Earlier today i was in the town centre with 5yo dd (high functioning autism) standing at a bus stop waiting to come home.
My phone went, i answered it. It was an important phone call so i made 'shushing' gestures to dd. She was fine for a minute chattering to herself, but then she asked me a question. I just nodded in agreement, not hearing what she'd asked, and then she started crying and stamping her feet yelling at me I was supposed to have said no...
Anyway. I'm used to her overreacting like this when people don't talk/walk/move/breathe in the way she would like them to, so i kept a firm hold of her hand and ignored her. All the while, continuing with my phone call.
DD got even more frustrated. She started hitting me. Again i ignored it. But then an old lady came to the bus stop and i saw her crouch down to dd and tell her off for hitting me.
I asked the person on the phone if i could call back, they said no, so i quietly whispered to the old lady that i was just choosing to ignore dd, so could she please do the same.
But the old lady seemed appalled with this and said she has to be taught respect and manners blah blah blah.
DD got even more upset, but finally stopped hitting. I was trying to wrap up the phone call as quickly as i could.
meanwhile, the old lady was still telling off dd. Telling her that big girls don't cry, and she's all blotchy and ugly when she cries, and that the policeman will take her away if she ever hits me again.
Finally, i got away from the phone call. It lasted about three minutes. DD was hysterical again. The old lady then told me off for 'choosing my phone over my child'. I explained that dd's tempers are common and just part of our daily routine. I've learned to fit life around them. I can't let everything come to a standstill whenever she kicks off. And that if the old lady had ignored her - like i'd asked her to - then she would have calmed down more quickly.
The woman then said something along the lines of 'I'd hate to imagine what you were like at that age' and then buggered off.
So. It's kind of been eating away at me since i came home. Who was BU?
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Who was being unreasonable? Me or the old lady?
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RumersHasIt · 03/07/2013 15:59
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