AIBU about DS and wedding invite?

[Dontlookattheknees]

A old high school friend of mine is getting married. In school we had been very good friends but have drifted apart (we were in a group of about 8. 4 of us are still best friends but all 8 of us still talk and see each other)
All 7 in this group have been invited to the wedding and were all excited (we want to go out and buy saris to wear)
She is the first to get married out of this group. 
When my invite came it didn't include DS which I was a bit shocked at because it is a massive wedding with lots of kids (a big Bengali bash) but I figured they had to draw the line somewhere so chose not to invite friends kids (I'm the only one out of the 8 to have a DC) It doesn't bother me.
I bumped into her today in town and she said she got my RSVP and I was asking how plans were going.
She said that she hoped I understood why DS wasn't invited
I told her that it was fine that kids weren't invited and it would be nice to have a night out (I'm a single parent) 
She was pleased I understood that it would be difficult to have DS there but I should know that kids will be there at the wedding
I must have looked puzzled because she carried on that because DS doesn't have a father, and that it would upset a lot of guests if a kid "like that" was at the wedding, so she and her FI decided that it would be best if my DS wasn't invited as having him at the wedding wasn't really appropriate

I was stunned, I ended up making my excuses

But that's not on is it?
(I know it's her day and all that crap) but it isn't the 1813 so AIBU to think she is being unreasonable and ridiculous?

[MrsMangoBiscuit]

I'd be declining the invite, and I wouldn't be polite about it.

[NeedlesCuties]

No, that is not nice. Poor DS and poor you!

If that's how she feels about your young son, then what must she be thinking about you as a single mum? Not good!

She is being V unreasonable. If it were me I'd feel really upset, and tell her to stick her wedding up her tight arse.

[Donnadoon]

OMFG Drop that friend like a bad habit!

[HazelnutinCaramel]

Whaaat? Decline the invite but keep it dignified.

[HollyBerryBush]

What does she think you had? an immaculate conception?

[MsGee]

I wouldn't go and I'd tell everyone why. Horrible bitch.

[DontmindifIdo]

Don't go, tell the rest of the group why. Tell her you are insulted.

[RenterNomad]

How the hell would they know thst his father wasn't working, ill, at the bar...?!

[1Veryhungrycaterpillar]

What a biatch, can't believe she thought you'd understand! Who thinks like that?!

[mummymccar]

Completely inexcusable. I'd be wondering what she isn't saying about you (or what she is saying behind your back). I don't think that somebody can actually treat a friend like that, it is a vile thing to do. I'd tell her no and explain why, then delete her number and not see her again.

[HorryIsUpduffed]

Holy shit. Forget the invitation, I'd be declining any future contact.

I don't know a lot about Bengali culture but am that anyone living in the UK in 2013 thinks like that about a child. Vile.

[Szeli]

I get a feeling karma may not be kind to a woman like this. Just you wait til her husbands swanned off leaving their kids behind...

[picnicbasketcase]

YANBU at all. How fucking rude. It's one thing not to invite him and quite another to tell you that his very presence will offend people. I wouldn't go and tell people why too.

[Samnella]

. YANBU and don't go and tell your friends why.

[rainbowfeet]

How insulting!!! As a lone parent myself I would be telling her where to stick her invitation & her friendship!!!
How are people going to know anyway? Could it not be that your partner is at work or away??!! It's not like he's going to wear a badge saying "I have no Dad"!!

[RenterNomad]

His father could be DEAD, for crying out loud. Guess her mind was formed in the judgemenral ways of her elders...

[Jan49]

I read your post and my mouth literally went like this:

Don't go but do tell her why.

[Cherriesarelovely]

Hideous! I would literally never want to speak to her again. I'm so sorry, what a nasty woman. Please don't go.

[gamerchick]

That's seriously appalling! She could have just not said anything instead of sticking the boot in.

Not a nice person, I really wouldn't go and I would tell her why if she asks.

She probably will already know though.

[NeedlesCuties]

... oh, and another thing. Print out this thread, all our comments and post it to her along with your RSVP decline

[SmiteYouWithThunderbolts]

[Allice]

What an awful mean thing to say, I'm quite speechless on your behalf. I wouldn't be able to attend the wedding and I'd have nothing further to do with her.

[HumphreyCobbler]

That is terrible.

What a class A bitch.

[LemonPeculiarJones]

What a nasty, stupid woman. If I were you I would view this as the absolute end of the friendship.

Decline and tell her why. And tell your whole friendship group.