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AIBU to want people to tell me if there's a problem instead of sulking about it

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Bunnygotwhacked Wed 03-Jul-13 08:35:14

Dp does this and so does his sister. Sil is obviously in a bad mood and probably with me/ my dc's understandable as we have been staying with her for a while now but if she would only tell us exactly what the problem is/what we have done to annoy her I could fix it. Instead I feel like i'm walking on egg shells and that everything i do is wrong having no idea which of the things i am doing is the offender IYSWIM. I have asked outright whats the matter to be told nothing. Dp is worse he will storm around the house in a huff like this morning for example yes i forgot to put dc's clothes onto wash last night resulting in a massive rush this morning. I know that this has caused his current mood but will he admit it will he buggery.
If I have an issue with someone i will tell them usually straight out and that can lead to awkward conversations but the issue is dealt with and not hanging over everyone. It just makes me so uncomfortable and on edge

TanglednotTamed Wed 03-Jul-13 08:43:41

Yanbu. I can't be doing with sulkers, total waste of time.

extracrunchy Wed 03-Jul-13 08:49:43


redexpat Wed 03-Jul-13 09:31:45

YANBU! It's especially annoying when you ask directly, and they say 'nothing'.

Latara Wed 03-Jul-13 09:40:17

YANBU I like people who are normal and straight with you.

LifeSavedbyLego Wed 03-Jul-13 10:31:03

Dh is a sulker too. Last big sulk was when i was getting up a bit later in the morning in the school holdiays i did it for a fornight he said nothing i assumed all was rosy. He even brought me tea in bed - this was apparently a sign I should shift my arse.

When questioned about it he said "people should just understand what the matter is". My responce of "who the fuck died and made you yoda" didn't help.

If you don't tell me I can't know. Winds me up a treat. But he is in all other ways (apart from being unable to tell the time) lovely.

Celador Wed 03-Jul-13 10:34:18

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clarinetV2 Wed 03-Jul-13 10:34:51

YANBU. I can't be doing with adults who sulk - it's childish, manipulative and passive-aggressive. I can completely understand feeling on edge as I've a colleague who typically does this, and I never know where I am. I don't know what to suggest if you've already asked and had no response, but YADNBU.

EeyoreIsh Wed 03-Jul-13 10:38:28


livinginwonderland Wed 03-Jul-13 11:02:52

YANBU, this drives me batty as well.

BreconBeBuggered Wed 03-Jul-13 11:09:23

YANBU. DH does this, and it drives me insane. It's impossible to tell if there's a serious problem or he's just pissed off because he wants to watch something different on telly, because outwardly they're exactly the same: smacked-arse face, lack of response and the inevitable march up to bed. Leaving me downstairs seething, because I cannot abide an unresolved mystery dispute.
HOWEVER...we had a bit of a row the other night about some misunderstanding or other, and I thought, 'Right, bollocks to this, I'm going to up to bed instead of him tonight'. And, you know, it was much nicer having a lie-down than fuming away to myself downstairs flicking V's at the ceiling.

xylem8 Wed 03-Jul-13 11:24:07

I can tell you the answer to this.
Because she is fed up with you being there and wants her house back.
How ever much you love house guests , there comes a time (quite quickly) where you have had enough.

coffeeinbed Wed 03-Jul-13 11:31:05

There's is a special place in Hell for people who sulk.

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