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AIBU?

to wonder what some people are doing on an internet forum when they're not remotely interested in having an honest discussion about anything?

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Lottapianos · 01/07/2013 13:41

I keep reading the following or similar....

'Get a life'
'Get a grip'
'Well if that's all you have to worry about.....'
'You can always switch over/don't have to watch it'
And my personal anti-favourite:
'You're overthinking it' Angry

I'm not perfect - I sometimes start reading a thread and then decide I can't be arsed any more so I move on and don't leave a comment. I don't decide to tear the poster to shreds on my way out though.

Why on earth do people make these ridiculous, fatuous, completely unhelpful comments? They are just more or less polite ways of saying 'shut up and stop feeling what you're feeling'. Just because you have no empathy and can't wrap your brain around someone else's point of view doesnt mean that they are wrong and have no right to feel how they do. By all means disagree but do it honestly and put some effort into the discussion instead of just brushing people aside.

OK, that was therapeutic. Thank you for reading Smile

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BoysBoysBoysAndMe · 01/07/2013 13:43

You're over thinking itGrin

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SugarandSpice126 · 01/07/2013 13:44

Well if that's all you have to worry about.....

Wink

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skintandfedup · 01/07/2013 13:48

I think 'get a grip' is an apt response in some cases.

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flowery · 01/07/2013 13:48

Sometimes the OP of a thread needs to know she's overthinking something, although I tend to agree with you about your other examples.

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LuisSuarezTeeth · 01/07/2013 13:48

Expressing an opinion? Even if you don't like it.

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livinginwonderland · 01/07/2013 13:57

But most of them do need to get a grip.

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WhatHo · 01/07/2013 13:59

I love the word 'fatuous'. That's all I have to say really.

Was that a useful contribution?

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ChaosTrulyReigns · 01/07/2013 13:59

Some peoople like to be snippy.

The world would be a far duperior place if we were all Pags.

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doingthesplitz · 01/07/2013 14:01

It always makes me laugh when the title of a thread makes it perfectly clear what the subject matter is and some idiot goes to a the trouble of opening it in order to respond that they have no interest in the subject matter whatsoever. I presume they think it makes them sound all lofty and superior but they just sound like knobs.

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ThePieSmuggler · 01/07/2013 14:02

I completely agree OP, I'm often amazed people go to the effort of posting something that adds nothing at all to the thread, all the ones that say 'FFS' for example.

Although am now concerned that this very post is guilty of this...

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mrsjay · 01/07/2013 14:02

apart from over thinking it I sort of agree with you people do overthink things panic and get worked up so people sometimes say oh I think you are over thinking and need to calm down it is about getting things into perspective imo, although I do think get a grip and biscuit comments are bloody rude but hey ho we would all be boring if we all agreed

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mrsjay · 01/07/2013 14:03

love the word 'fatuous'. That's all I have to say really.

I dont know what it means Blush

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Thurlow · 01/07/2013 14:04

Nah, I agree. I think sometimes the OP needs to be told to get a grip or that they are worrying about something completely trivial. But other times I think some posters enjoy replying with pretty harsh and unhelpful comments and I think -really, what was the point?

But then it's a public forum and people are entitled to say whatever they want to.

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Fenton · 01/07/2013 14:07

Some people do come here and comment just to be snippy, I've seen it. Sometimes they grow out of it, sometimes not.

I really truly hate to see 'get a grip' thrown at anyone, I lose all respect for anyone who posts that.

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WhatHo · 01/07/2013 14:22

MrsJay - stupid and pointless. But to me it looks like that's what it should mean. Not onomatopoeic, more a silly-shaped word.

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BackforGood · 01/07/2013 14:25

I think most of those responses 'have their place', at times, as do the funny ones as do the slightly sarky ones (in the right place), as do the supportive ones, as, indeed, do even some of the sickly sweet ones. There's thousands of threads on here every day, it's difficult to know in what circumstances you don't think it's appropriate people be allowed to offer their opinion, and when they do.

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limitedperiodonly · 01/07/2013 14:28

I told someone to switch off if they don't want to watch the other day.

They were complaining about an important news story concerning someone they didn't like.

I explained why it was being covered, though I was puzzled as to why anyone would need that pointing out.

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TVTonight · 01/07/2013 14:51

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Lottapianos · 01/07/2013 14:58

WhatHo, it is an excellent word Smile

Surely 'overthinking' is just y'know, 'thinking'? And as a wise MNer once said, it's certainly better than underthinking!

The other one that drives me absolutely potty is when lots of celebrity names get mentioned on a thread, there is always some fool person who will come on and write 'I have never heard of any of these people', or 'who on earth is X?'. Either get Googling or just move on if you're not interested!

'I really truly hate to see 'get a grip' thrown at anyone, I lose all respect for anyone who posts that'

Agree - anyone who says that or similar just makes themselves sound like a numpty.

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mrsjay · 01/07/2013 15:03

Meh". Is that on the list?


I love a meh Grin or a PFFFT i do PFFT quite a lot those are sounds not real words though

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weisswusrt · 01/07/2013 15:40

1st world problem.

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melika · 01/07/2013 15:43

But I hate the ones who dissect every little comma and why you have put it there. Some of them have nothing better to do than go into depth about something trivial when all the OP wants is a YANBU!

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ChippingInWiredOnCoffee · 01/07/2013 15:45

Get a grip.

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ChippingInWiredOnCoffee · 01/07/2013 15:45

Or a life.

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ChippingInWiredOnCoffee · 01/07/2013 15:45
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