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To want to be able to go to the park with my family without having to listen to these pricks swearing infant of the kids

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IamtheBatman Sun 07-Jul-13 15:25:30

I'm at the local park it's a lovely day and we're listening to good live music having a picnic. And these twats behind us are talking loudly and saying "fuck this" and fuck that". There are kids all around us. Now i don't mind a bit of a swear, but in front of a bunch of kids? For gods sake!

Fenton Mon 08-Jul-13 10:37:49


It is one of my pet hates, swearing in a public place. It's up there with spitting, bare chested men in the street and bum cleavage.

Eyesunderarock Mon 08-Jul-13 10:32:09

ThreeBee, DS used to do that when he saw people breaking the rules.
He still does on occasion, parking on zig-zags, smoking in banned areas and the like. When it impinges on his Aspie world.
But because he's 6', unsmiling, loud monotone and looks like a werebear, people tend to comply and admit that they are in the wrong, or just park somewhere else.
I don't get the problem with your son being 11 and reminding people when they are being inconsiderate arseholes, there'd be a lot less whining on MN if people did keep a few simple rules. grin

Eyesunderarock Mon 08-Jul-13 10:25:47

I hate random swearing for no particular reason, we rarely swear in my family, but it isn't illegal, so other than asking politely, moving away is the best thing you can do.

Nanny0gg Mon 08-Jul-13 10:21:35

yabu, it's not up to other people to childproof their conversations so your kids only hear what you want, move away from them or accept that your kids are going to hear language in public that you dislike.

Um, actually it is up to other people to think about their audience when they're talking.

It's basic good manners.

BackforGood Sun 07-Jul-13 23:54:26

I was coming along to say the same as Suburban

How can you complain about other people's language, then use language like that in your title, and finish your opening post with a phrase that's is pretty offensive to some people ? confused

Double standards or what ?

Burmillababe Sun 07-Jul-13 23:45:32

Sorry Threebee just saw your later update!

Burmillababe Sun 07-Jul-13 23:44:07

Threebee - I would be very wary of him doing that, he may say it to the wrong person one day.

IamtheBatman Sun 07-Jul-13 17:54:42

Suburb, i am aware i swore in the title as i said i have no problem with swearing in the right place. And Mumsnet is that place smile

IamtheBatman Sun 07-Jul-13 17:46:42

Ok aetae, so you swear in front of kids all the time? I don't think that's right. I know kids hear swearing, it's about when and where you use it. I swear all the time at work it's not a problem when i'm with work colleagues. But i wouldn't in front of a customer. If you just use it as punctuation it doesn't mean anything and you risk swearing when you really shouldn't.

Aetae Sun 07-Jul-13 16:34:02

Really? You expect people in a public place to stop swearing just because your children might hear it?

Your children have already heard it, anyone who thinks stopping their kids from swearing by pretending the words don't exist is deluding themselves. Far better to explain to them why it's inappropriate than move I would have thought.

And as for the people on the thread who actually ask other people to change their language when they're not even talking TO you, how rude! The world doesn't require you to be its moral police.

ThreeBeeOneGee Sun 07-Jul-13 16:28:58

I think some people get into a habit of swearing where it ceases to mean anything, it's just sentence polyfilla, in the same way that some teenagers I mean DS1 use "like".

But what happens when those people need a stronger word for emphasis? There's nothing left to use.

everlong Sun 07-Jul-13 16:25:59

I'm with the OP.

Why should my dc have to listen to someone eff and jeff?

I have told people to zip it. Usually does the trick. They are embarrassed more often than not.

SuburbanRhonda Sun 07-Jul-13 16:25:12

And there's a lot of bad language in the OP and title, if we're being picky wink

I have a parent who comes into school for 1:1 meetings with me, and her language (in our conversation, in school) is shocking.

I ask her not to say certain words as they are not necessary in our conversation, but she just can't help herself.

ThreeBeeOneGee Sun 07-Jul-13 16:22:48

We don't encourage it, or even condone it. It starts, then one of us goes over and stops it swiftly. Then we have the same conversation with him (again) about why it isn't wise to do this. This is why we still accompany him to the park every time, even though most of his peers now go without an adult.

Sorry, Iamthebatman: your thread seems to have been derailed while I try to justify my parenting. I hope you were able to move to somewhere a bit more peaceful to enjoy your picnic.

LadyBeagleEyes Sun 07-Jul-13 16:20:51

I didn't realise that, ThreeBee, obviously in that situation I would be very patient with your son.
But if I'm in a public area I will have a fag and even a drink if it's a picnic or something.
I don't swear much though, except if I'm on MN or if I'm very very cross.
I don't get cross often though.

TidyDancer Sun 07-Jul-13 16:15:22

I don't think it's an especially good idea to allow/tolerate that kind of thing ThreeBee. There's a very good chance someone will lamp him at some point, and nobody wants that.

Not that I disagree with what he's saying, but just as a parent I don't think I'd be happy with my child being allowed to confront strangers!

LastTangoInDevonshire Sun 07-Jul-13 16:12:15

My son has Aspergers - no way would I have let him lecture anybody on anything ThreeBee

ThreeBeeOneGee Sun 07-Jul-13 16:08:57

LadyBeagleEyes: I don't do anything of the sort, but then I'm not autistic.

He does get hmm looks from a few people, what with the lecturing and the hand-flapping and the occasional tics. Fortunately, most people are a bit more tolerant.

KirjavaTheCat Sun 07-Jul-13 15:47:45

Ugh try having it all day outside your front door. I live next door to people who put deckchairs on the pavement (no front gardens, terrace) and drink beer while their children run in the (busy) road.

Thank God I'm moving.

LadyBeagleEyes Sun 07-Jul-13 15:46:30

If your eleven year old son came up to me or my son and lectured about smoking/drinking/language I'd be a bit hmm, threebees.
Clearly he's just repeating you.

Lj8893 Sun 07-Jul-13 15:42:57

Your son sounds brilliant!!

ThreeBeeOneGee Sun 07-Jul-13 15:37:17

He's eleven... going on fifty-one. grin

IamtheBatman Sun 07-Jul-13 15:35:57

Yeah we've moved.

Sparklymommy Sun 07-Jul-13 15:35:42

threebeeonegee how old is your ds2? He sounds fab! I have a dd1 who can be heard loudly moaning about vandalism and graffiti a lot. Always makes me grin!

zoraqueenofzeep Sun 07-Jul-13 15:33:44

yabu, it's not up to other people to childproof their conversations so your kids only hear what you want, move away from them or accept that your kids are going to hear language in public that you dislike.

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