I broke up with ex when DD was 3 months. She was in intensive care the first 5 weeks, half an hour from our flat. He visited her 3 times in 4 weeks once his paternity ended, a few nights didn't even ask how she was when I got home.
Once we split up, he began seeing her the bare minimum, not at all some weeks, but now seems to be finding her more 'amusing' at 9 months and is seeing her a couple of hours twice a week with me there.
I'm just finding it so hard to trust him to have her alone, partly due to the complete lack of care about her, and so not trusting him to watch her/comfort her etc enough to be safe. But also because he lies about so many little pointless things, and I can't understand why!
Some include saying he's lost his job, then saying he hadn't said it when I asked if he'd had any luck finding a new one, saying he was going to America for 3 weeks, then when I questioned him visiting after the date he'd said, he said he was only going 1 week.
Saying he had a toy for her, this dragged on for about 5 weeks with it being left in different places before "falling out of the car and getting lost"
Saying he was living in one place, then slipping up and telling me he's in a completely different place, telling me he got arrested and held overnight then changing the story to just signing a caution, and so many other day to day things. I know if something happened with just him and DD I would get told some complete story or nothing at all. AIBU to not let him have her alone until she can talk if this continues?
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To not be able to trust ex with DD as he lies so much
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TumbleweedAndSandDunes · 25/05/2013 16:34
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