To not have paid.(66 Posts)
I need a lie down...life really is too short for this sort of pettiness.
you buy something, you pay for it... you were not wrong to ask her for the money. she is showing herself up as petty. it is very difficult in those circumstances not to tarred with the same brush.
You don't need to explain all this to Doormat, op.
You're not in the wrong here (and I'm glad the workplace crap is being resolved ()
It may not be a huge amount of money, but it is the principle of the thing.
Last week before the fallout was childs party...what op says yes
Last week she fell out with friend coz way her ds is being treated yes as op says...
Wow alot has happened over past week hasnt it..lmakes ya think...i have read and reread and still doesnt sit right...
If anyone treated my child like this i would not of gone to party and if it happened at party i would ofbegged, borrowed to pay for my 2 child entrance and foodvand walked out...
This is all a little too convenient imho...i smell a rat and it
Leaves a nasty taste....
X-post with Sarah who explained it all better than me
But doormat OP says that the party was before OP knew how DS was being treated by the other child
Doormat I think the party was before the bullying incident, when the children were getting along.
Then, at some part after the party had taken place, it was revealed that the ex-friend's child was bullying the OP's child.
The school (wrongly) told the OP to sort things out with the other children's parents.
One set of parents dealt with the problem, ex-friend refused to believe it of her child.
OP and her DH were then asked by his colleague to get the money they were owed and didn't have the funds to just pay it themselves.
Ex-friend saw her chance to be spiteful and petty, and she took it by asking for some money back for the party invitation.
I don't think the problems with the ex-friend in the past were about the OP's child. I think that was just the bullying incident and as she says, the final straw. Because once it was her child being treated badly, she ended the friendship. But it happened after the party.
You fall out with an awful lot of people.
D you ever wonder if its you, not them?
I think you are well rid of this loon. You weren't unreasonable to ask her for the money for dh's colleague but her reaction shows you need to run for the hills.
Rhondajean so its okay to accept a party invite from a person who treats your child. Like rubbish...
No its not okay to ignore debts...but i wouldnt want to associate myself. With anyone who treated my child this way inthe first place
Right so it's okay for someone to ignore their debts because they don't like the person they have to give the sum to?
Alt you are absolutely not being unreasonable in this situation. I can't believe people are saying you are. I assume it was you she spoke to about getting this item in the first place
It makes no difference the amount or whether you can afford it. And as for the birthday, the only thing in my view you were bu about was taking ds2 in the first place if a child he doesn't like was birthday child/ sibling but at the same time I can understand you wanting him to try to be part of the group.
Who the fuck asks for money for a kid to go to a birthday party? And AFTER the event?
I agree with Sarah. Loon. You are well rid.
And the fact that her relationship was on stoney ground because the way she treats atlings son...
Excuse me if my son was being treated like crap from one of my friends she wouldnt even be in my company ...she would of been booted up the jacksy well befor any party invite
No atling has used this woman for free party invite for her kids...then striked at ex friend knowing she has forked out for huge party..for a measly 4 quid
Pathetic and nasty imho
Well her dh could of asked for money bk instead of going through atling
Or dont atling and her dh talk in private...if they did he would know the friendship was already on shakey ground...lagree with other previous poster this was stirring it at its best and what even confirms it for me is that msgs are getting bandied about etc that this ex friend is kicking off....so there is stirring going on with big wooden spoon
Explains it all really...
doormat she was involved because her friend asked her to get the item through her DH from his work colleague. So the money had to go back that way.
I don't think YWBU to ask for the money.
I think she is being petty and playing tit for tat.
Draw a line under the friendship. And walk away. I know what it's like- I had a fall out with a very close friend with a child in my DDs class last year. Her child wasn't even my DDs close friend- we , adults, were all close. We holidayed together as families and were at each others houses every weekend. The fall out was horrendous and it was very difficult and awkward bumping into her at school every day.
Hold your head high, chat to other people and don't let her see you're bothered. That's my advice.
Stop stop stop...this is worse than kids arguing in a playground
For a start how dare you get involved in asking friend for money she owes a mutual friend..got eff all to do with you
Friendships have boundaries that you have crossed...no wonder she is being petty back and asking for money bk which is still totally wrong imho...
Then for said friend to be kicking off over being asked...i would kicking off too if my personal business was bandied about. Amongst txt msgs et al....
I am suprised your friend ex or whatever hasnt personally shoved that coinage up your dhs friends arse...
In future butt out ...
YANBU. She is. But am very confused as to why your PIL have your bank card while they are abroad when you knew you were short of cash this month?
Well, it has cost you more in the long run.
YANBU not to expect to pay for a children's birthday meal but YABU to expect someone who is "dead to you" to be happy to get a txt asking for money. I would have told dh just to give the money to the person owed and be done with it.
Still, small problem now solved, move on.
Sorry - didn't realise that things were that stretched for you and I completely understand why this has annoyed you, but the second half of my post still applies as she has confirmed that she's not a friend you want to waste any more time with.
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