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Taking my boyts away for 2 weeks holiday!!

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shaun1971 Mon 17-Jun-13 16:31:26

I have asked my ex wife if can take my 2 boys away on holiday for 2 weeks in Oct 2014... I thought she was okay with it, she has today said that she will try and stop me taking them!!! Can she do that? Is there anything i can do without having to pay out money for legal fees to obtain a court order

gordyslovesheep Mon 17-Jun-13 16:33:36

No idea as not enough info

shaun1971 Mon 17-Jun-13 16:51:39

i have a court order for access - 10 days per month... But she has them the majority of the time... But apart from that, there isnt much to add... i said i was booking a holiday for Oct 2014 for 2 weeks and she said that she wont let me take them - no reason given at all... Its been 2 years since we split and it looks like she is still trying to score points...

Chattymummyhere Mon 17-Jun-13 17:02:02

I think you have to have her permission to take a child out of the country just like she would need your permission.

Groovee Mon 17-Jun-13 17:06:52

I'd go through the courts to get a court order. In return if she chooses to go away, she'll need your permission too.

Lemonsole Mon 17-Jun-13 17:08:44

YABU if you want to take them out of school to do this.

Lemonsole Mon 17-Jun-13 17:09:23

Doing that in term time is a tad "Disney Daddy", no?

Fluffy1234 Mon 17-Jun-13 17:17:15

It might not be term time, lots of schools have two week October half term breaks.

OldLadyKnowsNothing Mon 17-Jun-13 17:17:46

I'd repost in the legal matters board for less emotive responses, shaun.

smokinaces Mon 17-Jun-13 17:24:33

It's a big jump from 10 days a month to 2 weeks solid. I've been split for four years, mine go to their dads every weekend and we are only attempting a week this summer. Have you asked her about a week instead?

babyhmummy01 Mon 17-Jun-13 18:03:18

If you are taking them out of school I can understand her reluctance esp if there are exams in that period of time.

If she won't discuss it then ur only option is a court order.

My dp and his ex ha e been split for 18 months he has them eow and we have taken them away for a week, I don't think the length of time should be the issue more about the timing of it.

PatPig Mon 17-Jun-13 18:14:38

Why don't you go during the school holidays?

gordyslovesheep Mon 17-Jun-13 18:27:35

I wouldn't allow mine to go for 2 weeks in term time - school only allows 10 days - so when am I supposed to go

We split the 10 days between us

also if they are very young 14 days is too much imo - she may be being difficult but it depends how you broached the subject

Rindercella Mon 17-Jun-13 18:42:22

A father, with access granted through the courts, wants to take his sons on holiday in 18 months' time and there's a load of posters baling in, makinh massive assumptions that he's a "Disney Dad", etc. How ridiculous.

For the record, my children get 2 weeks' holiday at October half term. Rather than jump on someone based on your own assumptions and prejudices, why don't you be a little more constructive?

OP, best to speak to ypur solicitor. From what you have said it's impossible to know whether your ex can actually stop you from a legal point.

PatPig Mon 17-Jun-13 18:48:44

OP is being very vague though. No details on kids ages, where he wants to go, current access arrangements, etc.

mummymeister Mon 17-Jun-13 19:13:23

OP ask your ex P why she feels they shouldn't go away for 2 weeks. is it their age, are they missing school etc. have a discussion and come to a compromise. if you stand in one corner and she stands in the other then you wont get anywhere. try and sort this out between you like adults and do listen to her side as well as tell her your own. personally I think it is fantastic that you want to spend an extended time with your kids but with so little info have no idea if YABU or not.

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