We are moving and DS will be going to a new school. He told me today that X's mum said 'don't play with DS as he is moving'. They are five. I realise this is not a direct quote. DS said 'but I just want to play with you' but X said 'No',.DS said it made him feel sad.
I feel for X and see what his mum is trying to achieve. There has been a bit of movement, shes worried X will have lost his close circle of bestish friends and I'm all for a wide circle of friends.
AIBU to give her a call if DS says X has said this again? I just want to put my view that I see why she is concerned but to let her know DS was sad and that doesn't seem a nice lesson to show X that you ignore people if they are off the scene soon. Hopefully she did just suggest a wider circle of friends rather than ostracising DS. But my heart is breaking (not being OTT but you know what I mean?) even though I know DS can and does play with others (as he has done along with X).
Sorry, but I'd believe she said it. People do back off when you are moving. Can you mention to the teacher that he's feeling a little left out, and leave it at that- is it worth confronting her if you are leaving very soon? On the other hand it might be good to- you can practice some assertion skills on her...
She might have said "Don't only play with X today, try to play with someone else as well because..." or "Don't just play with X, play with the others too as X is moving soon..."
You might be talking about me, except my DS and his friend are only four. DS has a friend at school who is moving soon and I have been trying to encourage him to play with lots of people, even before this friend was due to move.
I haven't told him not to play with this boy because he is moving, but have been encouraging DS to play with everyone a little bit more anyway for other reasons.