Ok I know this is absolute nonsense and don't know why I feel like this. I'm pregnant and so is SIL (4 weeks behind us) we decided not to find out sex whereas SIL has just found out that she is having a girl.
For some reason this has made me really jealous!! We both already have DS - hers will be 4 when baby born mine will be 2. They live very close to the in laws and gets tons of help, grandparents do childcare 2 days a week and loads of weekends, whereas we are 100s of miles away and don't get any support, work fulltime - generally knackered constantly with no social life .
I think I am probably reacting this way because I have a feeling that ours will be DS and that all the attention and praise will be placed on the first granddaughter. MIL is a bit overbearing when it comes to grandchildren (secretly quite pleased there is a slight distance) but we are always told how difficult it is for DIL, nephew not sleeping etc. MIL often says this, how difficult it is for them, how she doesn't know how they have coped etc and it really bloody grates because we are soo tired looking after DS and working fulltime with no help so we find it pretty tough ourselves! Anyway MIL is likely to be ecstatic re: GD and is probably a bit a thoughtless so I can see it really pissing me off - but maybe it is just pregnancy hormones.
Also maybe I wanted a DD more than I imagined - up to this point I really didn't think I cared, in fact I get a bit worried about having a DD and having all the pink crap and princess party shit thrown at me, but now I think maybe I feel this way because I want a DD more than I thought.
Maybe I'm just really daft and competitive , jealous, horrible hormonal nightmare though. At the end of the day I can't wait to have another DC whatever gender and comparing myself to SIL at this stage is just going to end badly all round isn't it.
Give me some perspective wise mn'ers.
AIBU?
to be jealous of the gender of SILs baby!
rowtunda · 20/06/2013 13:26
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babyhmummy probably has it right.
Dm used to find so frustrating when staying with her mil she was all "cousins do this/that/the other better than you". Then she talked to my aunt (both were the dil) and found that dgran was saying exactly the same 
. After that dm and daunt used to chuckle afterwards about it.
Of course there's always the possibility of being wrong, Friend was told definitely a girl, no question. He's a lovely 6yo now.
Tell yourself that your babies are much more georgeous anyway.
We're having a surprise too Rowtunda - for me, however wonderful the present, peeking before the big day spoils it a bit. And besides, it's quite fun listening to people be convinced I'm having a boy and then others convinced it's a girl!
I thought I really wanted a boy when we had DD2. And then I realised what I actually wanted was DD2
She is a joy and her and her sister are so close.
I want DC3 and if I could pick would pick a boy, but I know that whatever person I get will be the one I always wanted if that makes sense?
You're not being unreasonable and you sound very grounded. You'll be fine!
Waiting, my mother still does that, even though I had four boys, then a little girl and then my little girl died.
She phones me to tell me every time one of her neighbours or distant cousins has a little girl, even if they're people I don't know and am never likely to meet. I really don't know why she does it.
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And how did I know this thread would be about feeling jealous that someone is having a girl. These threads are never about the jealousy of not having a boy 
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