Just heard some dreadful news about a friend I have known since I was 4 (I am 39). She and her brother have suffered several dreadful tragedies throughout their lives and yet are the most wonderful, generous and fabulous people. They have both got married - he has one child, she has two.
Now I learn, after everything they have already suffered, she has been diagnosed with a very rare and very aggressive form of cancer and needs to undergo some really unpleasant invasive treatment.
It's just not right, when there are so many shitty people out there who go through lives without a care in the world about anyone else, get all they want, treat people badly and yet never have anything bad happen to them. And then lovely people who have already had so much just have more heaped upon them.
AIBU?
to think life is often cruelest to those who deserve so much better?
JessicaBeatriceFletcher · 20/05/2013 23:31
YADNBU. 
I sincerely hope that your friend has some long overdue luck with her illness.
Oh. That is dreadful. Sending thoughts and prayers
My DS is five and autistic. I am trying to teach him that he lives in a world full of other people and that he should be kind to them because they will be nice back and everyone will be happy.
In theory. We all know it doesn't really work like that and sometimes I wonder if he knows what it took me decades to know.
My heart goes out to you OP. There is so much that is difficult to understand. Please remember to be kind to yourself as well.
YANBU. I agree that I have friends who seem to have such a bad run of luck and they are always so lovely and patient and I want to just scream when yet another terrible thing out of their control happens to them
It also drives me up the wall when I hear people claiming that their success is all down to hard work and they "make their own luck". That's just not always possible.
I agree wholeheartedly OP.
my DM has recently passed away and im in thevprocess of sorting through all the practicalities. it seems she had landed in a lot of trouble financially due to looking after everyone else over the years.
she ALWAYS worked hut they were min wage/low paying jobs as she had to find work to fit around bringing me up alone after my DF died. then, once I got to an age where I didn't need as much attention she reduced ger hours to look after her DF as he started with dementia shortly after his DW (my GM) died.
then, just as she can start thinking about herself, she suffered a massive stroke and passed away
im just so pleased I was able to give her a GC before it happened as its what she really wanted and it took us years to have him. I just wish she had longer thsn 15 weeks with him
I know what you mean 
it makes me so angry that kind lovely people who are good people get these problems that cause so much suffering and pain 
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