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to give dd food before paying for it?

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cantsleep Mon 29-Jul-13 22:20:29

Went to shops today with dcs. Dd was a bit tired and hungry and I wanted to get in and out quickly and home.

She was very hungry and has health issues and needed to eat that minute so I picked something up and let her have it. I have not done this before but couldn't have gone and paid then given it to her and continued shopping as she needed to eat straight away. Usually I have a snack in my bag for her but she had already had that one and I was going to buy more snack bits for her from the shops to replenish the ones I carry for her.

I noticed that a shop assistant was watching us intently and kept seeing her as we went round the shop.

When we got to the till I took the packet off dd for the man to scan and gave it back to her. As we were leaving the member of staff who had been watching approached us with a security guard and asked had we paid for what dd had eaten round the shop. I replied yes we had but she asked to check the receipt which obviously was fine.

She then told me that in future we HAD to pay for food before consuming it. I explained to her that it was a one off as I had run out of snacks I usually carry and dd needed to eat immediately but the security guard said food has to be paid for first.

It wasn't like I do this all the time and tbh as long as the food is paid for does it really matter?

WIBU to have let dd eat her snack before we had paid for it?

ZingWidge Wed 07-Aug-13 22:29:07

caboodle grin at returning bones!

Caboodle Wed 07-Aug-13 22:26:12

At the risk of resurrecting this...... shudders....
Asked Mum today - she spent years working for a (very green) nationwide supermarket chain. She was very surprised anyone would think it a problem; said everyone did it and nobody bothered.
She did once say that someone once returned a cooked chicken because it was 'overdone', customer services refunded amount despite the chicken having been eaten and the bag just containing the bones shock
Now, if I wanted free food I would do that! grin

Mitzyme Tue 06-Aug-13 22:04:35

Oh forgot fecking own bags.

Mitzyme Tue 06-Aug-13 22:03:18

Okay. For those of you that have difficulty shopping.
1. Transport. check.
2. Children (or not) check
3. Purse. check.
4. Money in said purse. check.
5. Cards etc. check.
6. House keys. check.
7. Add your own preferences. I am past caring.

Emilythornesbff Tue 06-Aug-13 22:01:30

mitzyme grin
<waits for narrator. Can't do the accent>

Pigsmummy Tue 06-Aug-13 21:26:16

I do it and know that I shouldn't, it's technically theft but if you can prove that you had means of paying for the food then not likely to stand up. I do self scan so feel a bit confident that I have demonstrated that I would pay but what would happen if you got to the till and find that you haven't got cash/bank card etc

Mitzyme Tue 06-Aug-13 21:14:31

Ah Ha. Thought you had got rid of me did you(s). Well went swimming with DP, DD and DGD. Then to Waitrose, we are very posh. DGD stuffed her face, got to checkout, DD said sorry!! to checkout person, hope it's okay that DGD had a snack, handed over empty packet, of course organic food, to pay. Checkout person said of course it's okay.
WFM if it's okay for Waitrose then it's okay by me!!!

Emilythornesbff Tue 06-Aug-13 19:21:30

OK. grin

NewAtThisMalarky Tue 06-Aug-13 17:24:11

You may think it fortunate Ems.

I think it's quite an uninspiring way to spend a life.

Each to their own!

Emilythornesbff Tue 06-Aug-13 16:08:32

widge grin
Just off out to tesco grin

ZingWidge Tue 06-Aug-13 09:22:26

Ems I knew you'd bite! grin

<Day 8: the thread mates are bored and picking their noses. they need a new task, so the general public has been asked to provide some ideas....>

Emilythornesbff Tue 06-Aug-13 08:48:31

<prompts widge>
<whisper: day 8>


neewtothis I still think you might consider yourself beyond fortunate if that's the worst thing that's happened in a particular job. And really, the joking was in the context of the rest of the buffet thread.
But I can assure you the sticky packet did not come from me. Promise. grin

ZingWidge Tue 06-Aug-13 08:14:35

day?: all peaceful and quiet in Grazeland. the thread mates are busy with getting on with their lives....

NewAtThisMalarky Mon 05-Aug-13 18:44:44

Oh wow! Went away and come back to people not having read my post properly.

The worst thing about working on the checkout was the sticky packets.

I have certainly had much worse experiences than that in life. And worse experiences in work.

I thought that would be fairly clear. But maybe I need to think about my audience more....

Emilythornesbff Fri 02-Aug-13 08:52:18


Grrrr. Bloody autocorrect

Emilythornesbff Fri 02-Aug-13 08:51:28

I've been thinking about this and I have to agree that aisle grazing is probably theft.
And chivvy, and greedy and rude.
I mean, I will now choose to parent properly and not ever give my toddler a snack away from our formal dining table use food as a reward, constantly cramming sugary snacks into his bewildered little mush.
I am reformed.

ZingWidge Fri 02-Aug-13 08:32:31


Mitzyme Fri 02-Aug-13 08:24:37

GrazerHog Day !

rabbitlady Fri 02-Aug-13 08:10:06

pay first.

lucybrad Thu 01-Aug-13 23:32:11

Oh god - I do this ALL the time for all my kids and even myself. I didn't think there is a problem as long as you pay for the items before leaving the shop!

Emilythornesbff Thu 01-Aug-13 23:26:32

Sleep beckons.
<shares out midnight feast snack of toffee popcorn with a tot of ......ooh, chambourd black raspberry liqueur....> I bet that's considered über twee.
Nighty night.

ZingWidge Thu 01-Aug-13 23:22:03


ZingWidge Thu 01-Aug-13 23:21:41

fucking double standards

Mitzyme Thu 01-Aug-13 23:21:00

The dark side welcomes bloody forriners but nice try Zing.

ZingWidge Thu 01-Aug-13 23:18:19

do you have to be English /British to be a chav?

sure as hell I can never be posh, but then I can't be a chav either <uses bloody forriner card to gain social immunity>

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