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Aibu to not want to leave baby?

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Drhamsterstortoise Fri 21-Jun-13 15:48:51

I have a 7 week old dd(breastfeeding).I've been invited on a work night out.aibu to not want to go.Mil says I need to 'man up' and she never felt like this with any of hers.i have an older dd and remembering feeling the same way when she was a baby.Am I overly anxious or is this normal?

Drhamsterstortoise Fri 21-Jun-13 16:57:49

Dehydrating manic-I would think she probably is well meaning but I can't always tell

babybythesea Fri 21-Jun-13 16:58:13

My DD2 is 9 weeks and I haven't left her yet either. And won't be, for a while. It really isn't a hardship - I quite enjoy my baby! I did plan to pop out without her to the shops when my mum was staying but then couldn't quite bring myself to leave her, so I didn't!
She has no predictable routine though, and when she's awake she grazes rather than having one big feed, so if I was to leave her I have no way of telling in advance how much milk she'd want - I very much doubt I could express enough to keep her going for an entire evening as she feeds a LOT!
I left DD1 at four months. Way too early for me, but I had to go back to work. I expressed but couldn't express enough and she had to be topped up with formula. This brought an end to breastfeeding - I tried to keep it going but she seemed to prefer the formula and quite suddenly one night refused to bf.

Stick to your guns - if it's right for you, it's right.

ChippingInWiredOnCoffee Fri 21-Jun-13 17:05:37

This is, unfortunately, what generally happens when grandparents do a lot of the childcare and DP/DH's are still too firmly attached to the apron strings. You can't really blame them, I don't suppose you ever feel your kids are grown up enough to make these decisions themselves grin and feel free to give them the 'benefit' of your wisdom.

You either need to change your childcare arrangements, or just accept that by using her for childminding she gets more involved with your day to day life than you'd like. Personally, I'd rather pay for childcare outside the family myself.

However, all decisions are YOURS to make - whatever feels right for you.

If you want to go, go. If you don't want to go, don't. Frankly, I'd say it would be fair to say that 90% of Mums with 7 week old babies wouldn't want to leave them to go on a works do - unless it was something super exciting and even then.... I don't think many would want to leave them and if they did it would be for a bath & an early night - not going out!!

Drhamsterstortoise Fri 21-Jun-13 17:15:22

Yes chippingIn and whenever I get annoyed by a comment I do try and put myself in her position and work out the intent behind it.As I said, she is fantastic with dd and I wouldn't want to change that.They have a lovely relationship and I am very grateful for that.

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