Dunno, you decide.

[nananaps]

Because i am just too tired to think straight frankly.

Had pnd with my now 10 year old ds. Was awful.
I have a 5 month old who is fab fab fab

But
As is to be expected, i am absolutely shattered as he is ebf and feeds every 2-3 hours day and night typically.

I have a large network of good freinds from work.
Was going to go out for a meal with them tonight but i cancelled as ds cluster feeds all evening and i am crap at expressing, just want a shower, pjs and to go to sleep.

The lady who arranges stuff would not take no for an answer, and has arranged for everyone ( there is 4 of them) to come to mine.
I was just too tired to argue in the end.
They are bringing cake (i am at slimming world and doing really great)
I have cleaned the house today as i always do when i have guests, i am so so tired.

Am i being a miserable old bag, kinda deliberately avoiding social situations as you do with PND or are they being pains insisting on harrassing me?
Dont think that PND is creeping back in as i feel good apart from the exhaustion.

[hackmum]

They are being pains! Having a 5 month old is completely draining. It was months and months before I went out again after having my DD. The thought of having people around would have filled me with horror - what if you can't get rid of them?

[NinetiesBitch]

You have a 5 month old, how dare she intrude into your house like that! YANBU.

[DeepRedBetty]

The only upside of this is at least you have a lovely clean house.

With a bit of luck they'll realise they've outstayed their welcome within an hour or so.

Did the cake-organiser know you were doing slimming world? If so wins booby prize for epic tact fail!

[Onesleeptillwembley]

Maybe shes worried about you, given your previous pnd and is cackhandedly trying to 'help'.

[OutInAllWeathers]

How good friends are they? If good friends then they are probably trying to be there for you and make sure you don't miss out, although YANBU for just wanting to slob with baby in pjs.

[ByTheWishingWell]

YANBU at all- they have just invited themselves to your house! If you really aren't up for doing anything tonight, tell them firmly- it isn't your fault that you're tired.

But, have you socialised at all since you had your DS? It could well be that your friends are worried that you're becoming isolated, and trying to do what's best for you by coming to you so that you don't have to make the effort to go out. By all means, tell them no if it isn't what you want, but bear in mind they probably think they are being very helpful.

[UniqueAndAmazing]

they are being pains, but i would say yabu.

you need a social life too.
so, the baby cluster feeds - if they come to yours, it's win-win.

just tell them you're putting your pyjamas on but you'll still socialise

[UniqueAndAmazing]

ps - you're also BU for cleaning! wtf?



just don't clean.
you could have slept while you were cleaning.

[nananaps]

The other thing is that i have just negotiated a new bed time for ds, 9pm.
It means making him leave when they arrive at 7, have asked dh to take him into the conservatory to watch telly, he loves springwatch at the mo.

I have been out once, and my boobs almost exploded by the time i got home. Was only out for about 3 hours!

Just cant be arsed with it....they do tell me that they have gossip though....

[nananaps]

Hehehehe, that made me giggle Thesecondcoming so true.

[nananaps]

normally the mention of

1. gossip
   
2. cake
   
3. food would have me very excited!
   
   now...grump grump grump

[RiotsNotDiets]

I think they're being nice, if a bit clumsy. You'll enjoy yourself once they're there with cake and gossip.

Nobody's coming round to mine with cake and gossip

[LeaveIt]

It will probably turn into a really good evening. Like when you look forward to going somewhere and it turns out crap compared to when you can't be bothered or don't want to go and have a great time. If they're really close friends you could still put on your pjs hope the goss is worth it!

[UniqueAndAmazing]

I don't see why you can't keep him with you when your friends are there.

The only place i go without DD is WI and dance class. i even took DD with me for the first 6 months (thankfully there was a summer break and after that i felt confident to leave her at home)
the face is because i still don't like to leave her at home in the evenings.

you can have fun with your friends and still have your DS with you.

[MiamiMe]

It sounds like a bit of a PITA now but I'm sure you'll have a good laugh and enjoy yourself. Well that's how I felt when my friends came to mine en masse when DD was just 6 weeks.

[Poledra]

Unique, I think she's talking about her 10-yo DS, not the baby

[LulaPalooza]

YANBU. I don't even have kids and I would be absofuckinglutely furious if a friend invited themselves to mine when I had said I didn't want to go out.

But then I am an introvert

[50shadesofbrown]

I think probably good intentions but extremely cheeky & tactless. Just tell them you'll have to BF at some point, pyjamas are a possibility, & an early end to the evening is likely. If they don't like it, tough. House rules. Hope you have a good evening. I really hope you had a rest before they arrived or are due to arrive.

[handbagsatdawn]

Like others have said, go with it. Do not stress about running around after them - if they're good friends they'll pop into the kitchen and make you a cup of tea rather than you having to do it! Stay in your PJs, be comfy! You'll probably end up having a lovely evening.

[ShabbyButNotChic]

On the fence with this one, they may have the best of intentions and think they are being supportive by working round you and baby, keeping you involved etc, but it is a bit cheeky to invite themselves.
I would say go with it, dont run round after them ( the rule in my house is come whenever but bring biscuits and make your own brews) you may enjoy it! But dont be afraid to ask them to leave after a while.

[MammaTJ]

TSC not holding back, as usual!!

I happen to agree though. Once they arrive (which they will have by now, so why am I bothering?) you will get involved in the gossip and have a good time.

Don't keep turning people down, they will stop asking.

If I was near you, I would make some special syn free meringues and cream with fruit to join you. (you're not in Minehead, are you?)

[DeskPlanner]

Hopefully it will end up being one of those evenings that you dread but then turn out brilliant. Enjoy the cake it won't damage your SW motivation to much. It's really nice, though slightly annoying, that they want to come and see you. I think the longer you leave seeing people the harder it is to regain a good friendship again. Hopefully your having a wonderful evening and probably won't even see this message.

[verytellytubby]

Sounds fun.

[Forgetfulmog]

Gotta love MN. OP YANBU, but put your OP on again once DS is 9 mo & everyone will be telling you YABU.