to have so much time off work due to morning sickness?(45 Posts)
Am 8 weeks pregnant with first DC. Have felt like death since week 4. Rarely throw up but the nausea and exhaustion is overwhelming.
GP has been very supportive, keeps trying me on different drugs (prochloperazine then Phenergan) but nothing helps.
Been signed off for 3 weeks now, am confident I could get this extended if need be. I get ok sick pay so that's not an issue.
Problem is, I'm not getting any better and I don't want work to think I'm taking the piss.
Is it unreasonable to tale so much time off? I feel like others must have this but plough on regardless?
I just can't get off the sofa/bathroom floor
Posted here rather than pregnancy threads for traffic.
Don't feel guilty!
With ds I was signed off from 7 weeks with HG until he popped out!
26 hospital admissions for dehydration, lost three stone during the pregnancy, teeth are ruined from being sick so much =[ (sorry this isn't meant to make you feel worse, honest!)
It wasn't just the sickness, it was the tiredness & how utterly drained I felt just from walking from my bed to the kitchen.
I put so much pressure on my self to return to work, I would go in for 20 minutes & throw up all over the floor, and even still no one at work really understood the full effect the pregnancy was having on me, they thought I was being pfb about it & that I should eat some dry crackers, have some ginger biscuits& then start lifting weights/running marathons/Etc.
I really sympathise with you, because I felt like a laughing stock at work, hated the phone call to my line manager saying the doctor wasn't letting me return to work & hated hated hated (!) the comments about how so & so from this department was pregnant & she was coping fine. (Bitch) or how pregnancy "isn't an illness."
Just remember this is why there are laws in place to protect pregnant women in the work force from being sacked or treated unfairly for sickness. Because pregnant women can truly be so poorly!
If it was a hangover, I'd say get on with it, but it's your baby. So look after yourself, get someone to buy some extra sick buckets so you don't have to keep getting up to the loo, & sleep like your life depends on it.
And keep going back to the doctor if you need to!
Hope you feel better soon!
YADNBU!! Morning Sickness can be so debilitating and this is often overlooked and the ignorance surrounding it, often by men who obviously have never had to put up with it or women who have no sympathy because they had very little morning sickness and bang on about you being pregnant "not ill" , is shocking.
Take the time off.
Ran countless times to throw up at work and would be in toilets ages. Ended up off work for 3 weeks. I had a few snide comments from one person who has never had children so I said my piece back.
Morning sickness is horrendous, have never felt so bad. It's physically draining because you can't keep anything down, but mentally too because you spend so long feeling shit.
Rest as much as you can. You would never have been given medication if you didn't need it, and your doctor wouldn't have signed you off work. I did go back too soon and it didnt help, and ended up leaving earlier than I was intending on. Take as much time as you need because you need to think about you and your baby. Good luck.
That's a good way of looking at it. you're right, if I felt this way without being pregnant I still wouldn't be going in.
Sorry others are feeling the same, its shite isn't it! Hope you all feel better soon!
Lol @ the idea of twins, it had crossed my mind and they do run in the family!
I had several weeks off with sickness early in both my pregnancies. It was so bad I could barely gets to the bathroom, I used to lie heaving into a bowl in the spare room in the middle of the night. No way could I have done my job (district nurse), I could barely get dressed.
When I did return I still felt lousy for several weeks and used to drive round patients with a plastic bag on the passenger seat just in case!
Try ignoring the fact you're pregnant and just think about how dreadful you feel. If you felt this bad because of eg gastroenteritis/flu/migraine you'd stay off, wouldn't you? Whereas you wouldn't for a headache. The only difference with pregnancy is it potentially lasts longer, but if you're not fit for work then you're not fit for work and you shouldn't feel bad about it. You never asked to feel this awful and someone else could just as easily fall over skiing or rock climbing or even get hit by a bus and be off for weeks.
cylon yadnbu I ended up with 8 weeks.off and a couple of hospital visits for drips. I couldn't keep.a thing down, even water and kept going dizzy and light headed from it. I lost nearly 2 stone in that time I was so ill. Pregnancy itself may not be an illness but the side effects can be incredibly debilitating and it is important that you rest and let your body recover
Mmmmmm I felt this rough in my second pregnancy ...,.. Turned out it was twins.,,,,, just saying!
OP I am in your boat. 8w pg, managed one day at work in the past two weeks. I was so sick this week I ended up in hospital.
During my last pregnancy I struggled into work, having to pull over to vomit several times aling the way. This time I am resting. I feel like I've been hit by a bus. Had to lie down for a couple of hours and have a nap after a shower today. Not good!
Take as much time as you need.
Thanks GrimbleTart that's a very nice thing to say.
OP, You are ill and if you are ill, pregnant or not, take the time off. Your health and your baby's is the most important thing.
And I am saying that as one of these lucky women who had no sickness or nausea at all in pregnancy so might be expected not to understand or sympathise. But I do understand, and I do sympathise.
