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To let me daughter put 'no address' letters in the post box every few days? Or is it causing too much extra work for Royal Mail?

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FiveSugarsPlease Fri 05-Jul-13 21:24:22

My daughter is 5 and has HFA.

For the past few months, she's been telling me about a teddy bear friend called Jerren who lives in Africa. She likes to draw pictures and letters for him.

For the past few weeks, she's been wanting to post them each time. I agreed to this as i thought there was no harm. It's just 2-3 sheets of paper in the post box each week that can be recycled/put in the bin quite easily, and it keeps a little girl happy.

But posting one of the pictures today, a man and lady stopped me and said i was causing a lot of extra work for Royal Mail by littering the post box with nonsense.

DD tried to explain to the lady about her bear friend, i tried to subtly explain, too. The couple just rolled their eyes and walked off.

I'm now wondering if I'm BU letting dd post these letters? She'll be heartbroken if i make her stop before she's ready or before this phase naturally wears off. But if it's some sort of crime and/or giving the postal workers extra work, I should stop, yes?

Opinions would be very much appreciated.

fanjoforthemammaries7850 Fri 05-Jul-13 21:25:43

I would let her do it..they sound like miserable swines IMO

Jengnr Fri 05-Jul-13 21:25:53

The couple are joyless wankers.

What's it to do with them anyway? Ignore.

Sokmonsta Fri 05-Jul-13 21:26:35

Could you send them to friends and family who could write back? Yes it'll cost the price of a stamp. But stops your dd littering the post box and encourages interaction.

AtYourCervix Fri 05-Jul-13 21:26:42

What if you had an address for Jerren? Not in Africa but he might write back.

KatyMac Fri 05-Jul-13 21:27:10

Put it in an envelope, write someone's address on it & they can send her back a nice letter/picture

I'll do it if you have no-one suitable

nicky2512 Fri 05-Jul-13 21:27:38

No do not stop! That's lovely and i'm sure there's a lot worse posted!

catgirl1976 Fri 05-Jul-13 21:28:43

Oooh I'll be Jerren if you like grin

Your DD sounds lovely and that couple sound like horrid old grinches.

bigfuckoffpie Fri 05-Jul-13 21:29:58

I knew a postie aaaages ago, he said there were all sorts of weird things posted in letterboxes. He once found a worn bra and pants. That kind of puts Jerren into perspective.

I'd go with the suggestions of getting a real address and replies, though.

ArtisanLentilWeaver Fri 05-Jul-13 21:30:03

Could you make a special mail box together at home and then see if Jerren replies? wink
Pair of miseries saying it was extra work for the postman.

BrianTheMole Fri 05-Jul-13 21:30:46

Well, i guess it would cause a bit more work. Hmm, couldn't you post it to someone instead. They could write back? You could try and get her a penpal too if she likes writing letters.

FiveSugarsPlease Fri 05-Jul-13 21:30:48

That's a lovely offer, thank you. I've suggested this to dd, too. But she tells me Jerren can't write back because he's just a teddy bear grin

And she draws a picture of his house on the back of her pictures/letters, rather than write an address. I've tried writing the address of one of her relatives on it, but she threw a fit and said i'd ruined everything.

I know the couple have a point though. And Royal Mail are already under lots of pressure.

I went along with this in the beginning because i thought it would only last a short while, and she'd get bored.

But what if it carries on 'til Christmas when there's lots of mail etc? Royal Mail will truly hate visiting my local post box.

ITCouldBeWorse Fri 05-Jul-13 21:30:59

Miserable sods.

I'd be delighted to be jerren as well. Or any other friend if jerren is already taken.

Seriously, it would be quite an honour

Jan49 Fri 05-Jul-13 21:31:04

YANBU but could you put the letters in an envelope and address it to a friend or relative and let them know? Then it would be treated as normal mail and your dd could carry on posting the letters. I would imagine they just get chucked in the bin which seems a shame. if I had a 5 y.o. friend/relative I'd enjoy receiving their pictures and

I reckon there are plenty of badly addressed letters that cause far more extra work for Royal Mail than your dd's notes.

HotCrossPun Fri 05-Jul-13 21:31:29

Agree with what others have said.

I bet the postman love reading her letters to Jerren, something different isn't it?

BrianTheMole Fri 05-Jul-13 21:31:37

Actually i bet there is all sorts posted, never thought of that.

MrsTerryPratchett Fri 05-Jul-13 21:31:41

I bet MN could find you a 'Jerren' in Africa. Have you seen (in Classics) the thread about pen pals for someone's little boy? Have a look and maybe PM someone who lives somewhere exotic...

Keep bumping this and post in Living Overseas. Good luck. The mean couple will probably both stub their toes. Or something. Bad bear karma.

Desiren Fri 05-Jul-13 21:32:15

My daughter went through this phase so I would use per paid envelopes like the ones you get with junk mail. The company would then get a lovely picture from my daughter.

ITCouldBeWorse Fri 05-Jul-13 21:32:17

I could paw print a response!

Desiren Fri 05-Jul-13 21:32:44

*Pre paid

MrsTerryPratchett Fri 05-Jul-13 21:33:12

x-posted with Jerren being a bear and unable to reply. Silly me grin

Doodledumdums Fri 05-Jul-13 21:33:59

That is ridiculous, interfering miserable trouts.

Your daughter sounds adorable, and probably makes the postman smile if anything!

I would also love to be Jerren if you would like someone to write back to her smile

Jan49 Fri 05-Jul-13 21:34:20

Maybe Jerren has a friend who might reply on his behalf?

CajaDeLaMemoria Fri 05-Jul-13 21:35:00

We had a child at nursery who did this. Her consultant advised that we humoured it, so we let her do it once a week until the postman threatened to stop collecting the nurseries mail if we kept putting 'crap' in there.

So we came up with the plan of letting her write to her doll and writing an address on a sticky label while she did it. We then slyly stick the label on as she posted it. It worked well (albeit a lot of the labels were wonky!)

Would that work?

PerchedOnMyPeddleStool Fri 05-Jul-13 21:35:35

I'd imagine nobody cares unless someone in the sorting office has children and thinks awwww when they see it.

I'm wondering how or why someone engaged you in conversation about what you were posting.
I would have been inclined to tell them mind their own business.
For all they know you had a stamp on it.

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