blame him for going out. On the other hand, if you only need him every now and then then why not set yourself up with everything you need and he could go out anyway.

Personally when I am hurt or ill, I am like a wounded animal and like to take myself off and be alone so I do think YABU but we all deal with things differently and we don't have the bigger picture so maybe your aren't.

Helpful, aren't I?! grinblush

Hope your ankle heals soon.

Petal02 Thu 01-Aug-13 16:45:36

Thanks for the flask tip, will definitely try that!

Petal02 Thu 01-Aug-13 16:51:09

I'm actually feeling a bit better now, and DH has just rung to ask if I'd prefer it if he didn't go to golf. I've told him I'm ok, and he said he's only playing 9 holes, so it won't take him long.

So the world is a happy place (apart from my damn foot!). He gets his golf, i get to shop. The art of compromise methinks .......

whois Thu 01-Aug-13 17:35:12

Sprains are really fucking bad!

Still you're a little U to want him to stay home. Make sure he gets you drinks and snacks before he goes out. Coffee or tea in a thermos is good.

BigBoobiedBertha Thu 01-Aug-13 17:38:56

It is nice he offered and is cutting short his round - it is better to feel you have a choice in the matter and that he would be there for you if needs be. It is indeed a happy compromise. [wmile]

Enjoy your shopping.

Hercy Thu 01-Aug-13 17:39:21

Do you have a thermos? Fill it up then put it in a bag hooked over your crutches and away you go.

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