Ok, I don't want to dripfeed, but neither do I want to bore you all to tears with a post of epic proportions, so will try to keep to the main points and will explain in more detail if anyone has any questions.
DS is 22 this year. Since he was 16, he has ping ponged from living at my house to living at my mothers house, with a short spell house sharing with a friend.
At the moment, he is living at my mothers house.
Since he has lived with my mother, he has become increasingly selfish, entitled, disrespectful, rude and lacking in empathy. He only cares about his friends and his social life, and is regularly in all sorts of trouble.
I fear he is throwing his future away by getting in the trouble he is getting in, which is becoming more and more regular, yet he has very few consequences which affect him.
Anyhow, about 2 weeks ago, very unexpectedly, he began picking at everything I was saying, so I asked him 'DS, why are you picking at everything I am saying?'
To which he replied 'If you don't know what my problem is, I am not going to tell you.'
I asked him again to tell me what was wrong, but he repeated that if I don't know what is wrong, then he wasn't going to tell me.
AIBU to think that if you have a problem with someone that you want to resolve, you bloody well tell them what the problem is?
AIBU to think that if DS doesn't tell me what his problem is, then he's obviously not bothered about sorting it and would prefer for us not to work it out?
AIBU to feel bloody uncomfortable every time I am at my mothers when he is there now, because it is so blatantly obvious that he is still angry about something he wont discuss, and am now wishing I didn't have to go to my mothers.
Also, where do I go from here? When all is said and done, he is my DS, and I feel I am being ostracised without knowing what supposedly awful wrong I have done?
I am finding myself getting angrier and angrier as the days/weeks go by, because if he doesn't want to tell me, fine, but how long am I supposed to be punished for a wrong I don't know I've done by putting up with his rudeness and insults while I am at my mothers and we cross paths? I've wracked my brains for 2 weeks now, and haven't come up with a single plausible reason, plenty of implausible reasons, but none that make sense IYSWIM.
This is childish and pathetic right?
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littlemisssarcastic · 04/07/2013 19:49
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