To ask why so many people kill spiders(108 Posts)
What is so scary about them.
They make the most amazing webs and these webs catch flys.
I don't kill them because my cats do it for me - they eat them. I'm terrified of them so am more than happy for my cats to do this
I'm utterly terrified of moths and butterflies too.
I remember going to one of those butterfly farm places as a kid and one flying into my hair and then having a massive panic. I've been terrified ever since.
It is reassuring to know I am not the only butterfly phobic...was beginning to think It was only me!
see, now like I said, I'm TERRIFIED of moths, but butterflies dont bother me at all [ confused]
jamdonut I am the same as you with moths and butterflies. I think it is the flutteriness of them. Never really been able to analyse it but I have always had this fear. Totally irrational I know but there it is.
Once when DD was a toddler a HUGE butterfly got in the house and we were trapped in the living room as the butterfly was in the hall. It was nearly time for DH to come home but I wanted to make sure he would come straight home to deal with the creature and not stop chatting. However, the phone was in the hall with the killer butterfly and my mobile was in the kitchen. In the end I had to climb out of the living room window and go round to the kitchen to get my mobile as I simply daren't go through the hall.
Poor little DD looked a bit bewildered when Mummy started bailing out through the window!
See, I can deal with bees.They're daft and will go were you direct them.
Wasps I'm more wary of because of their persistance. But I always try to waft them out of the house, unless they are too angry. Then they have to be swatted.
I'm not afraid of flies,but I don't like the pesky buzzing bluebottles. I don't kill them though.
I abhor moths, but also butterflies. Not in the same way as moths, because they tend have horrible hairy bodies and eyes that glint in the dark (uuurgh [shudders]).
I like to see butterflies, and I will get up close and look at them where they've landed, but if they are flying anywhere near me I will have a fit of the screaming ab-dabs. I have NO idea where this fear cam from. I tried to go into a Butterly World with DH and kids, when they were younger, but I had to get out fast!! DH thought I was stark staring mad!
I also can't stand ladybirds, because they're horrible when they're flying,or any other type of beetle,centipede or millipede. Its all to do with the legs.
I hate it when we do about minibeasts at at school. I try hard not to pass my fear on, but inside I am recoiling!!
The worst time was when we had an expert visit with a hissing cockroach,giant millipede, Giant African Land Snail and some other creatures I don't want to remember. I just stood back and tried to smile and look interested. I was fine with the snake ,though!
I don't kill spiders, I just scoop them up and put them out the window. Wasps however, can all fuck off, and I will kill every last one of them that comes into my house.
dh is terrified of spiders, I'm terrified of moths. I would never kill either tho, I deal with the spiders using the cup and paper method, dh deals with the moths.
I don't understand how people can so readily squash creatures
( I do consider, wasps, fair game because they'll sting me, mozzies coz they'll bite me, and big fat blue bottles coz they wanna be sick all over my food and lay maggots, but even then I try and tempt them out the door before I'm forced to splat them)
I like spiders as well, in Qatar however we get these little jumping ones which means you never quite know where they have gone. I got bitten on the eye by one a few years ago and was really ill. I don't kill them but the cats absolutely Hoover them up along with the monster ants who have their own shadows.
Because fatally poisonous or not,they can all bite. Even in the UK.
I'm too frightened to actually kill them myself though. My ability to think rationally shuts down completely. I see one and I move away very quickly,without warning. Funnily enough it the moving quickly without warning that I hate most about spiders!
I woke up when I was 2 or 3 with a massive one crawling across my chest. It's one of my earliest memories.
House spiders outside are perfectly happy. My ivy outside is riddled with them, some of them quite enormous.
There horrible things im terrified of them. I make dh kill then rather than put them out as they might come back.
I do genuinely get paralysed with fear even at the small tiny ones
I don't think telling perplexity phobias to imagine them in roller skates is remotely helpful, just shows your ignorance of phobias
Cbt or hypnotherapy would be far better advice. I've had both
Putting house spiders outside will be fine as long as you put them somewhere appropriate, like near bricks or a woody are etc.
I just think that if they don't want to be squashed then they shouldn't come in my house. It's an easily solvable situation.
If the bloody bastard things are in my house, then they'll just have to run the gauntlet and try to get back out before they're spinning webs in spider heaven.
The inside of my house is mine - the bloody bastard things can have everywhere else. That's perfectly fair IMO.
<major spider phobic>
i find it sad that anything can be killed on the way it looks.....i think i need to move into a hippy commune or something ....i think im starting to see why i have issues with the job! (im meant to be 'ard and all that....but i cant kill spiders so speaks volumes!)
They are fucking gross gross gross and must be murdered. MURDERED. I am too scared of them to actually commit said crime though, OH gets sobbed at
bowlingforsoup I completely understand. I am stupidly, irrationally petrified of them to the point I shake and am on the verge of tears if I spot one in the house unexpectedly. I have to kill them (or get my husband to, more accurately) as I can't bear the thought of not knowing where they might end up if left. I wouldn't be able to rest or sleep. I hate doing it as I know rationally they are the good guys in the battle against pests but it's the only way I can cope. If I'm on my own I struggle to get close enough to kill them as I start to feel sick (and would vomit if forced to get too close) so I have to use a thick newspaper at full stretch as that's as close as I can get, and even that makes my heart race with fear. I can't look at pictures of them and certainly can't watch the Aragog sections of the CofS film or Shelob in LOTR.
Last year we stayed in a holiday cottage and a spider ran over my leg while I was sitting on the sofa; after I'd finished shaking and shrieking, I had to go and change my clothes and put the jeans I'd been wearing straight in the wash
well just to test me a huge one was just plodding across the floor....
we dont seem to get big ones in this house but this was the biggest ive seen here.
it was ploddy until i tried to sweep him into the dustpan!
but then obviously his survival instinct kicked in and went quiet....
i popped him outside near the garage - he is welcome to live in there!
the other night i found one the cats had been playing with....i thought it was dead - curled up on its back.
they are quite clever....it was pretending! it worked as the cats lost interest the minute it stopped moving.
he went outside too!
i kill nothing.
i should become a buddhist. i cant kill anything - im not a huge fan of spiders but i cannot kill them.
they always go out.
i get cross if anyone kills anything in my house. DD thinks im a nutter....i dont care.
nothing gets killed by me.
And I know the feckers are Arachnids not insects
Thing is Pic I think "hmm few dead insects as a consequence of phobia vs. very good NHS money that could be spent on humans.
I have to say I agree with YourMa. I would have thought you could get CBT on the NHS for phobias which are affecting your life and children to that extent (and CBT, while not a panacea by any means, is good for phobias).
Neither dh nor I are frightened of spiders, and will happily scoop them up and put them outside etc. But my dc2 is very nervous of them. I don't think he's picked this up from anyone else and so I assume it's a kind of instinctual fear, an evolutionary throwback somehow, which would explain why so many suffer from it.
I will stop killing them when they start contributing to the mortgage.
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