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AIBU?

to think if we are going out for family meal ds should get one too

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likesnowflakesinanocean · 12/07/2013 13:41

family occasion coming up, two elder relatives have decided to take family out totalling about 18 people so has to be booked. my dad told me in passing yesterday that they won't be ordering ds age 6 a meal because it would be a waste of money. ds is quite a good eater there are lots of things he likes. I then said well I will pay for ds meal. oh no they are going to ask for a small plate so he can have bits that won't get wasted. aibu to think if you invite us out for a meal you invite us all and that 6yo ds is capable of eating a children's meal in restaurant. its not as though they don't see him often so know that he will. wibu to say we were not going if this is the case.

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FoxyRevenger · 12/07/2013 13:42

Well, he's 6, he should have a meal of his own, not scraps! A 1 year old, fair enough, but 6?

I would just not mention it again and order DS a meal at the time; if there's any debate just pay for it yourself.

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Robinredboobs · 12/07/2013 13:44

Yanbu. Thought you were going to say he was 2 or 3 years old..then maybe sharing a plate would be fine. To do that to a 6 year old is mean.

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likesnowflakesinanocean · 12/07/2013 13:44

I thought that too, wouldn't object if he was a toddler but he is 6 that week. good idea about paying when there.

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EnglishGirlApproximately · 12/07/2013 13:45

My 15mo gets a meal when we go out! Surely at 6 he's perfectly capable of sitting and eating a meal with family? I'm a bit baffled by their logic really.

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Groovee · 12/07/2013 13:45

My children have always had good appetites. I'd order a meal regardless

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NinaJade666 · 12/07/2013 13:47

What foxy said.

How bloody rude!

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likesnowflakesinanocean · 12/07/2013 13:47

I'm baffled too, he goes there for tea so they know he will sit and eat. they do a children's roast which he loves.

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BrandiBroke · 12/07/2013 13:47

I agree with Foxy. Just go and when you get there ask the staff if they can add on a child's meal that you will pay for separately. I'm sure they will do this.

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DaddyPigsMistress · 12/07/2013 13:48

What?! My two year old wouldnt be content with peoples scraps!

Yanbu

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Meglet · 12/07/2013 13:48

yanbu. My DS can eat a decent sized meal in a restaurant, he'd be whingy and hungry eating leftovers.

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Sirzy · 12/07/2013 13:48

Of course a 6 year old should have a meal. What a strange thing to suggest!

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Dackyduddles · 12/07/2013 13:48

Just order yourself on the night and watch them eat words as he cleans plate.

Hopefully, else they will sit triumphant!

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raisah · 12/07/2013 13:49

Take him and order and pay for his meal to show that he is a good eater. They can't stop you from buying your son a meal so swallow your pride & go, this is your opportunity to show them up.

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Dackyduddles · 12/07/2013 13:49

Reckon they just don't want to pay....

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PrincessKitKat · 12/07/2013 13:52

Scraps from others plates?!!!
Have they booked a restaurant in 1804?!

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ihearsounds · 12/07/2013 13:52

Show up and order him a meal. My youngest would be offended at not having his own meal, and would not shut up asking where his meal was.. He would not accept other peoples scraps. He would eat his own meal and depending what I/dp/siblings were having, help us as well..

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5madthings · 12/07/2013 13:52

Yanbu even my two year old gets a meal when we go out. If I tried to just give my five year old bits of mine etc he would be very unimpressed!

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likesnowflakesinanocean · 12/07/2013 13:53

I wondered if it was cost, but they aren't short of money they are paying for entire meal for all guests. feel abit put out as 9 and 11 yr old family no questions but ds supposedly will waste it.

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wonderingifiam2013 · 12/07/2013 13:53

Can you politely tell your Dad that you won't be sharing your meal as your DS eats far too much! But you're happy if they want to share theirs ... Wink

Then suggest it might be sensible to order him a children's meal after all - so as not to 'spoil' anyone elses meal and leave THEM hungry Wink

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likesnowflakesinanocean · 12/07/2013 13:56

that would be hilariousGrin he would go round take everyone else's meat and be quite happyGrin.

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NatashaBee · 12/07/2013 13:59

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TWinklyLittleStar · 12/07/2013 14:00

Haha, they are being very unreasonable, at 6 my nephew could eat more than me when the mood took him. My family would never.suggest this because the scraps my relatives would leave.wouldn't feed a gnat on hunger strike.

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wonderingifiam2013 · 12/07/2013 14:01

and then scoop a mahooosive spoonful of dessert into his mouth ... followed by 'please sir ... Grin

They're just being mean - in all seriousness, if it's going to cause problems I agree with the posters above about ordering him a meal when you get there

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likesnowflakesinanocean · 12/07/2013 14:02

should say not my dad who's saying no meal for ds its the elderly relatives who are planning the meal. think it will be a case of ds gets own meal or we don't go. am working so hard trying to get him to recognise he is growing up a bit things like this I don't want to encourage

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ouryve · 12/07/2013 14:07

If I don't give my 7yo enough food to keep him busy, he starts to help himself to mine! (not the vegetables, of course. I'm allowed to keep them)

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