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Would I be unreasonable to say no to this wedding request, or should I grit my teeth and try?

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babybearsmummy Mon 22-Jul-13 10:53:26

I'm a cake baker by trade, but since the end of my pregnancy I decided to cut my workload down and only bake for family and friends occasions.

My friend got engaged a year ago and one of the 1st things she did was call to ask me to make her wedding cake and I was very excited for her, especially when we'd get a few mins here and there to plan it.

2 weeks after asking me, she emailed me to say that she and her fiancée had decided to go with another cake maker as her fiancée's family had always used that company for their special occasions and her o.h had presumed they would just have that company. I was futted but thought it was their day so no point getting upset.

She messaged me yesterday in a state as the wedding is on Friday and her the company has pulled out of making their cake last week. I've called my suppliers this morning but they can't get everything I need sorted until Wednesday at the earliest, leaving me with just a few hours on weds evening and Thursday evening to make it. I don't have anyone to look after dd as my o.h is working til 7pm this week and his parents are not well and there's no one else close to have her. And I don't think I'd want her to be away all day for 2 days as it's not fair on her (if I'd even get it finished in 2 days as I'd originally planned 4-5 days to get it all done)

So would I be really horrible and unreasonably selfish to say no to her? Or should I just try to get something together for her in the space of those 2 evenings? WWYD?

Cakebitch Sun 28-Jul-13 12:37:40

Reputable cake suppliers do not let you down with one week to go.They pull out all the stops , working all night, if they have to
. Whats the betting too that your friend wants you to do it not only ridiculously last minute, but for cheaper than she would have paid??? This is the reason i do not do cakes for friends and family.
Do not do it.

Thumbwitch Sun 28-Jul-13 13:55:15

Cakebitch - not that simple. There was one person in the cake supplier company that the bride wanted to do her cake, and that person was sick. Apparently no substitute within the company was acceptable to her, so she reverted back to the OP instead.

diddl Sun 28-Jul-13 14:16:04

But the cake people didn't let her down, did they?

She chose not to go ahead with anyone else.

So really only herself to blame.

OldLadyKnowsNothing Mon 29-Jul-13 21:00:56

This is what happened next...

ProphetOfDoom Mon 29-Jul-13 22:07:12

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

foreverondiet Mon 29-Jul-13 22:31:20

Just say you'd love to help but sorry its not logistically possible due to timescales.

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