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AIBU to think about calling social services?

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Simbaline Wed 17-Jul-13 10:47:41

Really not sure if I'm being over dramatic here or not. There's a big old house next to us that's divided into quite large flats. We are also in a flat in a house next door but both on the first floor. There are people living in this flat - I've only really seen the children, never the adults. I've seen at least three kids, a couple of whom look like they should be at school but I never see them leave the house. I'm not here all the time obviously and don't spend all the time that I am here looking out of the window so I could just be missing them.
The last two nights I've been woken up by the children crying and screaming and the sound of adults shouting. Not horrendously but the kids sound really distressed, it's goes on for quite a while and it's at 3 in the morning. Last night it was loud I got up and looked across - all the lights were on and by peeking through a side window (too much?) I could see two of the kids lying on the wooden floor of the lounge, I think having their nappies changed and them being covered with a blanket but the lights being left full on. I knew the family that lived there before and there are at least three or four large bedrooms and there were two sofas with nobody on them in the lounge. The kids seemed to be dressed too. The curtains are always closed in all the windows and it just doesn't feel right but I haven't seen anything really clear.

Sorry its a bit long but am I over reacting or should I call someone?

fanjoforthemammaries7850 Fri 19-Jul-13 10:37:54

(so lets not be Dueling Fanjos winkgrin)

Satnightdropout Fri 19-Jul-13 11:00:26

Well done for calling up, I would've done the same.
Social services don't like to rip families apart contrary to popular belief. My mum knew a lady that had social services called on her for serious offences like tying her 3 year old to the bed because she wouldn't stay in one place, and going days without feeding them. Regardless of this, social services gave her numerous chances, even paid for a little holiday at the local caravan park to give them a change of scenery, hoping she would. She didn't and her kids were taken away from her (rightly so), but this was after yonks of social services trying their best to make her a better parent.

Satnightdropout Fri 19-Jul-13 11:01:28

*hoping she would CHANGE.

GoshAnneGorilla Fri 19-Jul-13 11:02:17

OP you did the right thing.

RoxyFox211 Fri 19-Jul-13 14:56:40

Im going against the grain here but I would have definitely wanted more evidence that something was wrong before informing ss. Even if they found nothing amiss their names would still be registered somewhere & could make life difficult for them later down the line. I dont really understand what you think is going on? They're up in the night having nappies changed in the living room? What's the problem :s ?? That being said I'm the only one who seems to think this way! Would never get involved unless there was clear evidence of abuse. sometimes my daughter wakes in the night and runs around naked (specially in this heat) shouting. It's very difficult to cool/calm her down. I'm paranoid someone will report me or something now, which would destroy me. Our house isn't very tidy or anything, and we're a bit odd. but our daughters well looked after and very healthy.

xylem8 Sat 20-Jul-13 20:51:20

To begin with you say their flat and yours are both on the first floor, then you say it is a loft conversion but you can still see the floor so presumably must be looking down at the window from above.
Then you say you have regularl;y seen children at the windows, but the curtains are always drawn.
Have you though the curtains might be drawn to keep the sun out and closed because they have a mobile air con unit
How on earth do you know they never go out. Their curtains are always drawn and I can't imagine you spend more than a tiny proportionof your time watching their front door!

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