Hello, I am looking for advice about the current visitation agreement set up for my daughter and her father. I have taken him to mediation after the first 6 months of her life he would only spend 10-20 minutes per visit with her so I wanted to set up regular sessions and put in place a check list so to speak for him to do at these visitations like change a nappy, help with food and water and meet each visit as well as stay the duration. my daughter is now 11 months old and he is still failing to meet any of these targets with only 3 nappy changes and he regularly cancels. the visitations have for a couple of months been shortened to every other weekend being that cancelations are so often. he refuses to go back to mediations purely because he knows he has not met any of the targets set and doesn't seem to think there is a problem in what he is doing. my daughter has no kind of bond with him and is uncomfortable around him when he shows up due to the lack of consistency. I am at a lose as what to do next and though I want my daughter to have a relationship with her father I don't want it to be filled with inconsistency and disappointment as I feel this will do more damage then not seeing him at all. I have a brother who's father acted much the same and seen what affect it can have on a child and later on in life when they are an adult. he is not on the birth certificate and I don't not wish for him to be until he shows more reliability as a father. what should be my next step to get him to take his parental role more seriously?
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deedee81 · 30/07/2013 17:47
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