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to consider giving up on pushchair and either carrying ds or staying at home until he learns to walk?

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honeytea Tue 21-May-13 22:38:25

I am fairly new to driving a pushchair, ds is 5 months old but I used a sling most of the time until ds reached 20 pounds recently.

We have had 3 unfortunate experiences today.

First we went to pick up ds's passport, the passport office was packed, there was a row of chairs down one side of the room and lots of people milling about, there was a small pathway between the seated people and the milling people. I looked, all clear, I started pushing the pushchair towards the desk I needed to go to, I should mention I am short and the pram is high so I don't have great visibility at the front of the pushchair. I felt a bump and a seated lady screamed, I had run over her foot, she must have stretched out her legs after I had checked because all was clear moments before, I said sorry the best I could (I am not originally from the country we live in) but she was furious.

The next incident was in a shop, I walked behind a lady at a till, again there was not much space. The lady steeped backwards into the pushchair and stumbled, she was also very angry.

3rd incident was very scary, I went to use the escalator with the pram (everyone seems to do this here, it seems very dangerous I'm not sure if people do this in the UK) I have successfully done this before when ds was in the lie flat part of the pram, now he is in the sitting bit of the pram and when the escalator went up the pram tiped and ds fell forwards making full use of the 5 point harness.

Aibu to think I am a danger to the general public, ds and myself and it would be best if I just wait till ds learns to walk before going out? I don't drive a car and am dyslexic with spacial awareness issues, it all just seems a bit daunting.

NigelYerABawbag Tue 21-May-13 22:40:29

Get a better sling. One you can use on your back.

FrenchRuby Tue 21-May-13 22:41:21

I definitely wouldn't try going up an escalator again...
I hate my pushchair and can't wait until dd doesn't mind walking for longer than 5 mins.

thebody Tue 21-May-13 22:41:33

Wait until you need a double buggy. Pure hell.

Cloverer Tue 21-May-13 22:43:40

Get a better sling! There's no reason why you can't carry a 20lb baby on your back.

getyourheadout Tue 21-May-13 22:46:40

theres no reason why you should lump a 20 pound baby round on your back , get a lightweight buggy , unless you are 2 foot you should not have a problem .

honeytea Tue 21-May-13 22:50:04

I might try the back carry, I have a rose and rebellion sling and a ring sling and a Moby but I think he is too big for that now. I thought he was a bit young for a back carry, I should practice back carrying around the house smile

VikkiiKawaii Tue 21-May-13 22:51:51

You can back carry if I remember rightly from birth - it's just that some people prefer to wait until their LO is a bit less fragile before they give it a go.

NigelYerABawbag Tue 21-May-13 22:52:10

getyourheadout - I carry a 30lb odd 2.7 year old on my back and find it a hell of a lot more convenient than a buggy. I do have a lightweight buggy but it is a total PITA, I crash it into things, I get stuck in doorways, it tips on kerbs, it steers wonky blah blah blah.

At least with him in a sling I know exactly what gaps I can fit through grin

Cloverer Tue 21-May-13 22:52:47

He'll be fine for a back carry in the R&R if he can hold his head up. Ring sling is good for short trips in a hip carry.

I find the buggy more of a hindrance than a help, only take it if I'm doing lots of shopping.

NigelYerABawbag Tue 21-May-13 22:52:48

honeytea - how old is he? I know I had mine in a Rose and Rebellion on my back from about 5 months.

honeytea Tue 21-May-13 22:57:11

He's 5 months, he's very strong he can sit unassisted I am more worried because he is a silent puker I could be toddling along happily with ds/my hair covered in puke. I am also a bit worried that ds might feel nervous not being able to see my face, I guess I should try and see what happens smile

getyourheadout Tue 21-May-13 22:59:52

NigelYerABawbag bloody hell i just couldnt of lugged them around at that weight , i can see what you mean about the buggy and kerbs though ,

NigelYerABawbag Tue 21-May-13 23:05:00

Thing is you get used to it. We live somewhere utterly pushchair inaccessible (halfway up a bloody mountain!) so I have to carry him a lot, and the investment in a sling that makes that easy has been well worth it.

I've been carrying him daily since he was born - obviously if you tried it with a hefty toddler when not used to it, they'd seem heavy grin but when its grown on you (quite literally) you don't really notice it.

cinnamonsugar Tue 21-May-13 23:20:40

Get a better sling - like everyone else says grin At around 4/5 months they do tend to get too heavy for stretchy wraps like Moby, but in a good sling you should be able to carry him well into toddlerhood.

Startail Tue 21-May-13 23:28:47

Get a decent pushchair (I had a wonderful big 3 wheeled mountain buggy) and learn to look completely innocent of all bruised ankles and destroyed display racks.

Escalators require nerve, a tight harness with no wriggle room and tiping the push chair up on it's rear wheels so the little darling can't lean forwards.

Startail Tue 21-May-13 23:29:19

Get a decent pushchair (I had a wonderful big 3 wheeled mountain buggy) and learn to look completely innocent of all bruised ankles and destroyed display racks.

Escalators require nerve, a tight harness with no wriggle room and tiping the push chair up on it's rear wheels so the little darling can't lean forwards.

KhaosandKalamity Wed 22-May-13 15:29:49

A woman walked backwards in to the pushchair and blamed you? Now that is unreasonable.

MrsTerryPratchett Wed 22-May-13 15:37:29

You can hip carry with the ergo. He can see your face and it feels 'natural' to carry DD like this.

LightTheLampNotTheRat Wed 22-May-13 15:39:33

One of my DCs is in a wheelchair. You get used to steering and looking ahead and smiling sweetly at people who walk backwards. (How can that possibly be your fault?)

eltsihT Wed 22-May-13 16:48:42

I used an ergo till I fell pregnant when my son was 18months old. He was a bit of a puker too, but i wore a scarf when he was on my back. it was great as I would let him walk till he got tired then I would pop I him on my front or back, I never mastered the hip position.

Or just practice more with the buggy, till you get pissed of with people rushing to get in front of you and then slowing down,so you just ram them and take their shoes off ( I haven't done this yet but I have been very tempted)

Pigsmummy Wed 22-May-13 17:07:29

Don't use escalators with a pram! Also get a lower buggy that you can see over? Mine is just above waist height.

badguider Wed 22-May-13 17:15:20

I'm pg with my first and may entirely change my mind but right now I don't fancy a pram/buggy at all. I'm hoping to carry him on my front to and from nursery and baby groups until he's big enough for a bike seat (and i'm recovered enough to cycle again).

honeytea Wed 22-May-13 20:56:24

I tried the back carry with ds at home today, it was great! How can 20 feel so much lighter when it's on your back!

I don't think I could manage to get him in and out alone yet, also he went to sleep on my back and his head was lolling about so we took him off.

NigelYerABawbag Wed 22-May-13 21:08:35

Oh brilliant honeytea smile

Does your R&R have a sleep hood or is it an older style one without? That would help with the head lolling but if there isn't one you can buy universal sleep hoods, I'll try and find you a link.

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