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to want to scream at these relatives!

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missesjellybean Wed 17-Jul-13 14:56:01

so I'm at the hospital now ... I've just had my 20 week scan, I had an operation a few weeks ago on my cervix so I'm not supposed to stand for prolonged periods but I've just been sent through to wait to see the doctor...and told there is a 2 hour delay...and there isn't one single seat to sit on.
the waiting room is about 30 degrees with no windows or seats and every single pregnant lady here has at least two relatives with her and they're all occupying the seats
I thought some kind relative who is just here for moral support would give up their seat for a clearly pregnant lady but they're all just pretending not to see me stood here absolutely roasting with no where to sit so they don't have to move. wibu to throw a massive diva strop at demand a chair....or at least ask the receptionist who is also pretending to ignore me to ask able visitors to stand so actual patients can sit....shockangry

EvieanneVolvic Wed 17-Jul-13 15:19:45

Kobaya I object. I was being agressive aggressive: not passive aggressive at all wink

missesjellybean Wed 17-Jul-13 15:19:47

lol maybe...hehe could be paranoia! (most likely is) grin

abuhamzamouse Wed 17-Jul-13 15:19:50

Fuck their death stares. They should bloody stand. Next time just ask someone direct, I am sure they would have stood up if put on the spot.

Owllady Wed 17-Jul-13 15:20:04

I am not pregnant but I can empathise as the last time I took my daughter for a hospital appointment, who is quite obviously severely disabled, no-one would move for her to sit down. then one man moved so she could sit but the woman next to him who could have moved along so that i could sit next to her wouldn't move so we ended up sitting either side of this woman who became increasingly irritated with my daughter talking over her about any random crap that came into her head hmm

Emsmaman Wed 17-Jul-13 15:23:08

My advice from taking the tube every day until 4 weeks before due date is that you must single out a person and ask. If you ask a general waffly "will anyone stand..." it is hard to get a volunteer.

Amber76 Wed 17-Jul-13 15:23:10

Saw this happening at maternity hospital here (Ireland) - midwives who were in and out of room occasionally loudly said "if you're not pregnant please stand and leave seats for those who are". Was shocked as well that they had to ask.

KobayashiMaru Wed 17-Jul-13 15:23:28

I've been in that situation. I just walk up to the nearest non-pregnant person and said, politely, "may I have your seat please", and they give it. Easy as that.

grumpyoldbat Wed 17-Jul-13 15:23:43

Hope you don't have to wait too long OP. I wouldn't have had the nerve to ask anyone either, possibly not even the receptionist.

Picturepuncture Wed 17-Jul-13 15:25:10

Glare back, I'm appalled that a receptionist had to wait for a midwife to tell people to stand up. Has no one got any authority of their own?

Own that chair OP! You are so unbelievably in the right!

EeyoreIsh Wed 17-Jul-13 15:27:42

Just ask! Why would you stand and get angry without asking first?

But don't ask someone who doesn't look pregnant. I've had to wait in the same area as pregnant women for scans as to why I'm not pregnant/check after miscarriage. Or ask a bloke to be on the safe side!

zzzzz Wed 17-Jul-13 15:27:55

handcreme yuk, scary hmm chucking out relatives supporting a pregnant lady at a difficult scan hmm . Your post does read as VERY xenophobic.

jelly I'm glad you got a seat. Feel totally unconcerned at silly relatives, you are protecting your baby.

YouTheCat Wed 17-Jul-13 15:28:09

I just used to faint on unsuspecting people when I was pregnant. That used to do the trick. And I was massive with twins so looked very pregnant from about 4 months on.

Glare OP. Glare a lot.

Noideaatall Wed 17-Jul-13 15:31:32

I had to stand in a hospital clinic when pregnant & was too scared to ask for a seat. Then a nurse came over & said - are you ok, you look pale? & found me a seat next to a window & offered to come & fetch me when it was my turn. And she did!
Restored my faith in the human race. I take the tube too so it was completely gone before that.

PedantMarina Wed 17-Jul-13 15:40:37

"Anybody here who isn't pregnant, raise your arse"

SauvignonBlanche Wed 17-Jul-13 15:44:54

Well done jellybean smile

ifyourehoppyandyouknowit Wed 17-Jul-13 15:46:20

I had the gestational diabetes test (where you have to not eat for ages then have blood test, drink a bottle of lucazade, wait two hours and then have another blood test). The waiting room was tiny, and people were specifically asked not to bring partners or family members with them. Anyway as I am waiting, in this packed little room, some poor girl is also waiting. With her bored looking partner and her MIL (who phoned about four people and regaled them all with the tale of how she was waiting for x to have blood tests "cause she's so fat, right, that they're checkin she ain't diabetic and that she's not hurting the babba wiv all that shite she eats" . All sat down while the rest of the pregnant women are standing. The room suddenly went deathly silent as the MIL got a massive bag of cheese and onion crisps out of her bag and proceeded to munch on them. Loudly. In a room full of pregnant women who hadn't eaten in 12 hours.

BigPantyGirl Wed 17-Jul-13 15:46:46

Selfish bunch. Go and lie yourself down over a few of the, say you're about to faint. Arseholes... I was pregnant 4 years ago in this sort of heat, it was hell and I didn't have a cervix problem to worry about x

ThePowerof3 Wed 17-Jul-13 15:48:34

Anyone who is pregnant in this heat would get my seat and maybe a medal!

tiredlady Wed 17-Jul-13 15:48:36

Handcream - don't know why you felt you had to mention race in your post? The OP didn't mention in her post whether the rude inconsiderate relatives were white/muslim/otherwise. Why did you? It added nothing to your post and came across as a bit racist. Just saying....

rubyflipper Wed 17-Jul-13 15:48:47

Glare right back at anyone who has the cheek to stare at you!

LadyClariceCannockMonty Wed 17-Jul-13 15:52:21

Fuck them and their stares. How ignorant, and how sad. I don't know why the midwife had to be the one to ask relatives to stand. hmm

I'd have just said to the nearest non-pregnant lazy fecker person 'Please can I have that seat, I'm pregnant and not well.'

OddBoots Wed 17-Jul-13 15:55:51

It's a few years since I was last pregnant but the hospital waiting room always had a big sign saying that seating was for patients and others should give up their chairs for them. I always thought the sign was redundant but clearly it isn't.

Aniseeda Wed 17-Jul-13 15:57:39

Shocking! I honestly can't imagine my DH not giving up his seat to a pregnant woman in that situation. Horrible people.

HeffalumpTheFlump Wed 17-Jul-13 16:00:33

I posted about this a couple of months ago. Obviously it wasn't as hot, but a massively pregnant woman came in and not one person offered her a seat. After giving her mine despite being nearly 5 months gone myself she told me she was a week off being induced with twins. Still not one bugger offered her a seat, and the room was full of male partners who were obv not there at the womens clinic for themselves! She also told me she had just walked 20 mins to the hospital too, poor woman looked exhausted! I was disgusted.

BumpAndGrind Wed 17-Jul-13 16:00:58

This has got me thinking.

I'm 17 weeks and have quite bad hyperemesis. I was in the chemist the other day waiting for the pharmacist to sort out my prescription for ketosticks. Its a tiny local chemist so only 2 little seats in the corner and there was one other woman in there with her 2 DC (about 4 and 6).

The children were sat in the seats and she was stood at the counter about 4ft away. They had obviously been told to sit there to keep them still and out of mischief.

I felt like I was going to faint but let them be, they were there first. Should I have asked for asked for the seat? (I only have a tiny might just be fat bump)

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