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to think kids should leave school without all this fuss?

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Newcupboards Fri 12-Jul-13 20:41:48

Leavers' Assemblies where every last ounce of emotion is wrung out of kids, parents and teachers with Year 6 murdering singing 'Slipping Thru My Fingers' whilst photographs of them from Reception to current day are projected onto the wall.

Then there's the Leavers' Proms! Bloody tacky American import angry

In my day we had a quick mention in morning prayers (primary) and a disco without a limosine and the same at secondary. Now it's squeals and emotional incontinence.

Can't we just get back a bit of British stiff upper lip and get on with life changes without making such a drama.

jamdonut Sat 13-Jul-13 13:53:48

Every year Leavers Assembly (primary) makes me cry. I just can't help it ...and I'm staff!

As for Prom,my daughter was on her school's committee. We spent an entire year having to think about it!

In the end, we personally spent about £80...that was a short dress from Ebay for £33 which looked GORGEOUS,shoes, bag,make-up. Hair and make-up all done by herself and she went in an ordinary people carrier with her several friends. I noticed girls wore much more sedate,classy dresses this year. Presumably no-one wanted to look as if they were out of Big Fat Gypsey Wedding!! However ,there were some who had spent hundreds on dresses,and all the the rest, including limousines. Seems a bit over the top to me.

They had a lovely night though!

nickymanchester Sat 13-Jul-13 14:31:08

As others have said, it does seem to have gone overboard now. However, I'm sure that they'll still remember it when they are grown up.

We had a Leavers assembly at junior school, the whole school attended, and the one thing I still remember very vividly from that - as they played it every year - was a piano duet version of ''Fings ain't wot they used t'be'':-

Don't know why they did it but I still remember it to this day. So, I'm sure kids today will remember these things when they're grown up.


I've spent a few years abroad and, actually, I think that it's a shame that we don't celebrate the start of the year as well.

When I lived abroad, the first day of school was a really big deal with speeches, new pupils giving flowers to the teachers and a ceremonial ''First Bell'' being rung jointly by the youngest pupil in the school and the oldest pupil in the school.

For anyone interested, there's a short video here with English subtitles:-

piprabbit Sat 13-Jul-13 14:36:37

When I left secondary school, we were escorted from the premises on the day of our last exams (obviously everyone did different exams so difference people had different leaving dates) and told to never darken their door again.

There were people who I had been friends with for many years and I never got to say goodbye. It still makes me cross that we were denied the chance of a proper goodbye. I don't know why the school chose to treat us like this, previous years were treated a 'special', we got treated like shit on their shoes. It probably stems from the same attitude that lead to the teacher in charge of supporting students through UCAS and clearing, booking his holiday to coincide with A-level results coming out.

Panzee Sat 13-Jul-13 17:56:05

So who remembers this one?

Clary Sat 13-Jul-13 18:01:21

I hate the limos for yr 6 tbh. A friend just mentioned he had had to pay out £35 for one for his dd.

£35 is a lot of money in this house. I think it's a bit silly. I have already told DS2 no for next year.

I do like the leavers' play and disco etc tho.

manicinsomniac Sat 13-Jul-13 18:18:25

Try witnessing the mass emotional hysteria that comes with 13 year olds leaving their boarding prep school. I felt drained and headachey by the end of it just watching all the hugging, sobbing and theatrics.

But even I (as a teacher not a parent) felt teary. When you've watched the children develop from age 7 into what they are now it's hard not to.

And I can't really blame the children either. They're hormonal, they've grown up together and are, in many ways, all brothers and sisters. They don't live close to each other and they're going to a wide range of different senior schools all over the country. Certainly the end of an era.

dementedma Sat 13-Jul-13 18:24:17

Ds had just a leavers Mass a few weeks ago for leaving primary which was lovely. When the dds left high school ( I have a big age gap) they had a leavers ball but it was sensible and pretty ball dresses for the girls and kilts for the boys - not a limousine in sight.

cardibach Sat 13-Jul-13 18:31:11

It's not new, though, just a change in terminology. I am old and when I left primary school in 1976 we had a Leavers' Disco and a special Leavers' Service in the evening in the church (state primary, but with church links) at which we were all presented with a bible and there were speeches, hymns and performances.
When I left Secondary in 1983 we had a 'Dinner Dance' (a prom by another name) which necessitated dressing up. It was at a local hotel and we all loved it.
I think the excessive dressing up/limos etc at primary is OTT, but the principle is the same.

sensesworkingovertime Sat 13-Jul-13 20:02:09

YANBU I hate hate hate all this prom stuff with 16 girls looking like Katie Price or someone off TOWIE it's just urrrggghhhh. For my leavers disco in 1982 it was the time of Dexys, hence I had the dungarees etc I would have to be dragged kicking and screaming to all this shite they have these days.

SelectAUserName Sun 14-Jul-13 06:45:42

I think there's a middle ground between nothing to mark the occasion at all and a full-blown sobfest at every stage, and I think it has swung a bit too far towards the latter these days.

Whatdoiknowanyway Sun 14-Jul-13 09:09:31

I went to a convent school. We had a leavers' mass. We got to choose our own readings and hymns.
I prefer the modern way, a prom and muck up day.

Blueandwhitelover Thu 18-Jul-13 18:00:47

We had the leavers' assembly today, I cried.
We had wonderful news about one of the children yesterday which meant so much both to them and those of us who have been with them over the last few years. (some of us including me shed tears over it yesterday too!)
We are professionals but we do care!

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