Hi all, I am new to this so please bare with me.
Have been with DH for one and a half years (married 8 months after meeting) and things are getting me down.
I know getting married to someone so soon is pretty mad but, it felt so right at the time for both of us. With hindsight, not a good idea.
The problem is, I am starting to see things I didnt notice before. He is lazy (works in summer and not really at all in winter, he dosnt do much around the house, he never wants to socialize with my friends. I have the odd social cigarette, to which he goes mad. He has debt of £25000 he pays back £40 per month on. Dosnt give a shit about it really. Just says "he wishes he had taken more on the cards before they were closed". His work ethic is poor. When I have asked him in the past to do any DIY he moans. The last argument we had he said "what am I, the Fucking handy man".
I am rambling, but I think what I am trying to say is, how do I get him to listen to me when I have a moan about things instead of him telling me how wrong I am all the time. He never listens, just tells me I am wrong, and I am analyzing him, its not important to him etc..... I have 2 children from a previous relationship, 19 boy and 16 girl. He barely talks to them.
Really do want to work things out but I feel it is always his way or no way. He just cannot or will not take on board anything I say.
Any tips on how to get him to listen and reach a resolution.
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Married 1 year and cannot stop arguing
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notnotnee · 01/08/2013 11:49
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