DH- (fiancée technically but we already call each other husband and wife.) Incase anyones confused because i call him my DH in other posts. :) We have been together 9yrs and have 3 wonderful kids. I have always been the "outsider" when it comes to my DH family. It used to bother me and I tried hard to become part of their family with no success. Now I just accept that I'm the outsider but stay friendly and continue to go to family things.
A year ago we got engaged and my DH asked me if we could have the wedding in either Mexico or Hawaii. I agreed as that's his one request. I would love a beautiful beach wedding too but it really doesn't matter to me where we get married. When we talked to his parents and I tried to include them in our planning they straight up told us " get married locally or in Las Vegas or we will not come to your wedding". My DH and I were very upset and hurt by this. I was more hurt for him than myself. They claim they're not beach people. Las Vegas they love and go a couple times a year because they like gambling. My DH refuses to have a Las Vegas wedding because he feels that they will spend the entire time gambling and it won't be a fun family vacation/ wedding if we do that. My DH has told me to go ahead with the planning but I just can't. I didn't feel right about getting married without his family being present and we've had no luck changing their minds.
His sister has been married twice - once in Hawaii and once in the United States. (They travelled to both these weddings) His brother has also been married twice - Both these weddings were in Canada but there was still travelling involved. Money is not an issue for his parents so Its not that they couldn't afford to travel to our wedding.
I feel like they are being difficult because they don't want him to marry me and its breaking my heart. His father had the audacity to say " you better only get married once because I'm only going to one wedding" right in front of me! I was mortified by this and hurt.
Sorry this is so long... Anyways, we are going to go ahead with the wedding planning and stop waiting for them to come around. Am I being unreasonable to be angry at them? And not plan the wedding where they want it?
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To be mad my MIL and FIL for demanding where our wedding is held and threatening not to attend if its anywhere else?
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Momofthreeloudkids · 23/07/2013 18:23
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