Don't know if this the right place for this, but need to get it out as cannot relly talk to DH. I was married in my early 20's, a marraige which was a bad idea from the start although ex-H and I did have some good times, but towards the end he drank and had affairs - eventually left and I took over the mortgage (could just about keep my head above water) and divorced him, went back to my old name. We had no DC.
Roll forward 15 years and I have remarried to lovely DH, have a DSD and DS and think that I have been very fortunate. Anyhow last week out of the blue I had a letter from the Dept for Work and Pensions - I had been tracked down via my NI number. There was an enclosed ;letter from a pension company that stated that my ex_H had died and that they had been trying to trace any potential beneficiaries for nearly 2 years. I rang and explained that as we divorced I am no longer next of kin so obviouslsy not a beneficiary, they were v apologetic but then asked me loads of questiosn about any other relatives, it was clear that there had been no success in getting hold of any next of kin even his Dad :(
I cannot help but feel sad that anyone would die, relatively young, and there be no family traceable. It's not as if I have given him more than a moments thought for the last 10 years, but I feel so sad and upset at this and that I will never know what happended. DH knows about the letter but is mystified why I am this upset.
Sorry not sure what I am asking really but this is really preying on my mind. Has anyone got any advice?
Thanks x
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ally2006 · 23/06/2013 19:41
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