to be pissed off that everyone is saying I will "need to move house"?

[MortifiedAdams]

We have just informed the family that we are expecting a second baby. The first things out of, without a doubt, each of their mouths has been about us needing to.move.

We live in a two bed ground floor victorian terraced flat. The rooms are, pardon, fucking huge. The children will be two years apart so will share a room,.and probably the most.of their toys.

So.whh why why do.people need to question it? With actual serious concerned faces? My friend has a newbuild three bed which, while.it is nice, is smaller, square footage wise.

It might be the hormones but I would just like a grin and a "congratulations". FFS my Dad is scpurong the net looking for 'reasonable' three beds....like.we are in some.sort of emergency situation. I love my flat!

[PunkHedgehog]

Congratulations!

[NewAtThisMalarky]

Congratulations :)

[MortifiedAdams]

Haha I love the s and congrarulations! This is what baby news should be met with!

[PunkHedgehog]

Seriously, you'll be fine. The one-room-per-child idea is very new, when your house was built people used to manage fine with half a dozen in the same room. Probably with only two beds between them.

Friends of mine shared a room until they were 14 and 16 (despite there being a spare bedroom in the house) at which point they got separate rooms so the elder had quiet revising space. For opposite sex kids you'll need an extra room a bit before that, but still not for years and years.

[Tee2072]

Congratulations!

And ignore them all!

[SarahAndFuck]

Congratulations.

And actually at the sound of your flat. I used to live in such a flat. The hallway was bigger than my living room now.

[ubik]

Well I had three in a two-bed flat and the girls had a huge room and loved sharing up until DD1 was 8 and we decided to move as she wanted her own space. That said many, many of her friends share quite happily with 2 or three to a room.

if yu love your flat, stay until you feel the need to move

and congratulations

[WorkingtoohardMama]

Congratulations!

We live in a 2 bedroom house, with 2 children with a 4 year age gap and manage just fine!

[MortifiedAdams]

Sarah it is the only street like it in at least a mile.radius - if I moved, I might be able to get a third bedroom.and a square of grass at the back but I feel like I would lose so.much. Ive wanted to live on this street since I was a child.

We have a massive park about two mins walk away and I never had a garden growing up so I dont want to compromise for something I dont care about

[vintagecakeisstillnice]

Congratulations!

We viewed a Victorian flat that sounds like yours but at he time we thought we couldn't afford it, I so regret it. . .

Anyway congratulations again and I come from a big family when there was only my 2 youngest sibs left at home they choose to share a room even though they & DPs were in a 5 bedded house.

[Splitheadgirl]

OP, I am from an Irish Catholic family, so NO ONE says that to me - even though I have three children in a two up, two down box!!

My neighbour where I grew up, had 21 children (I kid you not) in a three bedroom house.

You'll manage. That is what parents do. You'll be just fine!!!

[BiscuitDunker]

I live in a massive 2bed flat and have our second baby on the way and weirdly,next to nobody has asked told us about "needing" a 3bed place!

We know this baby is a girl and we already have a dd so they can share a room and we will move to a 3 bed in years to come but its certainly not a priority and I don't understand people that seem to think it should be! To me all having a second kids bedroom means is just another room to tidy up and trip over toys in lol

[vintagecakeisstillnice]

Oh and before the DPs extended, there was 5of us in one HUGE bedroom, we still 20+ years later talk about the silly games and stories we shared.

[ButtercupsAreFlowers]

Congratulations! No need to move. So annoying when people make these kinds of comments - I always feel judged by it, and what I hear is that people think we are inadequately housed. And of course children can share rooms - so ridiculous, the idea that every child must have their own room from the word go. We lived in a very similar-sounding flat with two DCS - finally moved to a bigger place when they were 8 and 4, but there were lots of reasons for the move. Enjoy your pregnancy, and your home!

[MotherOfSuburbia]

We were in a small 2 bed flat with 4 kids till last year. You'll be fine!

[softlysoftly]

Congratulations! I actually want a house with less but bigger bedrooms as the dds would LOVE to share but there isn't really room so in 2 rooms.

[MrsMook]

Congratulations.

My cousins grew up in a "3 bed" semi. One in the box room, and 3 in the larger bedroom with a cabin bed and bunk beds. They've had the usual sibling spats but are incredibly close.

DH was one of 5 children in a 3 bed bungalow. The two girls shared what is barely a double room, and the 3 boys shared another cosy room. Two sets of his nephews have shared rooms through choice.

[Doubtfuldaphne]

I grew up in a house with six bedrooms and yet my sister and I always shared until we moved at the age of about 15! Definitely no need to move at all. Plus why would you want the stress of moving while you're pregnant?!

[BlackeyedSusan]

congratulations.

also a two bed with two children, though their bedroom is not huge. our living room is spacious enough though and if we lived in a house, one would have to sleep in a shoe box and there would be no floor space to play.

[LilacPeony]

I live in a 2 up 2 down and my dds are 6 and 9 and we seem to be managing fine. I had a room on my own growing up and i remember lying there petrified of burglars/ghosts etc. I think i would have found it reassuring to share with a sibling.

Friends who shared until they left home said it was fine when they were kids but they would have liked a room of their own as teens, so i am hoping to move by then.

at 21 children in a three bedroom house.

[hothereinnit]

in a similar situation to doubtful - we live in a 6 bed house, yet my 2 girls insist on sharing a room, and have done for the last 5 years (since dd2 began climbing out of her cot to go and visit her big sister! )

congratulations, OP, and here's to happy sharing

[applepieinthesky]

I always think the issue is not having a bedroom each but more the size of the house and living space so your flat sounds ideal. Not sure why everyone is so concerned.

We have one DS and a two bed house. Both bedrooms are a decent size but we don't have a separate dining room and a tiny kitchen so when we have another child we will probably move because of that, nothing to do with needing a bedroom each.

[MousyMouse]

you will be fine.
we lived in a two bed (small rooms) flat until dc were 2&5 and only moved because the bedrooms were too small. even though we now have the space they share a bedroom.

[WonderBarbara]

Congratulations no need to move, little ones are fine to share as everyone has said

[mummy1973]

congrats. UANBU. Sounds lovely.