I went to a wedding in February. The couple had got married abroad with close friends and family, and this was the party back in the UK. Was a great party, had a good time and I gave the couple a card with a department store voucher (posted it into the wedding card post box they had!).
The next day, her Facebook status said "If anyone gave us cards with money, cheques or vouchers last night PLEASE get in touch". I sent her a message to let her know that I had and she got back in touch with a terrible tale- after the merriment of the party, her and her new husband had loaded all the cards and gifts into a taxi and gone home but, being a bit worse for wear, when they got home they just picked up a few gift bags they had with them in the back seat and forgot about the box of cards they had put in the boot. The taxi had driven off and they were unable get track it down. We all spoke about how terrible this was, what a shame etc, including talking to a mutual friend who had given a gift rather than a voucher, so her present was one of the ones hat had been saved.
Since then, I got married in April. This couple came to the night reception, and gave a present- a crafty print type picture with "marriage phrases" like "to have a to hold" on it. I sent thank you cards a couple of weeks ago, including of course one for them. I hadn't really thought about getting a thank you card FROM them, but then yesterday I was round at mutual friend's house (the one whose gift was to lost) and noticed that she had my thank you card up on display and also another thank you card- I asked who it was from- it was from them, thanking her for her gift! She said she had received it about a month ago!
AIBU to think that they should not have just sent thank you cards to the people whose gifts they did not lose? We attended the wedding party just the same as mutual friend, and I spent around the same on vouchers as she did on gift, which the wedding couple know as they asked people to get in touch with what they had given when they were trying to track it all down. It isn't my fault the cards were lost!
They probably had no idea who had given in that box though? Does it really matter? She got in touch and told you what had happened, presumably, she said something along the lines of...so, thanks for the thought, and sorry we lost it, but there you go?...
But she did know what we'd given as she asked in a message and I replied with where the voucher was for, how much etc (that's what she had asked for as I think they passed all the info on to the police). But I see from responses that IABU, I know it was a total nightmare for them to lose everything. I just think if it had been me, I probably would've sent cards saying something like "thank you for coming and celebrating our wedding with us"?! Oh well
As for keeping a card up for a month, I don't know- I guess she just liked it, it had a nice picture on the front of the couple's wedding abroad, she just had it on top of her piano so hardly taking up unnecessary space etc.