To think that if you receive a wedding present, you should say thank you?!(112 Posts)
Just that really.
No card. No letter. No phone call. No fb message even!
Just no thank you.
Her wedding was 4 months ago. Just had lunch today with another friend who was a guest, and she asked me if I'd received a thank you , because she hadn't. Both of us had sent cheques for £50 and gifts.
The cheques were cashed incidentally the day after the wedding!
She's a good friend (old school friend). Do we mention it? Or just leave it.?
whoknows Yes, I heard that too, although I thought she was stood on a rock and slipped? Awful either way.
mythumbs Well, we were a little that we hadn't actually been invited to the wedding...even more so when the bride spent all of the evening with us. God knows who the actual day guests were - friends of Dad by the look of it. But we'd never ask why we weren't invited. Guest lists are a minefield!
However, she has gone down massively in our view now. As you say, rude and entitled! And thinking on, she never said thank you for a very expensive dress I bought her daughter as a christening present...
I've only received one thank you card in all the weddings I have been to. the rest of them, not even a text or anything to acknowledge the gift.
Maybe it is the norm now but I am not happy about it! I sent cards albeit a good few months after my wedding, and still feel paranoid in case any got lost in the post or anything, I hate the thought of not acknowledging/thanking for a present!
I would be happy with a just a text.
I have never recieved a thank you card after a wedding gift, not even from my own siblings (£100 chq in each case)
I sent them after mine (14 years ago), but tbh now I just use text, email or phone.
The cost of stamps is mad, and the card choice isn't great.
To send the number of thank yous today that I sent back in 1999 it would cost over £100!!
I took 6 months to send my thank you cards, I did want nice wedding photos on them so had to wait for photographer to send us photos, then get round to ordering the cards. We also had a huge wedding so had about 200 to write - so that took about a month as I wrote something on everyone's! Was worth the wait in my opinion as people have said how lovely they were and how nice it was to receive.
Have had plenty generic ones myself so wanted to make the effort. OP hope the bride is going down this route rather than nothing at all!
Also received gifts months after wedding, so within the year is acceptable to me.
Just realised we didn't get a thank you from the wedding we went to in November.Bother. Wish I hadn't read this now.
Here's the thing though..
If you know you're going to use a professional photo, why don't the couple just inform the photographer as such, and get one photo to them quickly? It really can't be that difficult
Personally, I'd rather receive a 'cheapo' M&S pack of 8 thank you cards with a lovely handwritten message inside, promptly after the affair than some photographic thing 6 months later!!! Both will ultimately (probably) end up in the recycling bin anyway, surely?
The cost of stamps is mad, I agree. But let's be honest, even at over £100, that's only the amount of one cheque that the bride managed to cash!
And 200 to write? Really? That's 400 guests!!! Most people are in couples/twos? Wow. In that case, I think you're excused
Yup 400+ guests. Two big catholic families. And I wanted a few pics on the cards so wanted to chose from all my lovely photos. Daft now but very important
bridezillaesque at the time.
6 months for me seems far too long to leave it to say thank you - no matter how personalised the card.I too would prefer a more prompt acknowledgment just so we know our gift sent through a store gift list service actually arrived safely,and was appreciated.
Therefore I'm now wondering wether we will get a thank you from a wedding we attended several weeks ago.If not I will think it's rude.After all they had our address to send out 'save the day' cards ( What a waste and a duplication IMO - we'd already been told the date verbally and what's wrong with just an invitation.That was always sufficient.)Then we got the invitation with a small gift list choice but carefully worded to imply all they really wanted was money.We chose a gift from the list.Call me old fashioned but they have lived together for ages, have a child and both in well paid jobs so hate giving money.
Really any than you - by e-mail or text - is better than none.
Wow, I agree six months is very
rude long. How would you feel if people took six months to reply to your wedding invitation in the first place?
And agree with whoever said £100 on stamps is a lot - but people will happily spend thousands on one day
and a load of unnecessary 'extras'. Surely you just factor in the cost of stamps, thank you cards etc into your overall budget.
I think the people trying to justify that 6 months to send out a thank you card is ok might be the ones that were bridezillas before the wedding.
It is a very mememe mentality and doesn't really reflect the spirit of saying thank you, ie it should be pretty soon after the event rather than being on a posh card.
I'm pretty sure they wouldn't have been happy with people turning up 10 minutes late for the service or maybe popping to shops between the service and the reception because they lead such busy lives they couldn't possibly fit it in at any other time.
Of course, it is better than not bothering to send them at all.
YANBU. It's bloody rude to leave it that long. Longest we've 'waited' is 3 months and I thought that they may as well have not bothered by then.
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