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To pray that smug mothers of little girls are ...

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ReallyTired Sun 28-Jul-13 23:22:34

....sent a beautiful bouncing baby boy torando as their second child.

Those of us with two children realise that nature has a huge affect on a child's personality and ablity to behave.

I have two children and both of them are lovely now. However my son was permamently on the move as a two year old and we used to call him captain chaos. He was the sort of kid who would be into every cupboard, had the wooden spoon in the baby olympics or baby ivory league. (ie he had no desire to read Pride and Prejudice at the age of 2)

My daughter has a very different temperment. She is far more compliant, loves drawing jigsaws and isn't a muck magnet. I am sure that if she had been my first I would have been unbearably smug.

Boys take longer to grow up and my son at the age of eleven is lovely most of the time. He is still a muck magnet, but he has plenty of friends and doing well at school.

NotYoMomma Sun 28-Jul-13 23:25:23


thebody Sun 28-Jul-13 23:25:25

not sure what you mean to be honest. I have 2 girls and 2 boys and all are individuals.

ChippingInHopHopHop Sun 28-Jul-13 23:25:34

Perhaphs going to bed would help.

Aspiemum2 Sun 28-Jul-13 23:26:18

Yabu! That is your experience of your own children.
I have 2 of each, the youngest being b/g twins and I can honestly say they're all little shits they all have their moments!

My boy's are mummy's boys though and infinitely easier than hormonal preteen girls!

Wuldric Sun 28-Jul-13 23:28:05

What is this thread about? It makes no sense.

NotYoMomma Sun 28-Jul-13 23:28:38

I have dd2 due atm and she will be who she will be. Its a bit off to wish people to have a harder time of it - and odd, as if boys are all the same

Aspiemum2 Sun 28-Jul-13 23:28:40

Oh and it's my older dd who collects slugs and snails in old takeaway pots and my younger dd who rugby tackles her twin to the ground - he's a total softie smile

ImNotBloody14 Sun 28-Jul-13 23:29:04

My ds1 was a doddle until he hit 4. Ds2 was a nightmare til he hit 4. Both boys- thats where the similarity ends

3birthdaybunnies Sun 28-Jul-13 23:29:20

By your definition then dd1 is a boy and ds is a girl. Ds is my reward for all the disruption of the girls. They are all fab now.

sonlypuppyfat Sun 28-Jul-13 23:29:39

Boys and girls are so different I have 2 DDs and one older DS they like completely different things! I don't like it when people are shocked when boys are more lively and want to climb on sheds my DS would live on a shed roof my DD have no desire too and he is the funniest person in the world while his sister can't understand a joke at all.

McNewPants2013 Sun 28-Jul-13 23:30:34

My ds is my first and has autism and he is hard work, but I went on to have DD ( no SN)

After her I wouldn't have any more, she is hard work. She cries all the time and is so demanding. She is 4 btw.

northernlurker Sun 28-Jul-13 23:31:18

What a silly thread. I have three girls. They are all a delight and a challenge - like all children. You don't sound like you enjoyed your son's babyhood very much. i hope that's a mistaken impression.

Monty27 Sun 28-Jul-13 23:31:29

OP Why?

sweetiepie1979 Sun 28-Jul-13 23:31:32

I'm not getting your point OP.....

LieweHeksie Sun 28-Jul-13 23:31:37

OMG! Mine were exactly like this. I now exactly what you mean...

... except that both my children are boys.

mynameisslimshady Sun 28-Jul-13 23:31:55

Yab ridiculous.

Your experiences with your own children are just that.

Tweasels Sun 28-Jul-13 23:32:05

My DD is the whirlwind, DS is quiet and calm.

It's not a gender difference is just being different people.

And - who are these smug mothers of girls? Is this another thing that only happens in mumsnet world and not in real life?

5madthings Sun 28-Jul-13 23:32:18

Yabu children are individuals regardless of gender.

My ds1 was very easy going and laid back. My gran always said he was a very 'biddable child'... I didn't know what she meant......then I had ds2!

Ds3 and ds4 are somewhere in between and dd is quite like ds2. They are all different and loveable and all have their difficult moments!

Capitola Sun 28-Jul-13 23:32:51

I have 2 boys - both placid and easy going. I don't think gender dictates temperament.

BlackeyedSusan Sun 28-Jul-13 23:33:04

ahhh really tired has a friend with one girl, who is well behaved (like dd, <preens>) yet she, RT, has two children, one of whom is a boy and ermm a little active... (like ds, grin )

mother of girl is smug and looks down nose at small tornado boy and thinks she is superior because she has a calm girl. however, you earrn you parenting stripes parenting the more difficult phases. ignores room that looks like a tornado has blown though

oh well op, wait til teenage hood and all those hormones. she might be eating her words...

the body, that is exactly it. except really tired has come across another parent who thinks it is all smug parents doing that her child is calm. she had a role in it, but so does personality of the child in question.

LilacPeony Sun 28-Jul-13 23:33:26

You seem to be making huge generalisations about what boys and girls are like.

HopHopHopSkip Sun 28-Jul-13 23:33:55

YAB a bit U, though I'm saying that as the mum of a very "demanding" DD.

I have to admit in general the boys I know seem to be harder work in the mess/bouncing off the walls/rudeness as toddlers than the girls, though I can think of some that are the other way around.
So I would say I can see why you'd say of girls, but I would change it to the smug mums of easy children to have harder children next time (only the smug ones!! grin )

CeliaLytton Sun 28-Jul-13 23:34:07


LuisSuarezTeeth Sun 28-Jul-13 23:34:08

Are you religious then OP?

Who has lit your wick today in particular?

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