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To think that Charles Saatchi is deplorable piece of work!

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GoingVerySlowlyMad · 16/06/2013 08:26

I don't know if anyone has seen the the pictures if Charles Saatchi with his hand around Nigella Lawsons throat. I can't believe anybody would think it's ok to do this, not least outside a restaurant in full view of other diners when you both are well known to the public!

The pictures make incredibly uncomfortable viewing, Nigella looks petrified.

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Stixswhichtwizzle · 16/06/2013 08:32

YADNBU! Although I think those standing by doing bugger all about it and taking photos are also culpable.

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Tee2072 · 16/06/2013 08:34

There's already a thread.

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HollyBerryBush · 16/06/2013 08:57

I want to know where he can smoke in a restaurant.

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Tee2072 · 16/06/2013 09:06

They were on the patio, Holly. Most restaurants let you smoke outside like that.

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NotYoMomma · 16/06/2013 09:27

What an utter utter bastard. Sheseemed so distraught and upset.

So abusive, I dare not think what happens behind closed doors

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Blueandwhitelover · 16/06/2013 09:29

This is so terribly sad, obviously we don't know what was happening but Nigella must think about this seriously. She has a 19 year old daughter who must not be allowed to think that this is acceptable. If he did that in public, who knows if he is doing worse at home.

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SoupDragon · 16/06/2013 09:31

There's another thread here if you've not seen it too.

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deepfriedsage · 16/06/2013 09:32

I saw one picture of one hand round hee throat, it was enough. Poor Nigella.

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HollyBerryBush · 16/06/2013 09:35

They are a miss matched couple for sure.

I cant see what she sees in him, polar opposite personalities. A touch of the Bouvier/Onasis I always thought - she married for 'protection'

She is fortunate to be wealthy enough to leave him, they have no children together - whether she is emotionally strong enough is another matter.

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Eyesunderarock · 16/06/2013 09:43

Let's see what happens, she is being abused, there is photographic and eyewitness accounts.
But his is so very rich, he can afford the best lawyers and all that purchasing power will go a very long way to buying him the outcome he likes.
If she even presses charges. Sad
He is an abuser and should face the consequences of being a violent and arrogant man who feels that he is untouchable.

Having dealt with abuse in children, one defence that they use instinctively is to go limp and floppy and offer no resistance, because it can increase the ferocity of the attack. By pulling at his hands, he might have tightened them futher, she may know this from previous incidents.
Fingers in both nostrils? It's again a painful control technique.

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GoingVerySlowlyMad · 16/06/2013 09:59

Yes it's the fact that she wasn't trying to free herself that made my blood run cold. Classic sign that she has been there before and as you said knows his grip will only get tighter. It's awful to see anybody in this situation but I've always seen Nigella as a strong feisty lady and it's heartbreaking to see her like this. DV happens across all classes sadly.

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TheUnsinkableTitanic · 16/06/2013 10:04

we have a running joke amongst friends about all things housekeeping "what would nigella do?" - i just can't stop thinking about her since i seen the photos this morning

I hope nigella is doing something today......

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Wishfulmakeupping · 16/06/2013 10:09

He's a fucking disgrace as are the people who say around and watch it happen without trying to help her

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FridaKarlov · 16/06/2013 10:58

What a complete shit!

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FunLovinBunster · 16/06/2013 11:12

If he feels he can do this in public fuck only knows what he does to her in private.
Message to Nigella. Get out NOW.

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FunLovinBunster · 16/06/2013 11:13

The people around her didnt just sit and let it happen.
Taking photos was the best thing they could have done.
Apart from cutting his balls off with a blunt knife without GA.

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Greythorne · 16/06/2013 11:15

Holly
Bad form. Very bad form.

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OTTMummA · 16/06/2013 11:27

Wasn't her mother abusive? I'm sure I read an article not long ago.
She is probably used to his nasty behaviour but she looks he went to far (in public) this time, she's probably more scared about the fact she can not deny his behaviour with photographic proof!
Nigela,, LTC.

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ARealDame · 16/06/2013 12:37

I think its deplorable that someone is taking photographs of this, no doubt they got paid handsomely for it, gross press intrusion IMO.

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Tee2072 · 16/06/2013 12:57

I think it's awesome that someone took pictures of it and they are being published all over the world. Shine some light in some dark corners. Don't let him get away with treating her as his punching bag.

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ihatethecold · 16/06/2013 13:00

Not nice holly! Can't you have a day off being insensitive.

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Tee2072 · 16/06/2013 13:05

I'm sorry, I'm not all the fond of Holly, but don't really see that what she said was so bad. She's right.

You can have millions but still not be emotionally strong enough to leave a husband, even when he's abusive.

Look at the way Katie Holmes had to escape Tom Cruise and how long it took her to do it. Not all women have the support either.

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tungthai · 16/06/2013 13:35

People intervening in a domestic situation can actually make it worse.

Nigella knows that her husband is abusive she doesn't need a stranger to tell her that. When someone points out abuse to an abuser it makes them feel small and inadequate. When a bully feels small and inadequate they blame the person they are abusing.

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Greythorne · 16/06/2013 14:09

I meant the comment about smoking.

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Tee2072 · 16/06/2013 14:25

How was the comment about smoking bad form?

Now I am even more confused.

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