I feel really silly posting this as I'm normally very levelheaded about these things and not a jealous person at all. I have an amazing DP who is committed, loyal, caring and who really loves me. He travels a lot with his job and I always trust him - him being away is never a problem.
However, one of his best friends is getting married and the four of them (another friend and this guy's brother) are going to Marbella for 3 days for his stag do. My problem is... while I really trust my partner and I think he is very loyal and would never cheat on me, I know his friend is a cheater and cheated on all his previous partners. We've moved away and are not as close now so not sure what he is up to with his fiancee but, knowing what I know, I wouldn't trust the man for a day... He is the kind who gets all letchy when he is drunk - I remember one occasion when he got drunk and was all over his neighbour, right in front of his fiancee. It took someone to drag him away from her. His fiancee was so hurt and embarrassed. Yes - he is drunk when he gets like this but what kind of an excuse is it?
I know in my heart that he will see this stag do as his last weekend of freedom and will definitely try to have some "fun". DP reassures me that his brother who is a lovely and decent guy will be there to stop him and would never let him do anything stupid. The other guy going is also quite decent.
I feel so uncomfortable knowing that my DP will be going away with HIM for HIS stag do... he keeps telling me "you are with me, not him, don't worry about what he does". But I do... I worry that the entire weekend will be coloured by this guy's behaviour and I'm worried about what will happen... I know there will be strippers involved (always with this guy) and am not comfortable with it in general, especially uncomfortable now, knowing that he is the kind who would definitely do something if he had a chance.
Am I being stupid...? should I just trust my DP without worrying about what the other guy is up to? Hoping he will be outnumbered by decent guys? Why am I so stressed about it and so upset? I'm also pregnant which probably doesn't help as I'm more vulnerable and emotional these days...
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slightlybothered · 22/05/2013 11:51
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