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To think what I do with dd before the school bell is my business or aibu

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expectingtoomuch Wed 26-Jun-13 10:03:48

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JazzDalek Wed 26-Jun-13 10:07:54

I think I would express to them that when they can provide DD with the fear-free education she is entitled to, then they can discuss dropping-off protocol with you.

Poor DD. Failure to deal with bullying makes me angry

LIZS Wed 26-Jun-13 10:08:58

What makes you think your dd is the only one being told not to join the file ? How old is she ? I'm not sure what the bullying issue has to do with the school entry issue, or is it that she doesn't want to be left at 8:50 ?

Justforlaughs Wed 26-Jun-13 10:09:29

What Jazz said!

Pigsmummy Wed 26-Jun-13 10:09:44

Ask for a meeting with the head teacher and explain the reasons behind your actions and explain that your DD is genuinely scared of this girl, also mention the residential trip. I don't think that the school are taking this seriously enough. For example are they watching the cloak room? When is the hot spot for issues?

I hope that your DD is ok and can overcome this.

coldwater1 Wed 26-Jun-13 10:11:25

I agree with the above. Your poor daughter sad Also poor you, i know what its like to have your child bullied but luckily every time i have made a big deal out of it it has stopped.

Wheresmycaffeinedrip Wed 26-Jun-13 10:11:43

Arrive a bit later?

Oh and what jazz said

Dackyduddles Wed 26-Jun-13 10:12:36

Agree with Jazz whole heartedly.

Arrange app with HT.

Good luck and hugs for dd.

Floralnomad Wed 26-Jun-13 10:13:35

Your poor daughter . You must do whatever you need to to make your daughter feel better about going in to school , if that's taking her in late every day after the rest have gone in then that's what you should do . It's hardly your fault that the school have failed to deal with this issue effectively. Can you not change schools ?

youarewinning Wed 26-Jun-13 10:14:34

Agree - speak to the school. Your DD deserves to feel safe in school and she doesn't. They need to deal with this and the time she goes in won't then be an issue.

expectingtoomuch Wed 26-Jun-13 10:15:27

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kilmuir Wed 26-Jun-13 10:15:28

Tough. Tell them you are looking after your DD, which they seem unable to do.
I do think you need to see the Headteacher and work a way forward with regard to the bullying. Make a fuss, stamp your feet, I understand you may not want to but sometimes it needs it

Rollmops Wed 26-Jun-13 10:15:51

I would go straight to the head, very calmly and rationally demand to know, in detail, and in writing, what the school is doing to stop the bullying and promise to take the issue up with the governors and involve the local media if the bullying does not stop immediately.
Then I would bite off some heads.

pinkballetflats Wed 26-Jun-13 10:17:21

YANBU. Talk to the head...if she doesn't understand then start arriving at bell mine.

At this point Id also be going above the head's head and making noises with the governors. If the school isn't dealing with this bullying then you need to take it further. The bully sounds horrific...spitting in food? Really?!

Chunderella Wed 26-Jun-13 10:19:28

Yanbu and the school are inadequate.

Wolfiefan Wed 26-Jun-13 10:19:32

Keep a record of everything.
See the Head. They have a duty to keep her safe. If you get no satisfaction then go to the LEA.
Arrive a couple of minutes late each day so she has to go in last?
(I'm a teacher so I'd never normally say students should be late but she needs to be kept safe.)

Wolfiefan Wed 26-Jun-13 10:20:23

And poor DD. This sounds dreadful.

Fenton Wed 26-Jun-13 10:23:47

The school are not dealing with the bully effectively. If anything it is the other child who should be escorted straight to the classroom.

A similar thing was happening to DS, the school started with close supervision of the bully at breaktimes, then banning her from the playground at breaktimes. She then decided to get her bullying done before school as she wasn't able to do it at breaktimes anymore.

Her parents now have to bring her in to school via the reception every day and hand her over to staff.

Talk to the school again. Good luck.

freddiefrog Wed 26-Jun-13 10:25:46

I agree completely with Jazz too

If it were me, I'd make an appointment with the head and point out in no uncertain terms that as they clearly don't seem to be able to keep her safe, you'll be staying in the playground as long as your DD needs you to.

Once they've tackled the problem, then they can start worrying about where you stand at drop off time

LIZS Wed 26-Jun-13 10:27:12

ah ok , sounds like supervision in cloakroom is an issue which I think needs to be the focus of your complaint. They cannot expect your dd to become independent if she is in fear and nor should you have to adapt her arrival to avoid it. are they year 5 perhaps ?

expectingtoomuch Wed 26-Jun-13 10:28:32

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Rollmops Wed 26-Jun-13 10:40:29

Why have you let it go on for months??? The head et al are there to keep all children safe. Your child is not safe. Thus lies the problem they have to fix. Pronto.

ENormaSnob Wed 26-Jun-13 10:44:23

The school need to pull their finger out. It is disgusting that this has not been dealt with.

LucilleBluth Wed 26-Jun-13 10:44:25

I think I would be escorting her in to school. I have learnt over the years that sometimes you have to put your foot down with a school, don't let them fob toy off, either they sort it out or you will iykwim, I would want actual solutions.

expectingtoomuch Wed 26-Jun-13 10:47:14

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