To want to relax about screen time in the holidays, but not too much?(47 Posts)
I'm not sure where the balance lies. If I just let them gorge themselves on telly and tablets for a couple of days, will they burn out and beg to climb trees? Or should I stick to the nominal rules we have in term time of no telly before school so really no screens for most of the day? My gut feeling is that there is always something better to be doing than anything with a screen, so I struggle because dh can't see a problem with it. Dc are four and seven. Would love to know what you do.
Never limited my DS - when younger, if he wanted to watch tv till his head fell off, that was ok by me. It would self-limit because he would get bored and want to play something interactive with me and would often alternate between play and tv. If Imfelt he hadn't had enough time away from the house then I would ensure we got out and about.
Never really understood the tv limiting thing to be honest. As long as there's a balance across a week and plenty of other interactivity, tv does no harm. It does not make imbeciles of kids and the only people I hear professing that it does are generally lentil-weaving Grauniad reading colleagues with tedious views on many aspects of life, all spouted with the conviction of the righteous.
My DS would also sit and play Habbo for HOURS. It actually exposed him to the concepts of business development, working for a living, trade and barter, got to know regualr gamers in other coutries (and learnt some Finnish) developed his vocabulary and an appreciation of music.
My 3 yr old only watches tv when she is ill or tired. Not interested the rest of the time. She will, however, use the iPad for ages playing her phonics and numbers apps. Does this count as 'screen time'? I've never regulated and she seems to prefer to play with her toys/craft stuff.
Should also clarify that DS2 particularly has audio books on his ipod and I don't want to limit his listening to that.
A kindle's not a screen in this house, because I don't want to have to take more books than clothes on holiday. But it's a tough call. Ipods are entirely about listening here Dancergirl, but we have to ration youtube time, otherwise DS2 will spend hours of the day watching other people play minecraft. The only rules about ipods are no earphones in at the table or after lights out.
Yes I limit I pod use unless just listening to music. Kindles-not of it's a basic reading one, I'd limit a Fire.
I am also struggling with appropriate rules although my older two are older - 10.5 and 12 - and LOVE their iPods. They tend to disappear into their rooms to watch stuff on youtube etc. If you have dc this age, do you limit ipod use?
And does a kindle count as a screen??
Think I need to relax a little. Today, dd has painted pebbles, gone for a walk, played with littke figures, played basketball, drawn, gone to the beach and baked a cake . I think that, even though she hasn't read the famous five or knitted a teddy she's probably having a decent childhood! Ds has asked for screens more, but he has also done the basket ball, walk, beach and made a Lego thing. I think all is not lost. Will continue to regulate, but with less of the killjoy grump about me. Very useful to hear different approaches and it makes me realise ds can regulate less well, whereas dd is the walk off and get bored with it type.
Like BackforGood I find being flexible leads to more battles. My dd is 8, and if she gets the slightest hint that something is open for discussion she's like a dog with a bone. And if something has happened differently once I will be constantly having to justify why it can't be like that all the time. I understand that not all children are like that but I'm pretty much sticking to term-time screen time rules as a result. That's 2 hours max and nothing after dinner.
Also, I'm working 3 days a week for the first 4 weeks of the hols which means being up and out to holiday club on a school times routine, so can't afford to let things fall apart completely until I'm off work too!
Thing is, I have 2 who can be very moderate about screen time. It's just the other 2 lack moderation.
Like I have 2 who never fought until 3rd one taught them how.
One who is super clever, one who is very Nice but Dim, etc.
Oblomov- I think that is the approach I have unconsciously adopted.
It's the same as some adults have no brakes on chocolate
states at self in the mirror
Ok, well my dc are hard work in other ways eg one of them has to have an in depth discussion every single day on why Pepperoni Pizza is not suitable for lunch. The screen time thing has just worked for us for some reason.
I have tv/wii/ds/tablet time, to suit ME !!
If it suits me, they have them, pre breakfast, or post breakfast, of a bit of 'down time ' during the day. Or just whenever I feel. Whatever we have going on during the day, be it almost a day out, or having a ride on our bikes, or coming home and them saying can we have some tv now.
Whatever suits ME, GOES.
I have done that, Sparkly, 7yo DS was on the likes of Nitrome 14 hours a day. Didn't stop for meals, did smash the keyboard if I nicely asked him to "get off now". Would have been on there 24/7 if I let him. So no good for us. He's 13 now & has an iPad, he's on that constantly when at home, but youtube is the only thing we truly have to ration on there.
Holiday system we have now is they each get a standard daily quota of TV/computer screens, 5 days a week. Can only access quota after completion of chores (or homework for the grumpy, yes I make them write & calculate!). Having tried lots of other things, this works best.
Honestly I am not trying to sound smug but have you ever tried to just let it go and see what happens?
The optician at the hospital told me that doing fine work, like focusing on a DS screen or the Wheres Wally books would help to improve my dd's lazy eye.
Mine were exhausted so we initially had a couple of film days with 3 hours or 4 of tv to recover. Now we are back to normal. A little tv at the end of the day if we have time and they have been good.
Isn't that the truth, valium. DS1 has no brakes at all when it comes to screen use. DS2 will get bored with it and wander off to build lego instead.
Some children self regulate, others don't at all.
holidays should be relaxing fun.
mix of everything including films, tv, garden, out door activities etc.
don't worry however you with little ones.!! soon as they get to 12 you won't see them for dust.
first it's the local shops/park/ street with friends and that progresses to a train/ bus ride to bigger shops/parks/streets/ costa and pizza places.
I have never limited screen time for my dc. My ds now age 10, watches Top Gear every Sunday night and that's it, dd age 6 probably watches about an hour each day, more if she chooses a movie DVD instead. The IPAD is accessible whenever they want to look something up and ds has a Playstation 3 in his room which has been unused for about three months now as his interest in it comes and goes. I do believe that children will self regulate if given the chance to.
I don't allow my kids to watch movies more than a few hours every week as they have the tendency to go overboard. The movies would go on and on if I don't restrict them. But yes, if its an educational program or anything that they would learn from I let them watch.
We have a (newish) rule of 2 hours a day, one morning and one evening, of recreational screentime (consoles, interweb, TV). Screens can be used at other times for educational stuff provided I'm aware of it. This limits the brainless Minecraft/ You tube time and I'm flexible on the other stuff - so DS2 has been watching WW2 documentaries on Yesterday because I know he will then go away and find out about the engineering side of what they've been talking about. I also allow maths games, typing, language websites and things like that as 'educational'. DCs are 12, 10, 8, 3 btw.
I'm also trying out that morning screen has to be earned by getting jobs done and evening screen by not fighting horribly. All evening screens off an hour before bed minimum.
It sounds like a nightmare to keep control of, but it seems to be working quite well. We are, though, only 4 days into the holidays (but we were using this at weekends prior to now. School days they get an hour on screen, apart from homework if that is screen based). Except for Kindles, which are a grey area anyway!
p.s. my dd also has glasses and used to have a patch. Using the DS, computer, etc has not made them any worse (has had glasses from 18 months old)
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