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To think that DH is selfish and thoughtless?

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chinley Sat 25-May-13 20:49:59

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StuffezLaYoni Sat 25-May-13 20:51:59

I would be angry and upset too, that's really unfair of him.
Why the change of plan?
D you have anyone else you could gout with?

ssd Sat 25-May-13 20:52:24

I dont blame you at all

is he a mummys boy?

and why the hell are you driving his mum 5 hours tomorrow?

somewhatavoidant Sat 25-May-13 20:53:05

YANBU at all, that's very thoughtless.

Succoria Sat 25-May-13 20:54:03

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Booyhoo Sat 25-May-13 20:54:32

oh this brings back awful memories. my EXp used to do that to me. i would be all ready to go, sometimes having bought a new outfit and he wouldn't turn up to take me out or would text ages later saying, something else had come up with a mate or that he had changed his mind. he even did it on valentimes night.

sorry, i have no advice. i just cried aswell.

Leverette Sat 25-May-13 20:54:59

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Footface Sat 25-May-13 20:55:10

Yanbu he's been thoughtless.

Sure his mum appreciate you driving her for 5 hours

DontmindifIdo Sat 25-May-13 20:55:20

YANBU - text back that you are ready to go out now. Do you have childcare in place for tonight? Call round your friends, find out who's free, go out, tell him he can drive his mum tomorrow because you'll be tired.

Booyhoo Sat 25-May-13 20:55:31

is he staying overnight at his mums? has he had a drink?

RawShark Sat 25-May-13 20:55:51

Yes very thoughtless and also he should have called not texted.

Presumably no underlying actual family issues that meant he acted like such a dick?

Where were you going - if just to the pub he may not have realised how important it was to you, or forgotten the drive tomorrow, or just thought you looked that beautiful naturally!

Tell him you're disappointed, and will be knackered tomorrow and see what he says.

DontmindifIdo Sat 25-May-13 20:55:52

BTW - does his mother actually want him there if she's going on a long trip tomorrow???

PatriciaHolm Sat 25-May-13 20:56:01

Did he have any idea you were going to so much trouble? DH might do that to me, but he would be apologetic and aware it only takes me 20 mins to get ready. He may have had no concept that you had been spending all that time; it does seem a long time!

chinley Sat 25-May-13 20:56:25

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Booyhoo Sat 25-May-13 20:56:42

yes go out with a friend or two.

Footface Sat 25-May-13 20:56:52

Why should his mum suffer, she might be stood there having a right go at him for being inconsiderate

chinley Sat 25-May-13 20:57:12

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Footface Sat 25-May-13 20:58:13

That's really kind of you

LadyBeagleEyes Sat 25-May-13 20:58:16

I would be livid angry.
Does he have a good reason for staying with his mummy?

maddening Sat 25-May-13 20:58:50

as long as there are no issues with his mother (eg is she v I'll?) then yanbu. Also have you arranged childcare for nothing? Either way call some friends and go out - you're ready now anyway.

maddening Sat 25-May-13 20:59:56

well he can change his plans tomorrow!

chinley Sat 25-May-13 21:00:22

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chinley Sat 25-May-13 21:00:54

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Booyhoo Sat 25-May-13 21:01:05

no op dont sit in and brood on this. put a shout out on FB or call best friend and see if you can call round for a while. dont stay in being pissed off.

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