Playing music in the garden?

[mermaid101]

We live in a terraced house. Today, when my DH, DD and I were in our garden, my DH put the radio on - in the house with the window open - loudly enough for him to hear it at the end of our averaged sized garden. He has also had it on during the week when he was working in the garden with the radio outside on a table.

I asked him to put it off and he was a bit annoyed. I think it is rude and inconsiderate to play music which might disturb our neighbours. Given the nice weather, it would appear most people were in their gardens and no one else had any music on.

After I pointed this out to him, he put it off. Reluctantly. He told me he thought it was a bit ridiculous and that anywhere else he had lived, he has always has music on when he was outside. He sort of implied that I was in some way "posh" for not wanting to be the source of the music.

I just can't understand how anyone would think that this was ok, bearing in mind the proximity of the neighbours and the fact that not one other person within ear shot was doing this.

AIBU to ask him not to have music on?

[crumblepie]

i put my cd player just inside the open door and have it loud enough to hear when im outside but not so loud you have to shout , and i can still hear the neighbours if they want to chat over the fence .

[notasausage]

YANBU our neighbours used to have music on in their garden and no-one else did. If I want to listen to music then I want to listen to my own music, at my own chosen volume ie with earphones.

[HoHoHoNoYouDont]

Good on you for telling him to turn it off. The neighbours that back onto me play music the moment the sun shines so I can never sit in peace and enjoy my garden.

[WhoKnowsWhereTheTimeGoes]

YANBU, I hate being able to hear music at any volume when I'm outdoors.

[mermaid101]

HoHo, this is really the reason. I think, on balance, I would probably prefer to have some music on sometimes, although I did really enjoy the sounds of children playing and lawnmowers and people chatting. However, I realise that many people would not like this at all, so think you listen to music inside, or use earphones and then everyone is happy.

Thanks for that. I was wondering if I was being a bit odd to think this.

[VivaLeBeaver]

Yanbu.

I like to sit in the garden and read and I'm never able to as next door have radio one on full blast in the garden when its sunny. Boils my piss.

[MaryPoppinsBag]

YANBU

Our NDM in the adjoining semi play loud music regularly. Well whenever the sun is shining.
It makes us feel like we can't use our own garden.
It is v v v loud and v v v shit dancer boom boom boom shit.

We are moving!

[Methe]

Good for you! If only more people were as considerate.

[JesusInTheCabbageVan]

YANBU! Our neighbour's teen son was playing utter shite all day today. I kept trying to go out and then having to go back in again because it was winding me up so much. The problem is they're otherwise lovely, and very understanding when our toddler screams himself awake at 5am, so we can't really say anything.

[rainrainandmorerain]

yanbu OP, and thank you! Other people's music in gardens is just the pits. One person's music can be heard in how many people's gardens on a nice sunny day? It's so selfish. Trust me, there'll be at least one of your neighbours grateful you told him to turn it off. Probably more. Fwiw, I used to have neighbours who put their radio in an open window, music blaring, whenever they were sitting in the garden. I got the Council involved, kept a noise diary etc. It's damn antisocial.

[Booyhoo]

yanbu

i was at my friends house today in her garden and someone in her cul-de-sac had music on that could be heard all over it! how is that ok? what if everyone played their music that loud- then no-one would get any enjoyment from their garden or tehir music. put headphones in if you want music outsde.

[Facebaffle]

YABU. As long as it's at reasonable volume, I don't see the problem.

I love all the various noises in the gardens in Summer (and I'm a shift worker who often sleeps during the day).

[coffeeinbed]

YANBU.
Other people's music can be very annoying.

[LRDtheFeministDragon]

I think portable radio beside you, or radio on with you on the patio next to the house, is fine. Anything much louder is a bit anti social unless you're having a party, IMO.

My neighbour was listening to something today while I was out in my garden, and I was aware there was music somewhere, but it wasn't intrusive. I wouldn't want them to be totally silent.

[mermaid101]

Booyhoo - I did make that point to him. We live in quite a long street. I asked him to imagine if everyone had their own choice of music on: it would be terrible.

Facebaffle - it's interesting to hear a different perspective. I suppose "reasonable volume" could be open to interpretation. I know he likes/needs the TV much louder than me.

My thinking is that if we can hear it, our neighbours can too and they might not like it. The fact that no one else in ear shot appeared to have music on, would imply that they prefer not to listen to music while out in the garden.

[QueenStromba]

YANBU. I really hate it when people are playing music outside. I lived in one place as a student where I couldn't study when it was nice out because of neighbours playing really loud, shit music in their garden. The way the houses were laid out I couldn't figure out where it was coming from so I could complain.

In another place there was a workman who used to park his van outside and play really loud reggae music and sing along out of tune. I eventually got fed up and went out to complain and he couldn't see the problem because it was daytime.

I also think people playing really loud music in their cars is really antisocial. We live on the third floor and can still hear people going past with their music blaring at silly O' Clock.

I think a lot of people just don't realise how antisocial this sort of thing is. Music is just such a personal thing that the average person who is subjected to your music isn't going to like it. If you want to listen to music really loudly then go to a club or live in the middle of nowhere with no neighbours.

[Jidget]

YANBU - you are very considerate.

I love to listen to music, but everyone's tastes are different. I think it's really rude and intrusive to play loud music outside.

[marjproops]

yanbu. well done, wish everyone was like that.

and it IS all boom boomboom at full vol with bass up to the max.

and shouting to ''talk'' above all that- JUST TURN IT DOWN!

music is personal and should BE personal. theyre all just effing showing off how 'cool' they are with the latest drum n bass trash.

I HATE THIS WEATHER!

[ChippingInLovesSpring]

YANBU he is. It's selfish - why on earth would he assume everyone wants to listen to his choice of music (or any music). Just as well you wear the pants isn't it

[adverbial]

Ywnbu.

[Accidentallyquirky]

Yabu - Next door to us ( terraced houses) have had there music on all day it's still on now and I can hear all of their kids playing happily (it's been the youngests birthday so lots of kids and bouncy castle etc earlier on)

Rain or shine tho - the kids wrap up and play outside and make lots of noise - 5 kids and more on spring/summer days if they have friends over. I strangely love it, knowing they aren't all sitting inside playing computer games etc they are proper kids!

As long as its not midnight and your hubby's music blaring loudly away, I don't see a problem sorry.

[Dogmatix34]

Definitely NBU. Our next door neighbours have even set up a TV in the porch bit of their shed so we have to endure Downton Abbey etc. loud enough for it to be very annoying but not loud enough for us to actually follow the plot!

[FriendlyLadybird]

Hm. I used to think very much like you, and would ask my DH to turn the music down. I would also ask the children to keep quiet. But, you know what -- I don't really mind if other people have their music on, even if I can hear it. And though I don't like hearing other people's children shouting, I don't really see why they shouldn't, just to please me. It's not that bad. Unless people are being actively offensive or the music causes actual vibrations around us, I really believe in live and let live.

[squoosh]

Listening to the radio whilst gardening isn't the same as having music blaring.

To be honest I'm a bit perplexed by threads that say you musn't play the radio in the garden, you musn't host a party in your own home, sometimes it seems that all that's acceptable is to sit in your kitchen contemplating your life in silence.

Noise is part and parcel of living in a town or city. I don't want to listen to really loud bassy house music, but a radio playing in the garden, someone throwing a party the odd weekend, or other noises that may waft into my hearing range really doesn't bother me too much.

[Elquota]

YANBU.

Other people's music really annoys me.