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This is emotional blackmail. There must be laws against this, surely?

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D0oinMeCleanin Fri 14-Jun-13 21:44:49

I can have them grounded arrested or something, no?

I got a lovely glitter painting from my DC. It's of a no smoking sign and a dead person hmm.

It has glitter gel pen writing on it.

It reads "Mammy, please stop smoking. It is bad for you. You will die a lot sooner than you normally would. It will make you really poorly. We don't want you to die [insert face with glitter tears]

People who want you to stop
[insert dd1, dd2 and DH's signature]

Me and dd2 and Daddy would want you to quit. It would make us very happy. We love you lots"

This is worse than those awful bloody adverts with the children.

Please tell me I can punish them? This is just wrong. Glitter should not be used this way.

expatinscotland Tue 18-Jun-13 20:30:11

The world is definitely in need of more people dying off rather than living longer.

exoticfruits Tue 18-Jun-13 22:31:59

Someone needs to be paying taxes in your old age.

Alisvolatpropiis Tue 18-Jun-13 22:35:32

exotic given my current age,I am likely to my paying my own taxes in my old age. There's plenty of young people.

exoticfruits Tue 18-Jun-13 22:38:39

Those young people will want more young people as they get old.

expatinscotland Tue 18-Jun-13 22:42:43

What old age? I'm going to have to work till I drop. LOL. And besides, all smokers are going to die, anyhow, they won't have an old-age, there's that problem solved.

Plenty of immigration solves the problem, not having more children in the world. There are too many people already and the problem is getting worse.

MrsKoala Tue 18-Jun-13 22:57:27

Personally i think we need more people, not less. I particularly dislike Malthusianism.

hurrah for more people!

As for the smoking - children often fixate on things like this, i remember it being a big thing as a child. I would only give up if i wanted to (i have btw). Some of the posts on here are hilarious tho. Good luck if you do choose to give up tho OP.

Alisvolatpropiis Tue 18-Jun-13 23:01:56



That will probably be why I'll be a selfish smoking grandparent one day.

AudrinaAdare Tue 18-Jun-13 23:46:08

I've just come off Champix. It did nothing except make me feel as if a veil had come down between me and the world. But I have spent the last six weeks visiting my mother and other bruised, battered, broken-limbed, screaming and terrified women on a dementia ward. They are all in states you wouldn't want an animal to be in - unless you had sadistic tendencies towards animals.

I'll keep smoking for now, pay taxes on my tobacco to keep the NHS supporting clean-living people like my Mum, die early and not claim a state pension for thirty years whilst I have no quality of life and many, many minor, but costly ailments. I feel no guilt whatsoever about that and to be honest, the alternative is too fucking frightening.

baffleddad Wed 19-Jun-13 00:30:02

well done kids... pack it in you will save a fortune

baffleddad Wed 19-Jun-13 00:58:11

11 years ago my wife quit smoking. it was the worst 6/8 months of my life, it was so bad i didnt want to come home at night but i thought its for a good cause so i supported her through it even though i went grey.. you can probably imagine my disapointment when i found out 18 months ago she had started again we have argued etc but she carries on behind my back. i thought she had quit again 6 months ago but i have recently found one of the e cigarettes & ash & fag ends etc about. what annoys me is she had a chest infection for 2 months or so but carried on and now the kids are starting to copy her.
rant over, but some people we know are the type to offer a fag to a reformed smoker, that really pisses me off....ive threatened to leave am i being unreasonable

exoticfruits Wed 19-Jun-13 07:07:35

The whole point is that you might not make it to grandparent if you smoke- that is what upsets your children- they have got the message on the packs if you haven't.

expatinscotland Wed 19-Jun-13 07:53:09

And your kids may chose to never have kids at all, or you may die tomorrow, or the world may end. Make decisions you can live with for now,for the present and live life the same way.

Alisvolatpropiis Wed 19-Jun-13 07:55:07

exotic I could get hit by a bus today on my way to work. I don't live my life by what ifs. Besides - death is an inevitability.

exoticfruits Wed 19-Jun-13 08:16:34

I think some of you live in denial- therefore anything done by your children is a waste of time.
Do people lose the ability to risk assess? I can't be bothered but I expect that you could get the numbers for death by smoking related diseases, being hit by a bus or dying in childbirth.
Your children know that crossing a road is a normal activity that you have to do, that is why you learn to cross safely to lessen the risk. They know that bringing a child into the family is generally a joyful event. They know that smoking kills and there is no need to smoke.

exoticfruits Wed 19-Jun-13 08:18:34

You are free to continue the denial and get upset about what you see as 'emotional blackmail'- and no doubt you will.

expatinscotland Wed 19-Jun-13 08:40:36

Denial of what? That no matter what I do, and I don't smoke, am a healthy weight and rarely drink, I am still going to die? PMSL.

expatinscotland Wed 19-Jun-13 08:43:25

Upset? I think bullying and emotional manipulation are wrong, be it about smoking, cutting one's hair, having a termination, sex or anything.

limitedperiodonly Wed 19-Jun-13 09:39:41

What a good article mrskoala

Do0in your OP made me smile. I think you're right. Your kids probably have copied your DP and have forgotten it now, until the next time. Give up when you want to. It's clear you love them.

And they aren't brats, which is quite an unpleasant thing to call children and is normally remarked upon on MN, so I am, expat

I don't like emotional blackmail either.

expatinscotland Wed 19-Jun-13 09:46:26

Um, okay, limited, our very own self-appointed moral police, as if we lacked for them, what an honour!

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