because I feel like maybe I am being a bit selfish, but I also kind of want to be .
My MIL wants to come and stay for a weekend during the month before my 1st baby is due. For several reasons I would prefer she didn't.
DH and I are currently working our way through a list of jobs (decorating, putting up furniture etc) that we need to get finished before the baby arrives and these are taking up most of our weekends at the moment. I'm already struggling to help DH as much as I normally would and so am keen to get things sorted out before I'm in my last few weeks and just can't manage anything.
We also have NCT classes which will be taking up half a weekend day, and we've paid a lot of money for them to try and meet people (We are new to the area and know nobody!). I'd like to be available for any socalising that might take place after the classes rather than rushing home to see MIL.
Also, and probably my most selfish reason is that it's dawning on me that there are only very few weekends left where it's going to be just me and DH. Most of those look set to be full of DIY, and if we do manage to get a couple of weekends free once all our jobs are finally finished I'd actually quite like to spend some time with just him while we still can. I have the rest of my life to entertain my MIL but only a couple of weekends to enjoy time with DH as a couple before our baby arrives and changes things forever. Don't get me wrong we are both looking forward to the life changes ahead, but I'm sure that we will also miss the days when we could lie in and do whatever we want without a little person to consider.
There's also the fact that I am going to be uncomfortable and tired and not probably not in the mood for having guests. The baby could also come early and I really don't want MIL there when I go into labour. Nothing personal I wouldn't want my own mother there either.
I should also add that MIL did come and stay only a short while ago so it's not like she hasn't seen us for months. She will also be visiting again once the baby arrives.
Am I really being unreasonable and selfish? I feel like I might be a bit.
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Soontobemama · 13/06/2013 14:08
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