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Altinkum Thu 20-Jun-13 16:45:26

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RhondaJean Fri 21-Jun-13 07:50:58

Right so it's okay for someone to ignore their debts because they don't like the person they have to give the sum to? hmm

Alt you are absolutely not being unreasonable in this situation. I can't believe people are saying you are. I assume it was you she spoke to about getting this item in the first place
It makes no difference the amount or whether you can afford it. And as for the birthday, the only thing in my view you were bu about was taking ds2 in the first place if a child he doesn't like was birthday child/ sibling but at the same time I can understand you wanting him to try to be part of the group.

Who the fuck asks for money for a kid to go to a birthday party? And AFTER the event?

I agree with Sarah. Loon. You are well rid.

doormat Fri 21-Jun-13 08:02:01

Rhondajean so its okay to accept a party invite from a person who treats your child. Like rubbish...

No its not okay to ignore debts...but i wouldnt want to associate myself. With anyone who treated my child this way inthe first place

Groovee Fri 21-Jun-13 08:02:56

I think you are well rid of this loon. You weren't unreasonable to ask her for the money for dh's colleague but her reaction shows you need to run for the hills.

HDEE Fri 21-Jun-13 08:10:21

You fall out with an awful lot of people.

D you ever wonder if its you, not them?

SarahAndFuck Fri 21-Jun-13 08:19:43

Doormat I think the party was before the bullying incident, when the children were getting along.

Then, at some part after the party had taken place, it was revealed that the ex-friend's child was bullying the OP's child.

The school (wrongly) told the OP to sort things out with the other children's parents.

One set of parents dealt with the problem, ex-friend refused to believe it of her child.

OP and her DH were then asked by his colleague to get the money they were owed and didn't have the funds to just pay it themselves.

Ex-friend saw her chance to be spiteful and petty, and she took it by asking for some money back for the party invitation.

I don't think the problems with the ex-friend in the past were about the OP's child. I think that was just the bullying incident and as she says, the final straw. Because once it was her child being treated badly, she ended the friendship. But it happened after the party.

iamadoozermum Fri 21-Jun-13 08:20:19

But doormat OP says that the party was before OP knew how DS was being treated by the other child

iamadoozermum Fri 21-Jun-13 08:21:26

X-post with Sarah who explained it all better than me smile

doormat Fri 21-Jun-13 08:45:56

Last week before the fallout was childs party...what op says yes
Last week she fell out with friend coz way her ds is being treated yes as op says...
Wow alot has happened over past week hasnt it..lmakes ya think...i have read and reread and still doesnt sit right...

If anyone treated my child like this i would not of gone to party and if it happened at party i would ofbegged, borrowed to pay for my 2 child entrance and foodvand walked out...

This is all a little too convenient imho...i smell a rat and it
Leaves a nasty taste....

shewhowines Fri 21-Jun-13 08:54:26


It may not be a huge amount of money, but it is the principle of the thing.

Altinkum Fri 21-Jun-13 10:06:57

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trixymalixy Fri 21-Jun-13 10:16:33


Altinkum Fri 21-Jun-13 10:27:36

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CookieLady Fri 21-Jun-13 10:38:38


Floggingmolly Fri 21-Jun-13 10:48:46

You don't need to explain all this to Doormat, op.
You're not in the wrong here (and I'm glad the workplace crap is being resolved (smile)

BlackeyedSusan Fri 21-Jun-13 13:49:34

you buy something, you pay for it... you were not wrong to ask her for the money. she is showing herself up as petty. it is very difficult in those circumstances not to tarred with the same brush.

imnotmymum Fri 21-Jun-13 13:52:17

I need a lie really is too short for this sort of pettiness.

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