AIBU to think that 7am on a Sunday is far too early for kids to be out playing?(115 Posts)
I'll lay my cards on the table early: DH and I have no.children yet. I also quite like the sound of children playing (not the screechers, mind)
BUT... 7am on a Sunday? I remember as a kid that we weren't allowed out until at least 9am or something on a normal day, let alone a day when it is universally acknowledged that most people are enjoying a bit of a lie in.
Not only are they loud but the noise they make as they jump off kerbs on their scooters is horrendous.
If you live in a residential area in the uk then The law requires you to not make loud noises before or after certain times it also requires you to only make reasonable noise between the two specified times.
I don't mind on a Saturday, but I think a Sunday morning is the one morning where MOST people can take their time and have a bit of peace (obviously some poor sods have to work)... it was very hot this weekend though, and my children were up at 5am, so it didn't FEEL late, but you know, there is a compromise, keep it quiet!
aldiwhore you make a very good point! It's not just kids playing out, it's neighbours mowing the lawn, washing the car blah blah blah. You've got all day to do that stuff. Don't be so bloody selfish.
It never fails to amaze me how some people here defend what is essentially ill manners.
Yes, we all have to put up with noise, some of it unsocial hours. But letting your kids out to play at 7am on a Sunday morning is selfish and bad mannered.
A bit of consideration for others goes a long way in life, you know. God forbid anyone should try and prevent your childrens needs to express themselves at 7am
Our children were in the garden at 8am on Sunday, BUT they were under strict instructions to keep it quiet until after breakfast (we ate at 9.30) I felt I'd found a happy compromise... until at 8:05 our neighbours revved up their chainsaw and started chopping down a tree, shouting at each other and generaly making me think all bets were off.
YANBU to think that everyone should be a little quiet early in the morning, YABU to think it's just children who can be inconsiderate!
I posted a few weeks ago about the noise outside of kids playing while I was putting dc(3) and baby to sleep. It was about 8.30pm then and had taken me way over an hour iirc because of all the screaming, screeching, swearing outside.. I made it clear I have no problem with them playing, its the noise levels yet I got such a toasting because how dare I think my dc's sleep trumps the right for kids/teenager's rights to play outside as late as they like
They like to play up and down the cul de sac, funnily not in front of their own houses much. So I dont see why one child's right to play out as late as they like trumps another child's to play out as early as they like.
Despite my annoyance, I am still considerate an keep ds inside until at least 9pm.
Goodness me, some people get so heavy on here! What's with all the aggression? Take a chill pill folks.
I'm a mother with growing kids, and blimey, whoever said only childless have parties? What planet are they on. A good BBQ and a few beers with music (not too cheesy or mentally loud) is great for relaxing. But my kids still don't go crazy outside too early. They certainly have a few argybargies in the house though!!!! (2 boys). My street is full of kids and we all must think alike because I can't remember being woken by child-noise-pollution.
See, I have trained my children to weekends.......they woke at 9 am this morning, came into me, climbed into bed, and we all dozed off again, snuggled up together till half ten......bliss.
Won't be long until it's dark and dreary at 7 in the morning.
So not long to put up with kids having early morning fun.
The children round the back of me are having an absolute whale of a time, trampolining, some sort of bubble machine, there is water spraying over the hedge (so I will not be able to dry any clothes). It is brilliant, but then it is not rediculously early in the morning.
If you live near people they will make noise sometimes.
you cannot live near people and expect not to have to hear them.
If you don't want to hear them YOU need to do something about that be it move somewhere isolated, ear plugs, sound proof your room or god forbid think of your own solution.
I agree it's not on to send then down the street so your not the one listening to them.
Plenty of people have pointed out that everyone has different sleep patterns.
I get on very well with my (childless neighbours) they make a noise when they feel like it, we make a noise when we feel like it. Neither of us is being inconsiderate IMO we just don't stamp our feet and have a paddy every time it's a nice day and we both want to use the garden.