Just in case it helps, I spent my frost preg trying really hard not to be sick, but second preg i ate like a horse and just realised I was going to be sick soon. It was utterly depressing though feeling that ill for such a long time.
op, I was sick up to 10 times a day with both dc'c up to about 14 weeks, then got slowly better and completely stopped by 28 weeks. Weeks 8 -10 were the worst for me. It affects everyone differently. I took one week off for second preg but I was allowed to work from home twice a week during sickness which helped. And then worked from home compltely for last two months as my commute was 4 hour round trip and I had other probs. please please do not feel bad. You and your baby r the most important thing. Look after yourself
I'm pregnant with my third and honestly can't believe how well I have felt this time. If I had felt like this first time round I would have been one of those people who couldn't understand what the fuss was about! But first pregnancy my doctor actually wouldn't let me go in for 6 weeks and basically said he was giving me a sick note and that was final. I could hardly eat at all, sick a lot and kept going dizzy/faint as my bp was very low. I have quite a physical job where I stand all day, work nights on call and do 13 hour shifts so not really safe. I felt really guilty and was sure my employers would hate me but they were great. They even bent over backwards to accommodate me part time when I went back :-). 8 weeks was rubbish for me too, then one day a few weeks later I just woke up and
didn't feel like death! Hope it happens to you too.
I'm now 11+4. I've had very similar morning sickness in that I've had pretty constant nausea, exhaustion and an upset stomach. I have been able to eat very little, so I've lost 4kg in just over two weeks.
I battled on with work until week nine, working from home rather than the long commute. By then I was such an exhausted mess I went to the gp. He put me onto reduced hours.
The last two weeks have been easier but I've still struggled. I'm tempted to ask for a total sign off as I have days (weds-Fri last week) when I'm exhausted and constantly ill. It has got better, but I've find it's much better one day but then several days back to where it was. I think I find the bad days harder as my body is more exhausted.
So don't feel bad for getting signed off. If you need to, you need to!
OP take as much time as you need, you and baby are far more moorland than work. I've been off for almost 3 months with hyperemesis, I know my work are not happy but unless they want me spewing and fainting over my colleagues there's not much they can do. Individuals from work have been ver sweet and supportive though.
Thurlow OMG really?? Wow! I can believe it tho. Am lucky that the drugs mean I can keep water down. I can't imagine how awful it would be to have HG/MS and no access to drugs/a drip.
Am on my phone so can't name check everyone (going on the computer seems to make it worse!), but thank you everyone for your replies!
Fellow sufferer here too! DC 2 on its way and been signed of for the last 2 weeks.
Not throwing up all the time this time (last time was 5-6 times a day but could keep water down) but literally can do something for about 10 minutes and then have to lie down. Can drink water but struggling to eat food. I have had nausea and tiredness since about a week after conception but this is a whole different level. Lost a stone already and quite honestly feel like I have flu combined with alcohol poisoning the whole time.
Last time I pushed myself and kept going back for a week and then having to be signed off for a week. Not doing it this time despite being in a senior management position now! I'm sure I probably should feel guilty but I know from experience that the stress makes it much worse so have switched off my blackberry..
I am sure you are the same that you would love to be in work rather than feeling like this!
When I was pregnant I had dreadful sickness, throwing up about ten times a day, could keep nothing down etc. I thought I just had to plod on, I went to Uni and work and popped off on sick breaks. Anyway I made myself ten times worse because I didn't get the rest I needed, I was utterly exhausted.
If I could go back I would take all the time off in the world! Your body is going through enough as it is, dont make it worse for yourself if you.dont need to.
And it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks, its hard to understand unless you've been through severe sickness but it really can be debilitating. Rest and good luck x
Yes, millions of women have been pg and have carried on, but not as many get such bad sickness - and did you know they think Charlotte Bronte died of it? So it just shows that sickness can be absolutely bloody awful. Take all the rest and/or nausea drugs you need to.
My colleagues are generally an ok bunch so am not overly concerned about them tbh.
If they did have any snide comments they would more than likely say them to my face so I could challenge it.
I guess I just worry that billions of women have gone before me popping out babies and still carrying on and getting on with it, whereas I feel pathetic for feeling like this.
Thanks for you replies tho, I think I will speak to my GP again on Monday.
CheeseFondue I really feel for you working with food! Everything smells VILE at the mo!
I had 8 weeks off in both pg, and was in and out of hospital from weeks 8-14 both times. It was hideous, but did, one day in week 15, just stop. Just like that. Both times. Work were really supportive, luckily I have a female boss!
I think the problem is some people have morning sickness and its just the odd moment of nausea. Some of these people find it particularly hard to understand why some women may need time off. I was told that coming into work might "take my mind off it and make me feel better".
Fortunately my doctor was more sympathetic and once you have the sick note there is nothing they can legally do.
that's what I found frustrating OP - I just wanted to be able to work and do my normal things. I felt a fraud taking time off when I didn't have HG and wasnt being sick all the time but I just wasn't capable of working.
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