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to be pissed off that everyone is saying I will "need to move house"?

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MortifiedAdams Fri 26-Jul-13 22:32:07

We have just informed the family that we are expecting a second baby. The first things out of, without a doubt, each of their mouths has been about us needing to.move.

We live in a two bed ground floor victorian terraced flat. The rooms are, pardon, fucking huge. The children will be two years apart so will share a room,.and probably the most.of their toys.

So.whh why why do.people need to question it? With actual serious concerned faces? My friend has a newbuild three bed which, is nice, is smaller, square footage wise.

It might be the hormones but I would just like a grin and a "congratulations". FFS my Dad is scpurong the net looking for 'reasonable' three are in some.sort of emergency situation. I love my flat!

mummy1973 Fri 26-Jul-13 23:04:54

congrats. UANBU. Sounds lovely.

LilacPeony Fri 26-Jul-13 23:05:06

My mum had three sisters and they used to share a room with 2 bunk beds. grin

LilacPeony Fri 26-Jul-13 23:05:39

Her brother had a box room on his own like some sort of king! grin

dietcokeandwine Fri 26-Jul-13 23:08:09

Congratulations OP. And your flat sounds flipping lovely.

propertyNIGHTmareBEFOREXMAS Fri 26-Jul-13 23:09:51

You are right, it is a rude comment for people to make. It is passing judgment on your living arrangements (which sound perfectly adequate anyway!).

MrsGSR Fri 26-Jul-13 23:10:38

I know this doesn't apply to you, but from what I've read under the 'Bedroom tax' legislation 2 children are expected to share a bedroom up to the age of 10, regardless of sex, and up to 16 if they are the same sex. So you are definitely not being unreasonable to expect 2 kids to share!

SaucyJack Fri 26-Jul-13 23:21:24

Congrats smile

I'd bite anyone's hand off for a three bed meself, even if the rooms were half the size. My second dd went in with dd1 around six years ago, and noone's had a decent nightis sleep since.....

Do whatever suits you tho.

Harrin Fri 26-Jul-13 23:24:18

I grew up sharing a room as there are 11 of us and it was fine. In fact my parents still have 7 dc under 16 living at home now, 4 girls in one room and 3 boys in another and they HATE it smile

123rd Fri 26-Jul-13 23:44:01

I grew up with 4 siblings and me and 2 sisters shared a room until I was 15-I was in the top bunk of a bunk bed. My dh wants to move as our ds has the 'box room' he has his only bloody room !!! What's the problem ???

BridgetBidet Fri 26-Jul-13 23:44:12

Congratulations. You will be fine if they are the same sex. However if they are a girl and a boy you will at some point need to move. It's incredibly embarrassing as they get older and a boy at my school was mercilessly teased about it.

PomBearWithAnOFRS Sat 27-Jul-13 00:09:00

We currently have 4 DCs at home with DH and I, in a 3-bed semi. At our most crowded we also had pfb and his fiancee living with us, and we managed just fine.
I do second the people who've said about brother and sister not sharing a room as they get older, but there's no reason you can't just partition your existing room off - it still doesn't necessarily mean you will have to move at all.
Just smile sweetly and nod and ignore grin

WilsonFrickett Sat 27-Jul-13 00:16:21


I just had a similar conversation with a gay friend (who doesn't want children) and his DM has been bleating about him having his own front door for years! I think it's a generational anti-flat thing, rather than a number of bedrooms thing myself. Tell them to do one. Then go and look at your ceiling height. <still misses her Victorian ceiling heights>

Jan49 Sat 27-Jul-13 00:52:51


I'd feel the same as your family. I'd want a bedroom for each child, so they could either share or have their own rooms depending on what worked best, and a garden so they could play outside whilst I did other things and as a place to hang washing out.

I grew up sharing a bedroom and always wanted my own, so I always said I wouldn't want a dc that had to share. As it happens I only have one dc, now an adult, so he got his own bedroom anyway.

But your flat sounds

GingerBlondecat Sat 27-Jul-13 00:54:49

Congrats flowers
ehh, you'll be fine.

Theexisapsychocunt Sat 27-Jul-13 00:57:26

I'm in a 4 bed house 2 rooms aerial empty because dcs insist on sharing

Theexisapsychocunt Sat 27-Jul-13 00:57:48

Congratulations btw

MariaLuna Sat 27-Jul-13 01:24:26


When the time comes you can always put in a room divider if the rooms are that big.

Cheaper than moving!

ravenAK Sat 27-Jul-13 01:34:08


We ended up with 3dc in the smaller bedroom of a Victorian terrace - two in bunks, one in a cot. We moved when the oldest was 5.

You'll be fine for years yet!

MorganMummy Sat 27-Jul-13 01:58:07


My MIL was boasting about her niece's move from a house the size of ours (currently 2BR) because they 'needed it' with their second (same sexed!) baby. Even though MIL knows full well I have fertility issues and would love a second baby. I told her I thought children should share rooms and it teaches valuable life skills to avoid being spoilt - as she also thinks I was born with silver spoon in my mouth. Despite my parents bringing us up in a 5 BR house my sister and I shared a room till I was 8 or 9, it was great.

I have issues with this clearly, totally resented the implication that I should move or was less good than wonderful niece for not having the money too even if I wanted to! Currenlty revelling in an evening at home while DH has taken DS to see hideous MIL so i dont have to! Congrats again to you.

AnotherStitchInTime Sat 27-Jul-13 02:17:51

Congratulations thanks

I agree, why move?

I have just found out I am 13 weeks pregnant with number 3.

Dd1 and 2 already share the largest bedroom of our 2 bed flat.

New baby will be in with them eventually. 1 set of bunks and a cot, then bunks and a single bed.

I shared with my little brother until the end of primary school, we had a great time.

LessMissAbs Sat 27-Jul-13 06:51:08

Lucky children, sharing a massive bedroom when they are young! Perhaps the critics live in very small roomed modern houses? I once converted a spare reception room in a Georgian flat into two large double bedrooms, the smaller of which was still around 10 feet by 12 feet!

Oh, and congratulations!

redcaryellowcar Sat 27-Jul-13 07:00:03

Congratulations! I think sharing is good, my sister and I did uuntil we were teenagers we lived in 3 bed house and third bedroom was 'spare' and smaller than our shared room. I think it was more normal 25 years ago and when we have next dc they will share with ds even though we have three bedrooms.

peteypiranha Sat 27-Jul-13 07:02:08

I grew up in a big house but always used to sleep on my brothers floor. I wouldnt of minded sharing a room, and its much better to share a room than miss out on a sibling, who will be a friend for life.

elliejjtiny Sat 27-Jul-13 07:02:10

YANBU. My older 3 DC's share a massive room and DS4 will go in there as well at about 6 months ish.

FamiliesShareGerms Sat 27-Jul-13 07:14:12

Oh congratulations! No need at all to move - we've got three bedrooms but DS and DD share a room so we still have a spare. You've got years and years to work out whether you will need another bedroom.

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