I hate to bring the law into it but it should be pointed out that excessive noise between 11-6 is considered anti-social anything outside if that is luck of the draw
I am single and childless. Yesterday I was enjoying my back garden lying in the sunshine. Next door (left) were playing cheesy
shit dance choons from 0900 till about 1700. Small children shrieking and splashing, dad shouting at them for running, hitting etc etc. next door (right) had contesting cheesy shit pop music all day. Dad and 2 kids playing football with the adjoining fence (me and them) as the goal post bang bang bang bang I had a BBQ. We were laughing, joking and smoking and drinking. At 10pm I dragged us all inside and closed the back windows (kids all sleep at the back of the houses).
I guess they were being unreasonable for the constant cheesy
shit music, shouting and footy, I was being unreasonable for smoking and drinking till late. I didn't complain, nor did they.
But 7am on a Sunday? I'd be ready to kill. 8-8:30 I wouldn't be happy, but y'know, it's summer, they're kids....
It's a lovely day.
We don't get many, let the kids enjoy it.
"People suggesting earplugs that work for them are ignored."
Earplugs do not stop the thumping vibrations of those wretched scooters.
"But assuming your assumption was correct how would her making noise in my garden be less able to bother me in house that adjoins garden than in those along the street"
That would be because
1. she is your DD
2. In the garden for you would be less noise
"You talk about compromise but the only compromise you offer is that the kids should shut up until a time that suits you."
The compromise is that between 0900 and whatever time she goes to bed I do not come round and complain about the squeeling, laughing, crying, slamming around and general noises that children make.
"People suggesting earplugs that work for them are ignored."
been there tried that, a little over 6 months worth of ear infections and sinus problems.
YABU. And I say that as someone who has no children and slept into 10am this morning. Next doors youngest was up about 6am, I registered that and went back to sleep.
Everyone needs to be a bit tolerant, we put up with their kid noise, they put up with our watching films late at night. They sometimes tell their kid to be quiet and we turn our films down if it's late. If you want total quiet then move to an isolated house in the country, in reality we all have to adjust to each others noise.
I used to work shifts and often I'd be sleeping in the day. Should everyone forbid their kids from playing in the street between 9am and 3pm because I am trying to sleep?
sorry, but that's way too early - DD nipped into the garden at 7.30 this morning (door was open in kitchen for cats) - I hoicked her back in smartish. I had a summer of neighbours doing this a few tears back, pre-DD, every Saturday and Sunday their kids were out at 7.30, for about 6 weeks. I do not have loud parties every single weekend. In fact, I've had a loud party about 3 times in the 9 years I've lived here. If I did have a loud party till the wee hours every weekend, I would expect the neighbours to complain - and rightly so. It's called living with others.
HH - if you are so insistent that your kids have to be out at that hour (they have of course more than enough hours to be outside, surely - 9 till say 6 not enough?) then you move to the backside of nowhere where you can teach your kids to be as inconsiderate as you.
I am a single parent of 3 - 2 have SEN - I manage to keep them in
We've had the family from further down the road screaming and squabbling over bikes from 7am this morning. Followed by continual knocking for my kids from 8am
If they want to scream at each other, they should do it outside their own house - but then they'd be annoying their own parents and that won't do
No I can't she requires constant supervision, as a lone parent I don't really have convenience as an option.
But assuming your assumption was correct how would her making noise in my garden be less able to bother me in house that adjoins garden than in those along the street
You talk about compromise but the only compromise you offer is that the kids should shut up until a time that suits you.
People suggesting earplugs that work for them are ignored.
I have trained my dd to sleep with a lullaby cd on to create a sound barrier between her and what ever noise is going in. I do not expect everyone else to shut up for her, I found a solution to our problem ie noise at nap time and bedtime because that was OUR problem to solve.
I certainly did not think the solution to that problem was to go round to my neighbours and complain about them making a noise when my kid was trying to nap, can you imagine!
"Excuse me mr/s NDN but half past 7 is my daughters bed time and she finds it difficult to get to sleep when you have your tv on that loud but don't worry in return for you ceasing all noise when convenient for me I will keep dd seen and not heard till 9/10"
exactly BoneyBack - parents are kicking these kids out so they can get a lie in or a break - and everyone around has to share the noise
My 3 have no problems staying in doors until 8:30/9am - they aren't desperate to go out - they play in their rooms, eat breakfast (make me a cup of tea in bed ) - I don't understand why parents find it so hard to entertain them indoors for a bit
nice for your other neighbours, to have to put up with both of you. Late nights and early morning, lucky them!
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