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ChickenLickenSticken Sat 06-Jul-13 08:44:35

At my 10 day check with dd my midwife said "well done getting a girl, they are harder to conceive... Next time if you want a boy, give me a shout and I'll tell you how"... She's got nearly 40 years mw experience so I kind of believe her, but am not going to ring the doctors surgery and ask them o ask her for me!!

Do any of you lot know what she banging on about?? Surely any tips are purely anecdotal?

I remember hearing that girl sperm and boy sperm survive/swim differently but can't remember what way round.

Day 3 of ewcm here and whilst we're not ttc for a couple of months it'd be interesting to know these things, even if they are all a bit pie in the sky??

So come one, tell me your experiences and tips of choosing your baby's gender?

<only semi-serious by the way>

Innacorner Sat 06-Jul-13 08:46:48

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UnicornsPooGlitter Sat 06-Jul-13 08:47:26

In the kindest possible way, she's talking rubbish smile.

NewAtThisMalarky Sat 06-Jul-13 08:48:06

I don't know what your midwife would say, but I can tell you what worked for me.

I had unprotected sex.


eurozammo Sat 06-Jul-13 08:49:19

You have sex. You have a 50/50 chance of a boy. Your midwife sounds like a loon.

If timing sex could influence it you'd never get boy/girl twins would you?

Tee2072 Sat 06-Jul-13 08:50:46

Have sex. Conceive. Wait to see what the gender is. You have a 50% chance either way.

fatlazymummy Sat 06-Jul-13 08:52:41

The only thing I have heard is that having sex 'doggy' style is more likely to produce boys. Not sure if it's true though'
I know there is a book out there somewhere - there is an actual method involving diet, timing , positions etc, again not sure if they work but it's do with the differences between XX carrying sperm and XY sperm.

tiredandtiredandtired Sat 06-Jul-13 08:52:47

Sex the day before, or on the day of ovulation for a boy, three to four days before for a girl

honeytea Sat 06-Jul-13 08:53:18

I have been told that boy sperm swim faster but die easier and girl sperm are stronger but slower so in theory if you have sex 3 days before ovulation all the boy sperm will be dead before the egg gets released so you will get a girl baby but if you have sex on the day of ovulation the quick boy sperm will get to the egg before the slow girl sperm.

It wasn't the case for us, we had sex at least 3 days before ovulation and then not again till after ovulation and we have a baby boy ( we were not trying for a girl we were just happy to finally be pregnant)

jacks365 Sat 06-Jul-13 08:53:56

In theory boy sperm swims faster but dies quicker than girl sperm so you could potentially time it to get a boy or girl. Doesn't work though, according to the way it works my fourth should be a boy but she isn't. ( didn't try for a boy just messing around once pregnant trying to guess the sex) in fact when looking into it just about everything said she should be a boy.

Idocrazythings Sat 06-Jul-13 08:56:41

Another here who thinks she's a bit bonkers you get what you get I think. She maybe needs to retire.

Idocrazythings Sat 06-Jul-13 08:57:32

Haha the bonkers midwife talking about how to bonk! grin

MojitoMagnet Sat 06-Jul-13 08:58:41

Timing sex can have a very slight influence on the probability. All it does is make the odds more like 47:53 rather than 50:50 so it's not exactly a sure-fire method.

However, it has been shown that on average sperm carrying a Y chromosome (for a boy) swim faster but die sooner, and sperm carrying an X chromosome (for a girl) are slower but more enduring. However, it's like saying "men are taller than women" - on average it may be true but you always get some tall women and some short men so it's not always true.

If your cycle is regular enough to work out your day of ovulation in advance, and avoid sex for a week before then (you can even postpone it for a bit after ovulation as the egg takes a while to travel up the fallopian tube) and only then have sex, then only the fastest-swimming sperm will get there and you have a better chance it will be a Y sperm. If you want to aim for an X sperm, you need to have sex 2 days before you ovulate, but then NOT have sex after that till your next cycle - so only the longest-lived (and therefore more likely to be X) sperm survive to fertilise. (not really a brilliant way to TTC though, as you're more likely to have many many months with no BFP if none of the sperm are quite that long-lived)

Fakebook Sat 06-Jul-13 09:00:26

Hahaha. The theory is that girl sperm last longer so if you have sex straight after your period before ovulation it's much more likely the girl sperm will hang around until the egg comes down and fertilise it. Boy sperms die quickly but are faster so you're suppose to have sex as closest to the day of ovulation as possible so they get to the egg first.

It's all bullshit though! I don't know with dd1, as she was unplanned, but I had sex almost everyday a week before ovulation with DS and he was conceived. Did the same only once with this pregnancy and its a girl. You can't choose to conceive a specific sex!

WafflyVersatile Sat 06-Jul-13 09:02:08

There is only one thing that ^ slightly^ alters your chances and that is the age if the father. Older fathers are more likely to have girls.

Perhaps she's suggesting a one night stand with a twenty year old.

Girls are more difficult to conceive is nonsense.

ChickenLickenSticken Sat 06-Jul-13 09:03:02

Rumour has it she's a sex therapist too.... She deffo is bonkers but a fantastic midwife. She's like the Joanna Lumley (not patsy!) of midwives.

When I was pg with dd she'd apparently correctly guessed the gender of something like 50 babies on the trot by listening to the heartbeat. I didn't want her to tell me what I was having so told her not to say.

So if I'm day 3 of ewcm when might ov take place??

VisualiseAHorse Sat 06-Jul-13 09:03:08

I had lots of fabulous sex to get a boy.

Maybe less frequent and boring sex = a girl?

Awizardsstaffhasaknobontheend Sat 06-Jul-13 09:04:25

Actually you are more likely to have a boy than a girl but the difference in probability is only a couple of % points. It all gets evened out though as male babies have a slightly higher rate of infant mortality.

VisualiseAHorse Sat 06-Jul-13 09:04:51

I've heard that men with more brothers than sisters are more likely to have boys.

And butchers are more likely to have girls.

AuntieStella Sat 06-Jul-13 09:05:27

The MW sounds utterly bats.

There are slightly more male babies born than female ones.

But the only thing you can do is have sex and hope you conceive. The differences in 'swimming time' are marginal. And sperm (both X and Y) can live for several days in vivo.

Bogeyface Sat 06-Jul-13 09:15:41

It used to be believed that the heart rate was slightly faster for a boy than a girl, but that theory was thoroughly debunked in the 90's. She is just probably really good at guessing or is......exaggerating? wink

There are no guarantees when having a baby, and I like that. In this "I want it my way and I want it now" world, I think its good that we have a reminder that mother nature is still in charge!

StuntGirl Sat 06-Jul-13 09:18:54

Have sex.


You now have a 50% chance of having a boy.

Tortington Sat 06-Jul-13 09:20:49

you must suck a lollipop preferably strawberry whilst wearing a red coloured hat and hopping on one leg - the leg must have a fake tan - just that leg - this is ver important.

NicknameIncomplete Sat 06-Jul-13 09:22:32

I dont believe that girls are harder to conceive. My whole family is made up of 99% girls.

elQuintoConyo Sat 06-Jul-13 09:24:11

Bury a potato under an elm tree under a full moon while barking.

What's your mw been smoking?

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