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To serve up spaghetti bolognaise and homemade soup on alternate nights indefinitely?!

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BoshBosh Tue 18-Jun-13 16:06:18

I am fed up with being expected to cater for the whole family. No one ever offers any input about what they would like to eat, and no one ever helps with any food shopping, yet I am expected to dish up a gourmet meal every night and everyone (especially DH!) is quick to moan if they don't like it.

I am fed up with it. I work too, and having to cater for everyone for three meals a day, 7 days a week with no help or input from anyone is taking up too much brainspace.

WIBU to serve spag bol and homemade soup on alternate nights indefinitely until they all get the message that they need to at least put some input in?

BeaWheesht Tue 18-Jun-13 16:07:52


Serve DH bugger all.

beamme Tue 18-Jun-13 16:10:26

If they won't make a decision or help then neither should you. They'll soon get the message when they are hungry.

Snazzywaitingforsummer Tue 18-Jun-13 16:11:43

I'd go further and tell them directly. Evening 1, you will cook spag bol and if they don't like it they can make something for themselves. Evening 2 - DH cooks, same rule applies. Evening 3 - other adults or responsible young people cook. Repeat. If no others who can do it, repeat evenings 1 and 2.

Don't feel you have to do something indirect till they 'get the message', just tell them, and tell them why. Prepare to make yourself a sandwich or bowl of noodles on evenings 2 and 3 as necessary and let them deal with things.

wheredidiputit Tue 18-Jun-13 16:12:59

How old are you dc.

If they are old enough to cook for themselves I'd be incline just to sort myself out and leave them to themselves.

melliebobs Tue 18-Jun-13 16:13:16

Serve nothing n get yourself a takeaway for 1. They'll get the hint!

AdoraBell Tue 18-Jun-13 16:16:38

Stop cooking for people who expect it of you. Walk in, drop your handbag, make yourself a drink of your choice and sit down, complain about your day and journey home.

Then have a family conference about splitting the chores between all the people in the home - unless you have toddlers- and ask 'who is going to help with dinner tonight?'

SugarPasteGreyhound Tue 18-Jun-13 16:16:46

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

MaxPepsi Tue 18-Jun-13 16:18:06

I'd just cook for myself and leave them to fend for themselves.

BackforGood Tue 18-Jun-13 16:31:09

How old are the dc ?
In our house, everyone has to take a turn at cooking the evening meal each week. It's cuts down on the moaning an amazing amount.

melika Tue 18-Jun-13 16:38:37

YANBU I'm fed up with cooking too. I don't work full time but it's still a PITA. No one will offer to cook but do complain if they don't like the look, smell, taste of it. I have even gone to cookery lessons at night school. I'm always looking for good recipes. I'm not a bad cook, other people do like my cooking.

Where did it say ' I will cook all of the time' when I signed the marriage register!!! It's not in my contract, I scream every now and then.

PrincessScrumpy Tue 18-Jun-13 16:43:37

I cook 99 percent of the time - if dc don't like it I might make them toast so they don't go to bed hungry but other than that, if I cook I cook what I fancy. Dh wouldn't dare complain as he'd either end up wearing it or not bring served anything for a week. His dad is very rude about dh's mum's food (yet won't even make a sandwich himself) so DH knows my opinions on that!

I'm an evil wife - just as well dh loves me lol!

GrendelsMum Tue 18-Jun-13 17:23:22

I wouldn't even bother alternating with the spag bol.

Homemade soup every night from now on, I think.

MoominMammasHandbag Tue 18-Jun-13 17:31:46

Quite like cooking but everyone in my house seems to think they are John flipping Torode. Positive comments only please if I am the one doing all the work. And no casual comments about what a great cook your girlfriend is. (I'm looking at you DS)

DuchessOfAvon Tue 18-Jun-13 17:32:34

I am now working three days a week and have instigated a new policy.

DH cooks one weekend evening meal and sorts out one weekend lunch (we usually do a cold sandwich lunch). In practice, this means I get Saturday off.

On Fridays, the girls get to choose what they want , DD2 & I shop for it and make it after school. Sometimes, they will even put it together themselves (they are 4 & 6) - pizza for example. The quid pro quo is that they don't get to whine about anything else they get served that week.

I fast on Mondays and Weds so DH has to sort himself out - likewise on a Tuesday when out playing sport, he "sources" dinner for himself.

Thursday night we try to eat together a.k.a. date night.

Now my cooking burden is considerably lighter. grin

YANBU - I once fed my kids pasta, pesto and peas for 8 straight days until they were BEGGING for something else.

Tortington Tue 18-Jun-13 17:34:31


just dont cook

its not hard to do do basic things,

after dinner tonight, tell them your not cooking anymore and they can all kiss your arse.

slave to yourself girl...slave to yerself

ParadiseChick Tue 18-Jun-13 17:34:56

Take our out leave it. That's our rules!

GrendelsMum Tue 18-Jun-13 17:35:11

<I always find it hilarious when the Duchess of Avon posts about anything as mundane as dinner preparation. I'm left imagining the Duke of Avon cooking pasta and Vidal tempestuously putting pizza in the oven.>

VodkaJelly Tue 18-Jun-13 17:38:41

I feel your pain. I hate cooking, really hate it but do 95% of it. DP isnt the problem its the kids. DP usually makes his own dinner, I cook for me and the kids and it is them who moan like hell.

DS1 - Doesnt like chips, potatoes cooked in anway, shape or form, carrots, sweetcorn, most veg, bacon, ham, etc etc - But will eat bacon when really hungry and will eat Mc Donalds chips as they are nice

DS2 - Now decided he doesnt like chips either, not keen on rice,

DS3 - Doesnt like pizza, peas, most veg,

So what do I cook? Pasta dishes get very boring after a while. Whatever I cook, somebody moans about it, they dont like this, that or the other. Does my fucking head in.

fryingpantoface Tue 18-Jun-13 17:41:10

Me too! ^^

fryingpantoface Tue 18-Jun-13 17:41:43

that was to grendal

DuchessOfAvon Tue 18-Jun-13 17:46:35


We are very "down" here at Avon. We know how to mix it with real people.

Grendelsmum I remember you finding my macerating-toilet-in-the-coal-hole hilarious!

Ruprekt Tue 18-Jun-13 17:48:17

I feel your pain. hmm

I cant bear it anymore. It is as though they have all ganged up against me and decided to like opposite foods to each other!!

Roast chicken works.
Some pasta dishes works.

Dh and I low carb. grin

Ds2 hates spicy food whilst ds1 loves it. No ham or cheese or sandwiches. Little fruit. No fish.


GrendelsMum Wed 19-Jun-13 08:04:49

Yep, you can't beat the Ducal toilet in the coal hole!

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