School talent show becoming like X Factor

[Soapysuds64]

We are in the middle of school talent show. Dd (11 yrs) plays two instruments to grade 4 standard, which is very unusual in school. However, for the auditions I encouraged her to play something easier to accompany her friend singing - the school have been telling her a lot to respect others in her class and improve her team working, as she can be somewhat aloof. They were ok.... But there were 3 other better singers in the class.

Now, it seems that they had hardly any instrumentalists enter. So they have asked for more to come forward, including dd. She is happy to do this, but if she gets through, which is likely, she will be dumping on her friend. She doesn't 'need' to win this competition to help her confidence, but on the other hand, she is generally excluded from music opportunities in school as she has her lessons elsewhere.

I can't work out if this is one of those situations where you stand up for what is right (ie sticking by her friend), or putting yourself forward to succeed at something. WWYD?

[MalcolmTuckersMum]

It doesn't seem that difficult for me. There is no role for the friend in the second scenario so she's not 'dumping' her for that is she?

[mrsjay]

I am confused so would she not be able to play for her friends singing if she entered the talent show herself, ? If she cant then she should play for her friend it is only a school show it is supposed to be fun for all the children, if she can enter by herself and she be an accompliment ( not the right word) for her friend then she could do that it shouldn't be an either or decision

[Soapysuds64]

Mrsjay - she is allowed to do both. But she will have a much better chance as a soloist than duet.

[mrsjay]

Oh I get you now I think it is ok if your dd wins or gets further than her friend honestly it is fine, and even though I said it was just for fun it is a comp isn't it so the friend will just need to accept what happens, you are being really thoughtful and kind though but it is ok to lose sometimes.